NEVER KILL YOURSELF . SOMETHING LESBIAN MIGHT HAPPEN TO YOU SOON .
the traction this post received is insane …… ANYWAY MY AFFIRMATION FOR 2026 . GOOD LESBIAN THINGS WILL HAPPEN TO ME
NEVER KILL YOURSELF . SOMETHING LESBIAN MIGHT HAPPEN TO YOU SOON .
the traction this post received is insane …… ANYWAY MY AFFIRMATION FOR 2026 . GOOD LESBIAN THINGS WILL HAPPEN TO ME
People who aren’t panic buying and just need basic necessities
Anonymous asked:
Are you a Gold Star lesbian? (Just in case you don't know what it means, a Gold Star lesbian is a lesbian that has never had the sex with a guy and would never have any intentions of ever doing so)
fuckyeahasexual answered:
Why would you even go around asking people that? Literally stop that bullshit. Is it old school day in the ask box? Seriously leave lesbians alone. All lesbians get a five star review for me. Whatever their life was, what it is, is valid. The very idea that some lesbians are better or worse based on their life experiences is abhorrent.
I like… don’t even understand this copy pasta style ask. Like are you trying to bring back gold star lesbians as a badge of honor because you think you are better than other lesbians? Do you think I’m just going to joke and not educate at all? Or do you think I’m going to cling to bullshit standards that harm lesbians because some people want a hierarchy of lesbian validity?
Or have you been so removed from your own history and just like marinated in separatism that you literally don’t understand what you speak of? This is not acceptable behavior here, or anywhere in the community.
Looks like the TERFs are getting bored and trying to start shit again.
If you don’t want to look like a complete waste of oxygen and carbon, don’t buy into this gold star bullshit. I don’t know a single actual real life lesbian who believes in this crap. As far as I can tell, it’s spread by conservative radfems as a way to make baby lesbians feel special so they can recruit them and it usually starts when the biphobia is just around the corner. It’s a marketing tool for TERFs and trust me, you want no part of it.
If you're white, keep the term 'nonblack' out of your mouth. You do not have any right to make posts talking about 'nonblacks'. You have the right to talk about other white people who are acting cowardly during this time, but that's it. The term 'nonblack' should never leave your mouth in a negative way, it should always remain 'white'. No matter what your white savior complex may have you believe, you, as a white person, are still an oppressor of nonblack poc, and you, as a white person, have no right to try to group the suffering, dying people you oppress in with the people hurting them. By doing this you are being an instigator, talking over black people, and just being outright racist. It's not your place, it never will be. Sit down and actually help us, or be silent.
@lesbian-stims Genuinely serious question here. I’ve never used the term nonblack before, but I do sometimes use the term nonwhite, as in “The institution of the police force is fundamentally racist because of the way it treats people of colour and majority nonwhite communities” and similar sentiments. Is this wrong? If so I’ll stop immediately (stopping until I get some kind of feedback just in case) and if that’s the case what would be the best word or phrase to use instead? Again, genuinely serious question, not a troll or baiting of any kind.
Dystopian as in “All the Things She Said” is a song by Russian music duo t.A.T.u. from their first English-language studio album, 200 km/h in the Wrong Lane (2002).
Honestly, that’s a point the world was at in my lifetime. Teenage Russian Lesbian Awakenings On Global Radio.
Wtf is going on?
The Stonewall You Know Is a Myth. And That’s O.K. | NYT Celebrating Pride
Happy Pride! Know your history!
Stormie has both confirmed and denied that she was the first. The video, which includes historians, queer writers, and people who were actually there, all agree that
It doesn’t matter who threw the first brick
It only matters what came after. Even if Marsha didn’t throw the first brick, her contributions to the movement were incalculable. The riot at Stonewall didn’t matter so much as what came after.
Information is good, and correct information is the best, but I want to be clear about something.
THIS DOES NOT MEAN THERE WERE NO TRANS WOMEN INVOLVED IN THE STONEWALL RIOTS.
