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17th January, 2026

zzzucker:

crowns-of-violets-and-roses:

Discussions of trans women in sports often focus on elite/professional sports which honestly I find it hard to care about but the more common scenario of “we’re going to legally ban a high school girl from playing sports with her friends because she’s trans” is just profoundly evil

i remember when utah’s (republican) governor ended up vetoing a law banning transgender students from playing high school sports when he looked at the numbers, and there were only four trans students in the state playing sports at all. he released a clumsily worded but surprisingly compassionate statement about the decision.

I must admit, I am not an expert on transgenderism. I struggle to understand so much of it, and the science is conflicting. When in doubt, however, I always try to err on the side of kindness, mercy, and compassion. I also try to get proximate, and I am learning so much from our transgender community. They are great kids who face enormous struggles. Here are the numbers that have most impacted my decision: 75,000, 4, 1, 86 and 56.

75,000 high school kids participating in high school sports in Utah.

4 transgender kids playing high school sports in Utah.

1 transgender student playing girls sports.

86% of trans youth reporting suicidality.

56% of trans youth having attempted suicide.

Four kids and only one of them playing girls sports. That’s what all of this is about. Four kids who aren’t dominating or winning trophies or taking scholarships. Four kids who are just trying to find some friends and feel like they are a part of something. Four kids trying to get through each day. Rarely has so much fear and anger been directed at so few. I don’t understand what they are going through or why they feel the way they do. But I want them to live.

of course, it didn’t amount to much. they overrode his veto. it’s just so cartoonishly evil. an entire state’s political body so desperate to terrorize this one little trans girl.

(via It's Times Like These)

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5th April, 2024

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I’ve made my choice, im abandoning this blog.

I’ve learned a lesson, I can’t be openly trans on the internet.

Ever since I started getting a lot of attention on all my posts it’s been unbearable non-stop harassment. All because I dared to be a trans man on the internet who made posts about being a trans man. All because I dared to be a trans man who made sexual jokes. All because I dared to be a trans man who had a fucking backbone about anything and didn’t let people walk all over me.

I’ve gotten hundreds of transphobic comments and asks, and staff hasn’t done shit about it. I report and I report but nothing. The people who harass me just say up. They can tell me to kill myself. They can call me slurs. They can send me rape threats. And staff just lets it happen.

And I’m tired of it. I just wanted to have fun . I just wanted to shitpost.

I’m going to make a new general blog - one where it’s just me and my friends making shitposts again. Mutuals can DM and ask what it is.

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This is the shit tumblr allows on their platform. This is what I have to deal with.

Tumblr allows this to happen.

I encourage people to reblog this - and for people to share their stories about tumblr ignoring transphobic harassment - this is an ongoing issue. tumblr has had a problem ignoring transphobic harassment for years.

I’ve experienced worse transphobic harassment here on tumblr than I have on any other website. If I report someone for harassment on Reddit they actually do something, but on tumblr? Nothing. They do nothing.

(via five cishets in a trenchcoat)

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12th November, 2023

genderkoolaid:

feminist-fog:

the funniest thing to me rn is seeing transphobic women going into bathrooms in transphobic states and then being shocked that trans men are in there and actually (gasp) look like men?!?! (shocking i know /s)

like you guys forced people to go to the bathrooms of their “biological sex” but now when they do it’s disconcerting that men look like men. (yes even if that man has a vagina.)

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Transphobes are shocked to realize trans men aren’t all “uwu soft boiz” and HRT does what it’s supposed to. It’s so mind boggling to them that trans people don’t look like their bigoted characatures.

Anyways here are some men that will be forced to use the women’s restroom in states like florida, texas, kansas, etc.

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#listen to me#go read about the bathroom problem#jack habsterdam wrote a chapter about it in their book female masculinity#basically#trans women aren’t allowdd in female bathrooms because of their proximity to maleness#trans men aren’t allowdd in female bathrooms also because of their proximity to mleness#butches and dykes are often pushd out of bathrooms because of their proximity to maleness(liking women and being masculine)#bathrooms aren’t “safe spaces for women”#they’re spaces for policing gender and holding women to a ‘safe’ high standard of femininity where women will attack anyone who doesn’t fit#that high standard

thank you pointing this out + bringing up that trans men are not safe in women’s bathrooms, either. a lot of times when people make the point that transphobic bathroom laws will force trans men in women’s bathrooms, they act like all trans men will just be 100% unaffected by this and their presence will only make transphobes ashamed instead of. I don’t know. A cis woman calling a bunch of cis men to beat the shit out of a Latino trans man (where the police reports then call him the aggressor). Transphobia makes public bathrooms unsafe for all kinds of trans people, especially if they aren’t white.

(via five cishets in a trenchcoat)

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23rd November, 2022

intersexelphie:

lmaoooooo so a video popped up on my TikTok of a story time of some guy trying to buy his wife tampons and some woman going up to him thinking he was a trans man saying, “see? you’ll always be a woman!”

and he turned to the woman like “I’m buying tampons for my wife because I’m a good fucking husband. do you think if they were for me, I’d look this lost about where the brand is she wants?” he shut her up so fast lmfao. and she walked away looking pale and teary because transphobic people always have to play the victim.

