Because scientists have studied it and they’ve found insufficient evidence to prove that it’s real. It’s really quite simple.
There are literally scientists who went into these studies genuinely believing in porn addiction who were eager to study it and its effects who came out no longer believing in it. Why? Because they’re good scientists who changed their minds in the face of new evidence.
The key point in studies like this is that they always expect porn-related problems to go up as porn use goes up, and you would expect that because that’s how every addiction works from gambling to cigarettes to alcohol to crack cocaine, but what they actually find is that the people with the most distress over their porn use is actually related to how religious they are, not how much porn they’re watching. This is significant, because it means people who identify as “porn addicts” are not actually watching more porn than the average person; They just feel worse about it because they think they shouldn’t be watching it AT ALL.
I really can’t stress this point enough; Are there people whose lives are badly impacted by watching 22 hours of porn a day? Sure, they do exist and they have my sympathy, but the majority of cases of “porn addiction” are completely religiously motivated and have nothing to do with how much porn people are actually watching.
The key takeaway here is that shaming people for their sexuality is harmful. It’s bad for people’s mental health to make them feel shame over something they have no control over, like how horny they can get. It’s wrong to force people to suppress their emotions and make them feel guilty for not harming anyone. As Drew of Genetically Modified Skeptic once said; You can’t shame someone out of feeling horny any more than you can shame someone out of feeling hungry.
Christianity often does this as a form of control by selling you the sickness and the cure; We are created sick and commanded to be well.
I feel like I’m the last person alive writing in Word, but wanted to share this because it might save someone some heartache.
I am used to Word autosaving relentlessly; for the last few years it didn’t really even have a “File>Save” command that I could see–it just autosaved like every five seconds or something. It took me a long time to get used not clicking File>Save at the end of every writing session, and I never really trusted it–with good reason, it turns out.
Apparently, when you turn off Word’s new ai features, AutoSave is disabled and cannot be turned back on. There is toggle button in the upper left for it, but when I try to toggle it on, it says “Autosave is not available because of your privacy settings.” I worked in my document yesterday, put my computer to sleep with the doc still open on the taskbar (my usual habit), and when I opened it today, the new work I did yesterday was gone.
This time I only lost about 300 words, which I had typed into my document from my longhand-writing in a notebook (so I guess I kind of autosaved them that way!), but if I’d really been on a roll, this could have been a disaster.
Be careful out there. Everything is terrible!
Yeah, they’re baking it into essential compontents now so we’ll stop turning it off. Noticed that in several programs. FFS I hate all of these tech bros.
thank you ao3 for being an archive and not an algorithm. thank you for letting me like things without consequences, thank you for being free with no ads, thank you for having lawyers to defend our freedom of speech. thank you tag wranglers. thank you to all authors and thank you ao3
I think I am officially Fandom Old. I am so worn out from the arguments on who’s the top or the bottom (who cares), what is allowed to be written (anything you want, bejeebus), what is Problematic (I know, just tag it), what other people Should Do (they Should live their lives free of judgment). There isn’t a Right Way to do things. Tag your stuff appropriately, don’t read stuff you don’t want to read, and leave other people (me) alone.
There is nothing quite like the freedom of having gone through all of the Discourse and come out the other side into the promised land of Not Giving A Fuck.
The three keys to the promised land are “Block, Unfollow, and Do Not Engage”
I identify the most with the woman who has a green velvet ribbon around her neck and keeps being like “DONT untie my neck ribbon or something really bad will happen” and then her husband unties the ribbon and her head falls off. this is extremely real to me. spent my whole life like “please don’t do this thing to me or really bad stuff will happen” and everyone around me being like “that sounds fake” and doing it anyway. and then my head fell off!
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