I'm rebranding without changing my url, shhhh. She/her. Anonymous secondary blog. I discuss social justice, intersectional feminism, LGBTQIA issues and media, racism, and life. Asian American, cis, bi woman. I used to blog about Christian queer stuff but now it'd be more from an ex perspective.
Yellowjackets, Hunting Wives, The Boyfriend, and Heated Rivalry, are my current shows.
[Image ID: Tweet from borkedsys (@/ borkedsys) reading: Not all violence screams. Some signs a budget. Some closes a clinic. Some lets poison seep into water. The unseen body count of systemic policy is real, because dying from poverty or neglect gets called “natural causes.” /End ID]
It’s like idk man, I still wash my paint brushes the way my art teacher taught me how a decade ago. I eat tortillas the same way as the ex I haven’t seen in years. You can fly to the other side of the world and the shop will play the song your dad played in the car when you were a kid and it still sounds exactly the same. My hair grows funny in one spot because I got a scar on my scalp when I was six.
Sometimes I reach for light switches that aren’t there, that have never been there, because I used to live someplace that had a light switch in that spot. And I think maybe life is about repeatedly reaching for light switches that aren’t there. In a few years you’ll be somewhere else, and you’ll reach for the light switches you have now.
Today I learned that Van Halen have that rider in their contract about “a bowl of M&Ms with all the brown ones removed” in order to know at a glance if the promoter read the entire contract. And the reason they do THAT is because they once had a stage collapse because a promoter hadn’t read the proper way to set up all the specific technical stuff.
So if the band goes in the dressing room or catering and sees brown M&Ms, they know they have to double-check the stage setup for safety.
I heard about this on Freakonomics Radio. Turns out the bit about no brown M&Ms is HUGE, in BIG font, bold, underlined and quotated like they’re on the Group W Bench.
The band was all, “We have fifty-pound lights hanging over our heads and fire being shot out of cannons. We had to know whether they read our safety regs so we didn’t flamebroil any roadies.”
interesting how this has become a meme in the music industry about divas. i’ve always heard jokes that amount to “this stuck up celebrity hates the green gummy bears!! they’re refusing to perform just for that???” and its reading stuff like this that i realise how that joke might have come about. people get grumpy that the band refuses to play but cant admit its because THEY’RE incompetent, so they make it all about the M&Ms. another example of artists using a creative method to ensure they have a perfectly reasonable request fulfilled that is then bastardised by lazy people who wanna make money off them.
…this is like the music industry version of hearing the truth behind the McDonalds hot coffee lawsuit
Everybody needs that one friend who’s better at piracy than you so you can ask for links to tv shows or perhaps movies and they just Have them. They’re like genies. This is a priceless gift when unfamiliar links scare you when you try to google Watch free online yourself. Very literally it does not have a price. You aren’t paying for it
God, I love tumblr, its the only place where we can get a philosophical analysis of why divorcees crumble and it was in the tags. Like if not for the screenshot, 90% of people would miss this wisdom
I also highly recommend mad men to anyone interested in a deeper analysis this. It’s all about of the promises of the white american dream and how it’s fundamentally a lie because the very things it promises are mutually exclusive with having real and meaningful emotional connection with the people in your life, thus rendering the promised happiness unattainable.
[ Begin ID: Two screenshots of tags by @/junequeer that together read “#its the removal of identity and rejection of their place in the world btw #american men are groomed (yes im using that word on purpose) to believe that it is their Duty and their Right to have a nuclear family #and to not achieve The American Nuclear Family is to not be a man. it is to be only a career man at best and fag at worst #and once they achieve that goal they aren’t taught and dont realize that they actually have to keep that shit #they think theyve Achieved The Goal. why would they have to maintain that? the box has been checked #no they dont parent and they neglect their wife and they cheat and they dont care bc they didnt particularly care about the family anyway #but divorce is the removal of their identity and stakes are pride in being The American Family Patriarch #suddenly the box they took for granted has been unchecked #and they no longer know who they are anymore or what their purpose is or how to proceed. bc the american dream doesnt have room for them #and thats why this mostly happens with men who havent really reckoned with the fact that the american dream doesnt actually have room #for anyone at all #so they get radicalized by groups who know that they are going through an identity death and they take advantage of the patriotism they have #and become even worse people. bc the bad people are telling them that they dont have to reckon with or process the emotions of the divorce #they tell them theyre justified in their anger and that they ARE still the American Family Patriarch. they ARE still everything they thought #they just have to beat those (insert group here) in order to get everything back. and those men fall for it bc bigotry is easier than #having to build their own identity from scratch bc the last one was borrowed from their father and refined by shame #esp since these men were never taught any kind of emotional intelligence or how to handle complex emotions and never cared to learn #anyway” / End ID ]
The great thing about having friends and acquaintances across a variety of professions is to really hammer home as much as possible the fact there is literally zero correlation between the amount someone actually works, the amount they contribute to society, and how much they make in a year.
not only do i think people should not have to specify that their non-monogamy is ethical, some of yall need to come to grips with the fact that ur monogomy is non-ethical
you’ve all gotta stop acting like “overweight” is a gentle PC alternative for the word fat and not itself an assertion of the ontological wrongness of being large. Over What Weight Precisely
ID: A screenshot of Tumblr tags reading: “fat isnt at all negative its direct and accurate fat people are fat because they have lots of fat overweight is literally directly judgemental deeply evil i get that fat is considered a harsh term but surely something like big or chubby would be more appropriate as an alternative than [caps] Overweigh [caps end]”
