slow burn mutual pining but the burn is emotional and the fic is pwp. they smut it up while both wanting more and thinking the other one wants to be friends with benefits. having only this much of them is torture but not having them at all would be worse. each of them dreads the day their lover falls in love with someone else. both of them are so surprised to learn they've both been in love with the other the whole time

congratulations to pining while fucking and all of the other additional tags that have just been canonized* by the tag wrangling team 🎉

*canonized means that these tags are now auto-completing in searches and forms and that you can filter for them (or filter them out) when browsing the Archive

I fully understand this isn’t everyone, but love the sect of m/m shippers who don’t want to be inserted into the relationship at all. dont want to fuck them, don’t want x/reader. this isn’t about me it’s about my boys being in situations and then fucking about it. I’m barely a fly on the wall im not even here.

"i want old fandom back :(" y'all can't even handle people shipping fictional characters with a 2 year age gap, what makes you think you'll be able to handle all the stuff old fandom came with?

i think we should bring this back (with some amendments ofc) if we ever needed an "internet etiquette" for the younger generations, now is the moment to remind them. purity culture kills fandom

as well as the three laws of fandom:

Don't Like, Don't Read (DL;DR), Your Kink is not My Kink And That's OK (YKINMKATO) and Ship and Let Ship

📣 Purity culture kills fandom! 📣

NO ONE LIVING hasn't been squicked out by something. There's over 7 billion of us, my delights and disgusts aren't universal. So I move on. Don't like the ship? Move on. Don't like____? Move on.

I am not an exception. Neither are you. I don't like it I move on and shut my gob about it because everyone everywhere is squicked out by something and they need to put the thing down and just…motor.

This but also:

Frames this entire post and hangs it over the fireplace.

Credit: tinawithana on TikTok.

Basically this is the same message as the previous video I shared by this creator. But it’s just an older TikTok. Like they have mentioned, it seems like this argument keeps cycling around every few months. It’s not hard to understand. If you don’t support and encourage writers, then they’re going to give up and quit writing. Simple as that. The community side of fanfic and AO3 has died off. Writers are leaving. AI writing, puritans and the “fandom police” are taking over. Please, just support those of us that are left.

I think I might be about to send a deranged email

Couldn't find an email address so it was instead a deranged form submission

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that's... not how it works. you can't guarantee that your work definitely won't squick anyone. what do you think you're saying?

"squick free" someone writes on their wholesome family fic about married characters expecting a baby.

I read it and am extremely squicked.

You do not know what squicks other people. "Squick" is not a category of elements, it is a description of a reaction.

Squick is literally a personal thing, you literally cannot know what squicks another person.

Same goes for triggers, by the way. You can't guarantee something is trigger-free because literally anything can be a trigger because the human brain can be weird like that sometimes.

No no, actually there's a perfect way to write an absolutely squick free fanfic! Plenty of writers do it successfully every day!

Here.

Blank documents squick me out because they remind me of all my unstarted writing projects. :/

guys. c'mon.

oh my goddd

Okay, for anyone ACTUALLY unsure and wanting to learn: "squick" is an old fandom term. It means something that grosses you out or makes you deeply uncomfortable, but doesn't give you as intense negative reactions as a trigger. They are incredibly personal, though often times, just like with triggers, you can tag relatively common squicks.

For me, mpreg is a squick. It makes me deeply uncomfortable, but it doesn't send me into a panic spiral, a deep depression, or make me angry like reading about eye trauma does.

My cousins in Lannister, ‘squick’ didn’t even originate in fandom.

Also useful to note that ‘squick’ is specifically used to mean “this isn’t for me, personally” without adding a moral judgement to it. A simple easy way to say ‘no, thank you but you do you’. Unlike ‘cringe’ which has negative connotations. Squicks are also more than just uncomfortable.

Daddy kink makes me uncomfortable

Degradation squicks me out

Hand trauma is a trigger

First known usage of "squick" was in 1991. It's not some new term that was made up for this post.

It's a portmanteau of Squeamish and Ick.

Modern parlance would translate it as "A thing that gives me the ick"

Hope this helps, kids ignorant of and derisive towards fandom history.

'Squick' is the word we need to be bringing back for all the people who have misappropriated the term trigger, because they do not know that words mean things, and that those meanings are very important to keep distinct.

are we far enough out of the 2010s that I can say that a lot of what was getting framed as intentional queerbaiting in the big Tumblr Popular shows was definitely just writers making homophobic jokes bc they thought the idea of a character being gay was funny rather than any attempted implication that a character might be gay

HOW ARE YALL STILL FALLING FOR IT

Reblogging with prev's tags

When people ask me why I ship them

Yknow what I LOVE about the Star Trek fandom? It’s ANCIENT. I had a talk with a nice old lady at the old persons home that my great grandma is in and she noticed my Spock shirt and was like “oh I love that show I thought the premise was lovely” and you all know THE PREMISE is trekspeak for spirk and I was like “do you accept the premise because I do” and she looked at me with the eyes of someone who is reliving their otp moments and she said “the premise is all I wrote about, dear” and we just talked about spirk for a hella long time and I just love how age doesn’t matter in this fandom you can be ninety and still be the biggest spirk bitch ever how rad is that

I was today years old when I learned that particular euphemism

I was also today years old. Fandom codes man

Reblogging to spread knowledge about the Premise, because I absolutely love that bit of fandom, and I want to make sure that it survives. (and yay to everyone who is part of today’s 10,000!)

This post is in the Fanlore Article

picking up my favorite characters like this and carrying them around with me

Ive come up with the phrase "blorbo-in-law" which is a fictional character who isn't, like, YOUR blorbo from YOUR shows but it is your mutual's blorbo who you nevertheless have developed strong opinions about due to long term dash exposure

if your mutual is insane enough blorbo-in-laws can become blorbos (source: siffrin)

I like this. Let me also offer up: "step-blorbo" which is a fictional character that IS from YOUR show, but is not YOUR blorbo; it is your mutual's blorbo who you have opinions about and sometimes reblog just for them.

the way fandoms are desperate to make all aroace characters romance and sex favorable but then dont do anything remotely similar to any other identity is astounding. hmm i wonder why

PLEASE dont derail this about shipping characters of other identities please let this one post be about an aroace struggle