One thing I've noticed recently is that people treat RSVPing for a party or event as a suggestion and not a commitment.

I had a little party today and literally half the people who had RSVPed yes just no-showed without saying anything.

It ended up being a delightful event with some of my favorite people and I had a really good time, but I can't help but feel a bit hurt by my friends who said they would come and just...didn't.

Even beyond my feelings, I had put a LOT of work into preparation, so there was way too much food.

If you say you're going to an event, especially a smaller one, at least tell the host if plans change. Like, no one is forcing you at gunpoint to go to a party, but it's super rude to just ghost your friends and usually significant work has gone into putting together the event.

Also like, part of the reason you RSVP is so the host knows how many people to accommodate for something (i.e how much food to get). By no-showing in advance you are making them waste money, cause they'll be spending it on thing that will go to waste b/c the person they were allotted to didn't show up.

Which is rude as hell.

And the reverse is also why you SHOULD say if you're coming and not show up randomly without warning, if they haven't planned for your attendance there won't be enough stuff for you(like food.

The wanting to know who's coming isn't just, because the want to know. They want to know so they can accommodate the right amount of people.