Heterosexual relationship culture is so alien to me and I don’t know if it’s the fact I’m not cishet or the fact I’m autistic but I hear so many things that make me go “Am I insane or are they?”
There’s a lot of hate on widowers and I saw a woman say “You cannot compete with a dead woman.” which is perhaps a reasonable statement to say if he’s constantly comparing you to his dead partner but that wasn’t what the post was about. And I realized “Oh my God, these people genuinely feel like they’re constantly in competition with their spouse’s exes and the ex being dead makes them feel insecure that they cannot best her.”
There’s also been an uptick in the ‘men and women cannot be ‘just’ friends’ rhetoric which I feel like is extremely dangerous and reflects the rise of fascism and sexism. Some of these stories of women feeling threatened by their husband’s female best friend have some merit and others are like “I feel angry that my husband still talks to the girl he grew up next door to and she and her wife are invited to family gatherings and included in family photos sometimes. Am I right to be suspicious?” No. No you’re not. I cannot imagine being you and living with that high level of stress and paranoia and constant torment and jealousy about your husband having a positive relationship with anyone who isn’t you.
okay look i know this isn’t relevant to this post past the second paragraph but. here’s the thing. the facts of the case are as follows:
1) I am widowed. my Beloved Wife of Blessed Memory™ died in 2019
2) I got together with my current partner about 18 months later
3) when I am committing acts of Foolishness my current partner loves to gesture at the sky to my dead wife, like “do you see this shit, my liege” and regularly says to me things like “[wife’s name] was right about this” when my Foolishness inevitably comes back to bite me in the ass
4) this happens. all the time
more importantly:
5) my current partner is on tumblr
6) they love to incessantly send me posts
WHICH MEANS:
7) they just sent me this post with this commentary:
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8) they really, really are ganging up on me with her. god help us if there’s an afterlife and those two ever actually meet. “eternal rest” my ass, i will never know peace again
bout to hit my bitch coworker with the ‘do you treat everyone like this or only your gay coworkers?’ because i know she’ll bluescreen about it. and im gonna make sure to do it when no one else is around just like she does to me with her snide bitch-ass comments. i’ve literally never pulled the gay card before, but i talk about my wife often enough that everyone knows. I’ve also got a reputation for being very level-headed, straight-forward, and conflict-adverse. No One Will Believe Her.
my plans are measured in centuries, you amateur cunt
people are asking for updates. what the hell. anyway instead of saying it directly to the coworker i went to a respected colleague who has worked at this establishment for decades and asked her if she thought bitch coworker’s behavior was targeted because i’m confused and wonder if she’s Just Like That With Everyone and respected colleague is now ready to go mama bear mode, as i am the same age as respected coworker’s daughter.
it might seem harsh but. she shouldn’t have been mean to me three times
UPDATE
All three of the mean girls bullying me at work got fired. don’t fuck with me.
“my plans are measured in centuries, you amateur cunt” what a line
if you ever find yourself thinking “wow I scraped the bottom of the barrel with my energy with that and came out okay!” that’s the devil talking. you did not come out okay. you borrowed energy from the future. you will repay it if you don’t rest and replenish the borrowed energy first.
this one took off quickly - are you guys ok
WIZARD PSA: Chronomancy might be weird and confusing, but one of the few solid rules of the discipline is keep your promises. Time is a library, and you don’t want to meet the librarian.
recently my friend’s comics professor told her that it’s acceptable to use gen AI for script-writing but not for art, since a machine can’t generate meaningful artistic work. meanwhile, my sister’s screenwriting professor said that they can use gen AI for concept art and visualization, but that it won’t be able to generate a script that’s any good. and at my job, it seems like each department says that AI can be useful in every field except the one that they know best.
It’s only ever the jobs we’re unfamiliar with that we assume can be replaced with automation. The more attuned we are with certain processes, crafts, and occupations, the more we realize that gen AI will never be able to provide a suitable replacement. The case for its existence relies on our ignorance of the work and skill required to do everything we don’t.
unless its egregious, i’m not embarrassed to be fooled by ai. “oh i got lied to via something made by the Lying Machine the machine we made to Lie really well” like it’s gonna happen it’s no egg on your face. just be chill about it
don’t get me wrong. it’s always devastating always humbling. no one wants to fall for the lying machine it just sounds bad. but you can’t dwell
existing right now it’s exhausting but it doesn’t mean you have to force yourself to constantly keep up with the news, especially when you want to rest. it is okay to take a break from the bleakness of it all and read a book, or go to bed, or watch a comedy movie instead of being constantly alert about tragedy in the world. it’s important to see the news and to know what’s going on but it is also important to rest a little so you feel a little more equipped to deal with these issues and to keep yourself from losing any hope for the future
i think a lot of people, myself included, have been really stuck in an “all or nothing” mentality when it comes to wearing a mask, where you get overwhelmed and upset that you’re not doing enough and this has made a lot of people not wear one at all because they might think “well what’s the point” or something—but i want to say like doing something is better than nothing, if you can. i really feel for teens and kids who can’t control their circumstances, those who can’t afford to buy masks and have no mask bloc near them, etc
but if you’re able at all to wear a mask when you’re sick and expand that outward slowly, like wearing a mask when you’re sick -> wearing one when going to the doctor’s office always -> when going to crowded venues like concerts/theaters/etc, this is how you can expand it to more casual things. like doing all of that and then masking when you’re at the grocery store, and/or on public transit. literally just whenever you find yourself having the means to is better than never at all.
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