Every time I see this stuff coming up on my dash, it’s getting closer and closer to the point where some FART (that’s the non-slur version of T*RF since that’s apparently a slur now) is going to go “SEE YOU HAVE NO RIGHT TO BE AT PRIDE IT WAS A LESBIAN”. I’m just waiting for one of those evil ignorant little shits to go “UWU TRANS INVADERS HAVE BEEN TRYING TO APPROPRIATE STONEWALL WHEN REALLY IT WAS OURS ALL ALONG” and I am NOT going to put up with it. It’s gotten to the point where I’m actively expecting it.
No. Fuck you. That’s not REMOTELY what this is saying. That is not what ANY of these people are saying. Shut up. You are wrong.
Stormé DeLarverie was a bouncer at a club that was openly a space for anyone who didn’t hate LGBTQ+ people. It was NOT a safe space, it was constantly raided by police just because there were queer people there. She was willing to put her life on the line to protect all of them, INCLUDING trans people, and she did it for a living. She CHOSE to PROTECT TRANS PEOPLE at great risk to her OWN life. SHE CONTINUED BOUNCING UNTIL SHE WAS EIGHTY FUCKING FIVE YEARS OLD BECAUSE SHE BELIEVED IN PROTECTING PEOPLE THAT MUCH. SHE WAS NOT A TERF. SHE WAS NOT ONE OF YOU.
The Lipstick Lesbian Pride flag that so many of you are so attached to was NOT MADE FOR HER. It actively EXCLUDES her. She was a WOC and Butch and GNC and above all, above everything else, SHE CARED ABOUT PEOPLE WHO WERE DIFFERENT TO HER. She worked with trans women daily for 14 years. They adored her. She adored them. SHE WAS NOT A TERF.
And while I was looking into that I discovered that her Wikipedia page is already skewed. Despite other sources saying that she herself did NOT start the riot (hell, there’s a quote about how she didn’t even like calling it a riot) her page claims several times that she said she was the woman whose arrest SOME PEOPLE claim started it. Unsurprisingly, those sources are from AfterEllen.
Get it through your heads, you bigoted fucks - SHE WOULD HAVE HATED YOU AND YOUR IDEAS.
gettingsillywithit asked:
How can you use d*ke if you’re not a lesbian?
st-dionysus answered:
Because I am a part of the dyke community. I spend most of my time around other dykes. Butch Dykes, Femme Dykes, Bi Dykes, Transfem Dykes, Trans Masc Dykes, FTM Dykes, Dykes, Dykes, Dykes that’s what I am and who I love.
And it is a term that I reclaim. For some reason, Tumblr seems to be under the impression that only queer people belonging to certain groups can reclaim certain slurs, when that’s not how reclamation works at all. As a trans man, the slur people use most against me is “dyke”, it’s the word that has been shouted at me on the streets and when I was in school what people referred to me as, I was quite literally stripped of my clothes in middle school in the girl’s bathroom and the word “dyke” and “tranny” were sharpied across my body. When people want to misgender me as a trans man, guess what they call me? Dyke. When people assume I’m a lesbian, guess what they call me? Dyke. When people know I’m a trans man, guess what they call me? Dyke. Reclaiming that word means taking that power back and being able to say “Yes I am a dyke, that doesn’t mean I’m not a man, I contain multitudes beyond your monosexual binary perception of gender and sexuality.
Dyke is also an identity that many many trans men use, both currently and historically. It’s a way of clarifying that just because we are trans men that doesn’t mean our sexuality is the equivalent of that of a heterosexual cis male, and that our love of women is just as queer as it was when we were lesbians and/or part of the lesbian community and used that label to describe ourselves. We might no longer be lesbians but many of us reamin dykes.
