So, the thing that I can relate to is being in love with somebody that is too afraid to show the world who they are.
Aubrey Plaza as Riley Bennett in Happiest Season (2020) dir. Clea Duvall
Anonymous asked:
Gotta agree with you on Vissy. They treated a seriously messed up relationship (that has potential for an interesting story) into a *aww cute wholesome wlw*. Nothing wrong with wholesome (or exploring "problematic" subjects for that matter), but they can't act like a relationship based on cheating and lies is healthy lmao. Vissy seemed cute at first glance. But the more I thought about it, the more unfortunate implications would arise
rappaccini answered:
yeah like… you cannot write a perfect relationship. it is impossible. because perfect relationships do not fucking exist. every single relationship is problematic. because every single relationship is comprised of people, and people have flaws, and when those flaws bump up against each other, they cause friction.
and in making your relationship as perfect as possible, what you’re really doing is not accounting for the flaws you will be creating by mistake, and denying them any opportunity to be conclusively resolved. which means your characters will have learned nothing, and will repeat that shit in the future.
so that means that in the future, to their future partners, vanya’s going to be just as jealous and deceitful and just as accepting of subpar support, and sissy’s going to be just as possessive and just as uninterested in helping her partners. they learned nothing. not to mention that vanya’s abandonment complex is probably worse now that she watched her girlfriend dump her and book it literally because she couldn’t stand who she actually is.
and it’s… especially condescending, with vissy, because the ship was literally designed as a ‘see! we gave you a sapphic ship! say nice things about us on social media! aren’t we so progressive!’ ploy that people ate up.
and it would’ve been much better representation if the show had treated them like people and let them handle their problems instead of cooing about how good and wholesome and pure these sweet little sapphics ~who can’t possibly do any wrong~ are.
queer people are people. and people have flaws that affect their lives and relationships. so queer people should have flaws that affect their lives and relationships. and acting like we don’t is not helping. you may think you’re being good and woke by doing it, but you’re not. because what you’re doing is putting us on a pedestal and fetishizing us, when all we need is to be treated like people.
The adultery aspect was a real turn off for me. As of S2 Vanya’s sexuality isn’t confirmed (whether bi, pan, lesbian etc), but she has been seen in a relationship with a man and a woman, and I’m a bit tired of tv shows and films putting bi characters into adultery plots. It feels like it’s feeding into the promiscuity stereotype and it just rubs me the wrong way. Especially as the show doesn’t really show Vanya as reluctant to start a relationship with a married woman, and Sissy treats it very casually at the start. I don’t know, maybe I’m just sensitive about it but it stopped me getting into the ship.
it's funny to me that in the original idea for pluribus vince gilligan intended for it to have a male protagonist but then he was like i really wanna work with rhea seehorn again so he made it about a lesbian instead. more writers should be doing this if you're considering writing a man stop what you're doing and make him a woman immediately
I need straight people to shut the fuck up about chappell roan. I'm tired. "She's not using her platform" she was raising money for gaza at concerts with her friendship bracelets. "She's using the queer community" bitch she's a lesbian drag queen she IS the community. "She's so entitled now" she literally just won a Grammy and used that speech advocating for living wages and healthcare for all artists. What the fuck are you doing? Other than tone policing people actually putting the work in?
important to state for the record that the British Supreme Court are idiots
they sound very scary when you describe them as The Supreme Court but remember, these are five dusty old cishets, one of whom is a weirdo who used to write homophobic documents for the Church of Scotland. I've seen so much commentary, even from pro-trans british journalists, about how the ruling is "forensic" and "balanced" and "rational" - no it isn't, it's clearly the work of people who don't know what they're talking about. You know how I know? They accidentally defined all bi women as lesbians. They said that the legal test for a lesbian is being an AFAB person attracted to another AFAB person, and at no point did anyone go, "Hang on a second, what about bi people?" Congratulations to terfs I guess, you were so excited to get rid of the T you got rid of the B!
This ruling is exactly what you'd expect from locking five old straight people in a room and asking them to set rules for queer life without speaking to any queer people. Their judgement is silly legal word games and it has no relation to real people's actual lives - if you wanna use lawyerspeak they've "undermined public confidence in the legal system." It's not even "the emperor has no clothes," it's "the emperor is naked and covered in shit."
i can kinda understand that politicians need to make a show of respect in their tone, like okay, probably a good thing that politicians don't get into the habit of publicly undermining judges. But any journalist who treats this ruling as remotely sensible is daft - only a straight person could make that kind of mistake
These judges are idiots - I use the word in the classical greek sense of someone who is not connected to and does not understand the life of the public, of the people. Their judgement is laughable and we don't have to respect them
painting this on the ceiling above my bed so it's the first thing i see upon waking in the morning and the last thing i see before falling asleep at night
