I once watched a lecture about how for gay men, they had a higher chance of being gay the more older brothers they had. The lecturer had a theory that this was an evolutionary response for the mother’s sake. Since gay men had lower levels of aggression and score higher for interpersonal relationships, it was like a break for the mom to have one son stay with her and be her “helper”.

Cute theory, but sad when u think about how so many families in the future just ended up shunning their intended helper 😭

i hate how gay men’s existence in academia and pseudo science is always supposed to rely or be a response to others need if its not heterosexual people, its women…

We’re not helpers, we’re not here to make anybody’s life easier and to put that responsibility onto us even before we’re born is so unfair, manipulative and dehumanizing we are not tools and you are not victims.

Yall sound like those mothers in certain regions of mexico who force their gay sons to transition to have lived in maids cus they aren’t allowed to marry or work so they live and take care of their family while they celebrate old men cat calling their teenage sons. Or those boy moms that over project and are inappropriate with their sons.

Yall always wax poetic about women not feeling safe with men well gay men can’t feel safe with neither men nor women out there cus many people just like you can’t see gay men as independent human beings rather than tools or helpers. We are not your sidekick.

Even your complaint at the end is about what the family missed on rather than the kid being shunned and thrown out.

Thank you for saying that bc when I saw this post this morning all I had time to do was roll my eyes and move on

Ofc because thats the best thing we have to do for ourselves with the amount of casual bigotry and vitriol thrown at us on a daily basis just on this silly website on top of our daily life and responsibilities and the uncontrollable things that may occur and add onto it

this is fucking crazy how this train of thought is so common, drives me crazy fr

Can’t theorize fairly without common sense or genuine respect for the people you theorize about, we’re not concepts we are people.

thimbie is sick

Well im sicker

The Times of Harvey Milk, 1984 (dir. Rob Epstein)

IDGAF about surrogacy to be entirely honest (unless its human trafficked or exploited third world/poor people) but if someone is dumb enough to get pregnant its not my problem. idc that woman is an adult who can make her own damn decision and everyone only started crying about it when wealthy gay men did it and for some reason the public perception now is gay men are like cartoon villains who want to steal children. Wombyn only breed for Pvre and Demvre reasons right? *ignores the fact single and married mothers let moids touch their kids for access to dihh today every day for all of human history*

Cus most raddies are hets and het women know they don’t have much to attract some of their men if they can’t carry anything but more importantly cus they’re megalomaniac hubristic self important weirdos who think pregnancy make them the closest thing to god cus ‘ they make life’ when its not a solo show and most pregnancies are akin to going thru rehab than just magically shitting kids out they cooter.

Need to start participating in my life

in so many situations i shouldve just acted fucking worse idc

I forgot the easiest demographic to ragebaited is skinny people who have nothing else really going for them so they get mad as fuck when they don't get rewarded and praised for it