I’d also like to point you to this post from an ask "if youre a trans man "lesbian” does that mean youre a straight trans man or? sorry, genuine question"
As well as this post, on the history of Butch and Dyke as terms used by trans men. (Please note that this is a very long post, but also a very important one that will likely answer many of your questions, also it has one of my favorite zine covers, which I’ve attached below)

The fact is, trans men are allowed to have complex relationships with our gender and sexuality and the terminology we personally use to label or define ourselves by. Queerness does not conform to “You must be x to be x” and “you have to choose this if you are this”, it’s an exhausting binary form of thinking that actively hurts many people in the queer community, especially those of whom are trans.
You’ll aslo want to note that MANY trans women and transfem folk ID as “Tranfags” or “fags” in general (many of my friends do in fact) Most people will agree that telling trans women they can’t refer to themselves as fags or reclaim that slur is a form of transmisogyny, since it polices trans women’s language and ignores that “fag” is one of the most frequent slurs used to attack them. So why is it that people don’t regonize the fact that it’s transandrophobic to police the langague that trans men use and ignore the fact that “dyke” is one of the most frequent slurs thrown at us?
(also, another fun fact is that many butch AFAB lesbians ID as “Faggot Dykes” since this is a term used to refer to some butch4butch couples ((as well as gay trans men who are t4t)), there is a very nice poem that talks about this, that I sadly can’t find right now.)
I hope this helps <3
I hope you don't mind me adding this -
I grew up as a queer kid on the internet. I knew other queer people in real life, but most were my age, and the handful of adults I knew were younger than 40, so I never had exposure to real life queer groups, and I never got to speak to any trans elders. The online discourse has been increasingly rigid and limiting when it comes to what group can use what words. I've seen the discourse go from "trans men cannot reclaim dyke, only queer women can" to "only lesbians can reclaim dyke." And similarly, I remember a time when any queer person could and did use faggot, and now I'm seeing it limited to gay men. There's this ongoing campaign to draw these neat little defining lines when it comes to identity, despite there being much overlapping, historically.
A few years ago I was looking something up and I happened to stumble upon an article written by a gay man in the early 2000s. I can't even recall what the article was about, just one line in particular standing out to me - the author referred to gay men as butch and femme. I was stunned. I'd never seen these terms applied to anyone besides lesbians. In fact, I'd seen discourse that outright stated lesbians were the only ones that could use it!
And the more you read queer history, or even read old pamphlets or articles or look at photographs, you'll notice that these people did not follow these rules we have today. Gay men referred to lesbians as dykes, with affection, in solidarity, and there was no malice to it. Bisexual lesbians were just a thing, and it was understood that these identities had overlaps, asexuals were as queer as anyone else, the list goes on. A lot of the queer discourse is modern. Much of the language we have used to be shared, and it's genuinely heartbreaking to see any one group try to claim language that once described the community as a whole for themselves alone. And I think it's important that younger queer people familiarize ourselves with queer history, because relying on online discourse exclusively is destroying the unity we once had.
The increasing specificity of microlabels correlates with this trend. I remember when “Gay Pride” became “Queer Pride” because it was acknowledged by the gay guys who were running it (in my nearest city) that it needed to be more inclusive and “Queer Rights” had been at the top of the protest docket for well over a decade at that point. No one flinched when someone used “Queer” for themselves or the community as a whole. When I was a teenager trying to figure myself out, I only knew of three possible identities. Either you were straight/heterosexual, gay/lesbian/homosexual, or bisexual (but no one really accepted bi as anything other than either “gay lite” if you were amab or “straight special snowflake” if you were afab) and those were all the options. I didn’t even know being trans was a thing! When I asked about those GORGEOUS women in the AMAZING wigs and dresses and MAKE UP who happened to be six and a half feet tall with large adam’s apples, I was just told they were “men who get off on wearing dresses stop staring you’ll encourage them”.
