its so scary to put yourself out there but a SINGLE message saying "hi i loved what you made it touched me in some way" makes it all worth it 10000%

daily reminder that if you like something someone made tell! them! tell them tell them tell them TELL THEM

“but what if i’m being annoying :(“ everyone’s annoying dipshit it came free with fucking being alive and existing. now go talk to your friends

you’re a living breathing human being on this bitch of an earth and you have wants and needs and take up space and that’s literally fine. if your friends don’t get that you need better friends. there i’ve solved it

My resolution last year was to do one thing before bed that would make my morning feel easier, and that’s become a daily habit that I’m carrying into this new year.

Some nights even filling up the kettle and setting an empty mug out for my morning tea felt hard. But I was always thankful for it in the morning.

Other nights, one thing would lead to another, and I’d wake up in a clean house with everything ready to go.

And, on a rare few nights, the one thing that I could do to make my morning easier was going straight to bed and allowing myself to rest.

What stayed the same each day is that I would take a moment to think of what I could do for my future self and do it, even after a hard day. And I would wake up knowing that I had done my best and any effort—no matter how small—was a kindness to myself.

I’ve been doing a lot of “a treat for future me” moments lately.

That’s a great way to look at it, and I love this artist! (Anna-Laura: instagram / website)

hey, do you mind if i immensly value our relationship, in a way i'll never properly be able to fully verbally communicate

embarrassing myself

btw, if you're looking for a resolution and you feel like you're living in a mess, I can recommend from experience "clean one thing a day" and/or "throw away one thing a day"

the key is to make the minimum be really anything - throwing away a wrapper off your desk, cleaning a single plate so you have something to make your dinner off of, doing laundry - so that you start to get a sense of accomplishment out of doing the cleaning.

and once cleaning starts being something you can microdose dopamine from, you're unstoppable

the goal of this resolution btw is not to come out of the year with a spotless house. you might get there, but realistically you won't, and that's okay.

the purpose of this resolution is rewiring your brain to teach it cleaning isn't scary. That it doesn't have to be a daunting, all at once thing. That it can just be part of your routine.

It's breaking the connection between cleaning and shame.

A couple dishes sitting in your room becomes a solvable problem instead of a reminder of your shortcomings. The trash in your back seat vanishes a handful at a time over a few weeks. Little acts of cleaning become opportunities to feel like you've done something. Let yourself bask in that feeling of accomplishment, get used to it, and seek it back out.

in this new year I want you to be alright. I hope you move out. I hope you have enough money to feel safe. I hope you abandon shame and forgive yourself. I hope you get enough sleep and some good news. I hope you laugh a lot and the heaviness of the world eases a bit. I wish you to be alright.

revealing your scaring the hoes type interests early on in a relationship is a good way to secure only hoes of bravery and fortitude that will craft horrible dreams and beautiful nightmares with you

May you find someone who thinks your dorky ass is endearing.

someone please help me find that quote about how someone was overwhelmed with the weight of the world and their problems when they were physically alone, but that weight felt like nothing in the presence of a friend and good conversation

is it this one?

YES!!! THANK YOU!!!

i CANNOT express how much more lovable my friends are to me at their most annoying. i'd rather hear the same story 3 times than not at all. i'd rather read a 22 message text rant about something totally inconsequential than not hear from you all day. i'd rather you tag me in the stupidest post i've ever seen than not know that it made you think of a conversation we had a month ago. BE ANNOYING AT ME. I LOVE YOU

I think the purest form of love is just wanting someone to notice life with you. "taste this. look at that. hear this song." again and again. until you can't imagine noticing life without them.

hi, a lot of you need a perspective reset

• the average human lifespan globally is 70+ years
• taking the threshold of adulthood as 18, you are likely to spend at least 52 years as a fully grown adult
• at the age of 30 you have lived less than one quarter of your adult life (12/52 years)
• 'middle age' is typically considered to be between 45-65
• it is extremely common to switch careers, start new relationships, emigrate, go to college for the first or second time, or make other life-changing decisions in middle age
• it's wild that I even have to spell it out, but older adults (60+) still have social lives and hobbies and interests.
• you can still date when you get old. you can still fuck. you can still learn new skills, be fashionable, be competitive. you can still gossip, you can still travel, you can still read. you can still transition. you can still come out.
• young doesn't mean peaked. you're inexperienced in your 20s! you're still learning and practicing! you're developing social skills and muscle memory that will last decades!
• there are a million things to do in the world, and they don't vanish overnight because an imaginary number gets too big

it is an incredibly joyous thing to look around at your friends as you're heading into your 40s and everyone is so much more themselves than they were when you were all scared and fragile 20-somethings. we're different genders now, we've gotten out of bad relationships and into good ones, we worked shit jobs and got better ones, we all cook a lot better and we eat better too, we casually pull off the kind of art we could only dream of as kids, we've figured out who we are and we do it on purpose now. the self-harm scars have all faded away and we complain about our bad backs and picky digestions instead.

we still lose at trivia real bad.