I am once again vexed by what the bullet journal has become, when there are people who could really find value in the simplistic organization method it was originally designed to be by someone with ADHD
I really think people need to accept the fact that their aesthetically markered and extravagantly washi taped notebooks are actually art journals or even scrapbooks or junk journals, not bullet journals as a tool to help stay organized
Yes And
If I (as someone with adhd) make my bujo into an art project, I hack my brain into actually using it to stay organized. Generally one catch-all bujo and one pocket sketchbook is my go to combination
when you grew up as a lonely uncool girl it will never stop haunting you by the way. you will meet a cool person at a bar or the train station or at a friend’s party and you can wear your most stylish outfit and striking eye makeup and you will swear that they can see through all of the facade and see the lonely terribly insecure teenage girl you used to be who desperately wanted to connect and you will swear that they know that there is like an insurmountable gap between you. this will happen forever
Not only is having intergenerational friendships literally not creepy, imho it’s actually essential. You NEED friends who are older to do things like help you when there’s a problem with your taxes, and give you job advice, and relationship advice, and especially if you are part of a marginalized group, and especially if you’re part of a marginalized group and don’t have contact with a ton of other members of it, you need older friends to show you that there IS a future for you, for people like you, and what it looks like, and the way it doesn’t even have to involve turning into your parents
conversely, you need friends who are younger to help introduce you to new ideas. You need friends who are younger to drag you out to try some adventure because they thought it looked cool. You need younger friends to help you fix problems, because they may have faced something similar in the past! You need younger friends to keep you up to date on slang so that you can embarrass your teenage family members by intentionally misusing it.
Cross-generational friendships are not some weird sin. My best friend is nineteen years older than I am - im closer in age to her children than I am to her. She’s still my best fucking friend.
having friends who are older than you helps inoculate you against ageism towards older people.
having friends who are younger than you helps inoculate you against ageism towards younger people.
you need to be able to see people of all ages as people you live in a community with, people who are similar to how you once were or will be, people you can learn from and people you can teach.
McGonagall is strict about seating charts. She separates James and Peter because they distract each other. She separates the Prewett twins because they cause explosions.
But she never separates Sirius and Remus.
One day, a substitute professor takes over Transfiguration and immediately moves Sirius to the front and Remus to the back to stop them from whispering.
The lesson is a disaster. Remus, usually top of the class, can’t get his teapot to sprout legs. Sirius, usually a natural, ends up shattering three teacups in frustration. The air in the room feels heavy, static, and discordant.
When McGonagall returns, the substitute complains about their lack of focus. McGonagall just sighs and moves them back to their shared desk.
Immediately, the static clears. Remus casts a non-verbal spell perfectly. Sirius leans back, relaxed, his magic settling instantly.
“It’s called Magical Resonance,” McGonagall explains to the confused substitute, watching them bicker over a quill. “Mr. Black’s magic is volatile and chaotic. Mr. Lupin’s is controlled but often suppressed. When they are within three feet of each other, they create a perfect circuit. They don’t just work better together, they literally balance each other’s magical cores. Separating them is like trying to split an atom. It just causes a mess.”
if you can’t fix it you’ve got to stand it being the last line of the brokeback mountain novella is so crazy it makes me feel like my guts are falling out. if you can’t fix it you’ve got to stand it. jesus fucking christ
“Of course we’re in love, that’s why i tried to shoot you” “if you really loved me you wouldn’t have missed” is such a raw ass line you would think it comes from Goncharov (1973) and you would be right