To be clear, I’m not saying “People who use microlabels are the problem” or “you shouldn’t use microlabels ever” or anything of the sort. Microlabels are the natural and expected progression of people being more comfortable talking about their experiences. They’re a way for queer people to find people who share the most similar experiences. I’m aroace and trying to figure out my gender right now, and I NEVER felt like part of the Queer Community until I found those labels despite the fact that I was at my first pride parade at 14 (and loved EVERYTHING about it) and 90% of my friends were always queer and I had as many girlfriends as I had boyfriends and the only people I ever wanted to look like were those “men” in dresses and I identified as bisexual for 20 years. When I found the labels that made me go HOLY FUCK THAT’S NOT JUST ME???? I finally started to feel like I had found a community where I belonged for my own sake. Microlabels are awesome actually and a sign that we’ve progressed. If you didn’t start to develop memories in at least the early 90s I think you would struggle to understand just how big the difference is. I mean you can read about it and accept it but I don’t think it CAN hit the same way.
The problem just showed up alongside the microlabels, so they get blamed. The ACTUAL problem within the community is gatekeeping. It’s the people who can’t understand why the flag for the entire community is a rainbow. It’s this ridiculous attitude that there’s some big hierarchy with some King Dyke and Queen Fag who are categorical arbiters of what qualifies as Queer Enough and that you can somehow get in good with them by stepping on baby queers until they notice how good you are at keeping The Acronym™ Pure and Clean.
Those people and that hierarchy simply don’t exist. Queer means “not the way society expected us to be” and it is a HUGE umbrella that covers so many different people, far too many to be covered by the limited language we had back when we were just fighting to exist at all. The fight for acceptance just as we are has been going on for generations and this battle to police what language we use is a tool of the enemy. Making new words to describe our experiences is one of the victories we have been fighting for and the only people who have a problem with it are the people who think we shouldn’t be allowed to be ourselves. People who tell you you’re not queer enough because you don’t experience queerness exactly the same way they do have missed the entire point, as have people who think you can only be queer if you fit into one of the categories society made for us 40, 60, 100 years of fighting ago.
They’re not new either - Aunty Sugar tells us stories all the time about how the Political Lesbians (who she hated because “most of them weren’t lesbians at all, they were just man-haters who thought all dykes were idiots who would listen to them because they had tits”) would regularly cause problems in her community in the 70s and 80s whenever gay men were included in anything, even if they were organizing it themselves. We looked up one of the women she was particularly rabid about and, surprising absolutely no one, that woman is now a very vocal and politically active TERF and married a pastor who (until recently) ran conversion camps.
The intention of these self appointed Language Police is to STOP us from building a community. They want us to focus on our differences instead of the thing we have in common - that we do not love the way society tells us we’re supposed to, if we even love at all - so that we CAN’T connect. They WANT us to stay miserable and alone and they think our suicides would be a better option than society shifting to include us just as we are.
They are wrong. Stop listening to them.
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lot of terfs have been reblogging this so I may as well publicly state that the woman on the right is modeled with permission after my transfemme friend. if you relate to it as strongly as many of you claim in the tags I urge you to reflect upon that with empathy and compassion about the depth of experiences you truly do share with trans women.
otherwise fuck off I guess. my art is not fuel for your hatred.
I was looking up a comedian because I’m paranoid about comedians now and I wanted to make sure I wasn’t going to get any surprise transphobia if I watched her show.
I found something disturbing.
“Nothing outright terfy so far, but she has all the hallmarks - bigger woman, GNC lesbian, and an Australian accent…”
I’m sorry. When did the definition of Trans Exclusionary Radical Feminist become “fat butch Aussies”? I missed that memo.
Children, listen to me. WE ARE NOT DOING THIS. Terf has a very clear definition. It’s an acronym that THEY CHOSE to define themselves, and the definition is right there in it.
Being fat DOES NOT MAKE SOMEONE A TERF.
Being butch DOES NOT MAKE SOMEONE A TERF.
Having a nationality, you guessed it, DOES NOT MAKE SOMEONE A TERF.
You not liking someone DOES NOT IN ANY WAY MAKE THEM A TERF.
What makes someone a terf is BEING TRANSPHOBIC AND A RADFEM. That is ALL.
WE ARE NOT EACH OTHER’S OPPRESSORS. STOP BUYING THEIR BULLSHIT. JUST STOP. THIS IS NOT HIGHSCHOOL.