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    I want progress in the NHL as much as anybody else and I want queer players to feel safe, so I hope that Heated Rivalry can be a catalyst for a shift in hockey culture. I really, really do.

    But we can’t let this blind us to the fact that Gary Bettman is a member of Trump’s council of sports. Their goal is to prevent trans women from participating in women’s sports at all levels. Gary Bettman also tried to ban the use of pride tape and wearing pride jerseys during warm up. It was only reversed when players chose to do it anyway, risking fines.

    Needless to say, I don’t care if Bettman liked Heated Rivalry as long as he continues to be involved with a government that is actively hostile to not only trans people, but all queer people. I don’t give a shit if those two fictional gay hockey players were interesting enough that he binged the show as long as Bettman refuses to take meaningful steps to make the NHL safer for real queer people.

  • reminder that you cannot call people or things "retarded" around me. we will have a conversation where I explain that I can still tell you the names of 62 people for which I was legally responsible. I will tell you that I loved them

    and you will feel like you were being an asshole and wonder why you don't just stop saying it altogether. me too.

  • if we're friends, you can call me a faggot. there can be a lot of tenderness in that. I got beat up and bullied and just generally treated like a detestable freak by people who called me that word while they did it. hearing it spoken by a loved voice, with clear affection, can be beautiful. it can feel like understanding, forgiveness, absolution, permission, and a thousand other wonderful things. it can be beautiful.

    I got called retarded too, but we don't share any special insight into that. it's just a word to us. pick a different one.

  • a lady with a developmental disability once explained to me that she'd overheard some kids calling each other retarded in the mall we'd visited earlier that day. searching for something to say that might comfort her, I explained that they don't know anything about people like her and so they weren't really talking about her, just being ignorant.

    she got angry and said "then they need to pick a different word". and so you need to pick a different word.

    don't think this is exclusive to public spaces like the mall or the park or whatever either. she has a tablet and access to the internet, just the same as you do. she can read, write, and make her own decisions. she has a husband.

    you don't know anything about her, you need to stop talking about her. pick a different word.

  • If you see the quote "I refuse to share my body with a man who wouldn't defend it politically" or any variation of it floating around the internet — it was Kat Blaque who originally said it and she would really appreciate it if people gave her proper credit for it but it's gone viral on a lot of different platforms and most of the people sharing it don't know it's from her or choose not to credit her on purpose.

  • Like I just know terfs are going to be parroting it pretending it wasn't said by a black trans woman about herself & her life.

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