I got a question about it over on AO3, but I want it to be known that if you want to do fanart of my writing, I will literally cry and love you forever.
Seriously, I will dedicate a chapter to you. I’ll shout my happiness from the rooftops. Absolutely lose my mind.
recently came across some plates and bowls that would be perfect for a children's hospital
How to see whether a Chinese handmade teapot is well done or not - quality of the spout is an important standard.
cr: 承启 建水紫陶
that last teapot is like witnessing an eternal and important truth
I just watched this with the sound on and i really recommend it because the utter silence of the last teapot is both perfectly predictable and totally remarkable.
I often refer to my bottle-raised lamb as my adopted daughter, because it’s mostly true, it temporarily keeps nosy strangers from knowing I’m an eeeevil childfree woman, and it’s hilarious when people find out. And by that time they’re usually too disturbed by the “her-daughter-is-a-sheep” thing to get on my case about the “woman-with-no-husband-or-kids-oh-the-horror” thing.
Most of my friends are aware that I do this, and will back me up in conversations without batting an eye when I reference my daughter. And the best part is that they literally never drop the story. They just 100% all the time accept that I have a two-year-old adopted daughter. The fact that she happens to be a sheep is an unimportant detail, not worth mentioning until an anecdote gets too weird to plausibly be about a human toddler.
Which actually takes much longer than you’d think, since human toddlers apparently have absolutely zero sense. “She bites if you stop paying attention to her” is believable, “she tries to eat rocks out of the landscaping” is believable, “she stuck her head through a fence and couldn’t get out” is believable. “She jumped a five foot fence and came screaming back into the house through the dog door when I left her outside in the pasture” does get some strange looks, though usually not for the right reason.
Occasionally the joke gets turned around on me, though. I posted a picture on my not-tumblr blog of her wearing my glasses, and every comment was “Oh my gosh she looks just like you!!!” “I would never have known she was adopted If you hadn’t told me!!” “Are you sure that’s not an old picture of you?!”
So apparently this is what I look like:
At least she does look cute in glasses.
[ID: a close-up photo of a brown sheep, stylishly sporting a pair of glasses. End ID]
y'know what? the stained glass window designers had the right idea, we need more angels with kaleidoscope wings.
I take issue with how many people conflate being rude with being more "honest" "sincere" and "real", while the same people will often conflate being nice and polite with being "fake" "insincere" "two faced", and even though this line of thinking has always existed, I think it's gotten worse in the last decade or so.
Don't get me wrong, brown-nosers and people who try to use a veneer of "kindness" as a manipulation tactic are very, very real. And they give kindness and good manners a bad name.
But I take issue with the idea that in order to be sincere and honest with someone you have to be rude and inconsiderate. It's a very childish view on human interaction and human relationships IMHO. You can be honest and sincere with someone while being considerate of them and their feelings as a fellow human being.
I also think it's incorrect to conflate kindness and good manners with being fake and insincere because, at least the people I've met who are fake and insincere people (brown nosers and manipulators if you need a more concise definition of what I mean by fake and insincere people) yes they can be good at making first impressions. They can come across as quite nice, at first. But if you spend any amount of time around them and actually pay attention, they are actually rude as hell. And it will always show at some point.
It's also asking yourself "does it need to be said this bluntly and/or aggressively and/or emotionally? Or can I find a way to say it that's not going to unnecessarily make the other person feel bad? Or make them feel attacked and put themselves on the defense?"
Is your least-controlled, knee-jerk self the real you? When you’re hangry and say something mean to a loved one, is that your unvarnished true self, because you’re without the false comfort of food and are too “authentically” you to treat someone you love with kindness?
It’s rather telling if people’s rudest, cruellest self is the one they identify as their “real” self.
1. Does this need to be said?
2. Does this need to be said *now*?
3. Does this need to be said *by me*?
4. If the answer to all three is yes, say it *kindly.*
It is still wild to me that I legitimately have to research in a bikini in order to effectively collect data.
And the reason being is that people (of all genders equally) perceive me as a threat otherwise.
Like
Threat vs not a threat
People have said before that they are concerned I’m gonna get them in trouble, but I think the real reason folks get mean is that tourists effectively enter a liminal space when they go on vacations (especially American tourists on tropical vacations) and they don’t want anything to pull them out of that mindset.
So when I show up with a clipboard and wanting to talk while wearing an outfit that clearly says “I’m working, but not in any sort of position that exists in your vacation fantasy,” that pulls them out of the fantasy and they react negatively.
Meanwhile, if I’m dressed the same way everyone else is, even if I have a clipboard and want to talk about the same thing, I automatically become a wacky NPC who is part of the fantasy.
I no longer hear “It’s really weird that you’re just out here watching people” but instead “You get to lay on the beach all day and call it “work?” Hell yeah! Living the dream!”
Yes I study raccoons. The critically endangered pygmy raccoons like to live at beach clubs. My current study is looking at interactions between tourists and/or tourism industry staff and the raccoons.
Surely this is just environmental camouflage that let's you get closer to your subjects?
It's just as valid as when wildlife photographers cover themselves in netting with twigs and leaves attached or hide inside a fake rock right?
Yeah, this is Mama, a full grown pygmy raccoon. They are a completely separate species than common raccoons. Their scientific name is Procyon pygmaeus and they are a critically endangered species. There are only around 120 left in the world and they are only found in the island of Cozumel in Mexico. I, tumblr user raccoonmilf and the creator of Dashcon, am the only United States citizen legally allowed to research them. I am currently studying how pygmy raccoons are impacted by direct human activity within the tourism industry.
I love that, like. He KNOWS the audience want to clap and so he's using them as an extra instrument. He turns around and goes hey, stop, and hopes they understand conductor gestures and it works, and then he has clapping he can use when he wants
I can clearly remember the moment I first realised my mother and I were living on completely different planes of existence. I was 7 years old and I came home from my school's first track and field day having placed second or third in every event. the teachers had been making jokes all afternoon about how many times they had to call my name. my friends thought I was cool as shit. my enemies thought I was cool as shit too, come to think of it. I was proud as hell. so I get home with the entire front of my shirt covered in ribbons like I was a military dictator who'd awarded himself every medal, I walk into the kitchen and tell my mum all about my day, and she goes "oh, that must be disappointing not getting any firsts." and I'm like no?? first of all the first place ribbons are red and I don't like red. second of all look at me. there's literally nowhere left on my body for accolades. I am fucking Jacked of All Trades. how could this possibly be a disappointment.
Have y'all heard about the dog groomer that dyed a dog green without the owners consent?
The post started circulating in my pet industry groups and now it's hit the news, shit is bananas
"My excuse is I'm young"
No, girl, you're selfish and entitled.
Also HOLY SHIT I looked up the news article and
THE GROOMER IS UPSET THAT THE OWNER IS "DIMINISHING" HER RATHER THAN "SUPPORTING" HER?!
Dogs are legally property, so if I was Janice I would indeed be pressing charges for vandalism.
Asexual people, do you judge other people who experience sexual attraction? / Do you think you are better than allosexual people because of your asexuality?
I am sex-replused, and yes, I do judge and/or think I'm better
I am sex-repulsed, but no, I don't judge or think I'm better
I am sex-neutral, and yes, I do judge and/or think I'm better
I am sex-neutral, but no, I don't judge or think I'm better
I am sex-positive, but yes, I do judge and/or think I'm better
I am sex-positive, and no, I don't judge or think I'm better
Other shade of ace. Yes, I do judge and/or think I'm better
Other shade of ace. No, I don't judge or think I'm better
I am not asexual / Poll does not apply to me
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