(but also this is what I mean when I say transphobia can affect anyone and being transphobic literally takes over your mind. you cannot think critically at all about anything to do with gender or sex and anyone diverting from the image you have of how things are in your black and white world view is automatically The Enemy)

(via five cishets in a trenchcoat)

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5th September, 2022

somethingusefulfromflorida:

I hate correcting customers who call me ma'am and miss and honey over the phone, because only about 30 percent of the time do they apologize and start calling me sir, while 70 percent of the time they double down assuming I was trans and continue misgendering me on purpose to show how little respect they have for me as a human being. “Thank you, MISS.”

I’m a cis man, for the record.

Whenever I correct someone and they keep it up, I simply refuse service. “Oh, I’m sorry, we’re completeley booked up the day you wanted. Yeah, no, we’re booked up on your backup dates too. Looks like our next opening isn’t until, hmm, mid-November. Oh, but it doesn’t have enough beds for your party. We could probably fit you in around New Years, but you’d have to change rooms every day. You might wanna try [more expensive motel] a few blocks north of us, they might have vacancies. Have a good day.”

I’ve been able to dodge what few complaints we’ve gotten so far because they all tell my boss that they just spoke to a very nasty woman, and she has no idea who they’re talking about. “You must have dialed the wrong number, because I’m the only woman here, and I didn’t talk to you.” That PISSES THEM OFF, and she doesn’t understand why they respond with “well we’ve been staying there for years, but we’re never coming back.” They think she’s protecting me, an afab trans man, and are disgusted by it, but from her perspective they’re just crazy people who are complaining about made up bullshit; it doesn’t even cross her mind that they’re talking about me. Why would it?

My boss is like 70 or 75, and was a Republican until 2016. It’s never come up in conversation, but something tells me she wouldn’t exactly be a trans ally. I’m in a weird position here, and it’s hilarious.

(via Too many ships, not enough time...)

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15th July, 2020

c3rvida3:

c3rvida3:

I’m gonna say something really problematic that’s gonna make me hemorrhage followers, but I don’t care because I’m fucking angry.

The way that women I was friends with have started treating me now that I’m deeper into medical transition is cruel and strange and unacceptable.

Feminism taught me I’m allowed to take up space, and I don’t have to take shit from anyone, and that my thoughts and feelings and art matter. Understanding that I was worth more than whether or not cishet men found me fuckable, that I didn’t have to let my body define me, these were all things that helped me realize it was okay that I was trans, that I didn’t have to be what everyone wanted me to be because of how I looked.

And now these same friends and this same community that taught me so much, people I’ve fought for and with my whole life, are telling me to be quiet again when I worked so, so hard to be heard, and it’s exhausting and alienating and weird.

I’m not saying that misandry is real or that men as a Class are oppressed, but the failure to recognize that trans manhood is different from cis manhood and that it’s not as simple as, “You’re a man now, so I’m retroactively revoking your right to speak about your trauma,” is just… real transphobic and lame.

I don’t want to be in women’s spaces or take over women’s discussions; it isn’t about that. I mean shit like real life, actual friends, who have known me my whole life, telling me it’s not my place to talk about things like abortion and sexual assault, because they think having he/him in my social media bios somehow grants me the kind of privilege that cis men get.

And I know things will be more complicated than that when I start to pass or I’m treated as a man consistently somewhere other than the internet, but like.

Dude, it was less than a year ago that somebody doxxed me and threatened me with physical violence and called my house calling me the d-slur every day because I refused to send him pictures of my tits, and you really wanna tell me I that don’t know what it’s like to be harassed by cis men?

I don’t have a point to make, really, or a solution, but like…

I just wish people who I thought had the same values as me weren’t like, “Hm. You’re yucky now,” or that I could talk about my experiences without people thinking I’m “admitting” to “really” being a woman.

(via five cishets in a trenchcoat)

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5th December, 2019

actual-fucking-cryptid:

hetaces:

mysterious-pigeon:

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THIS. I wish I could be as eloquent as this person. Because this is how you make a difference.

for everyone in the notes asking: this was @raindovemodel​ (who is no longer active on tumblr, they’re active on instagram where this was posted but i wont link it because tumblr would hide this in the notes)

Rain (any pronouns) is a genderfluid model & posts a lot about how their ability to “pass” as either a man or a woman influences them, and shows off the absurdity of double standards such as mens vs womens olympic uniforms and societal treatment based on perceived gender

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They’re also incredibly patient with transphobes and other bigots, and much more so than most of us can manage and I think it’s amazing that they put up with what people say & do

BRO !!!!!!

(via Redpoint)

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9th December, 2018

commiemartyrshighschool:

techsupportlesbian:

hrefnatheravenqueen:

ritualofthehabit:

techsupportlesbian:

hrefnatheravenqueen:

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I always knew AfterEllen.com was cryptoTERF trash but looks like they’re really showing where they stand now.

I don’t know how long this has been in the works but the last week of their Twitter profile is enough:

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As well as supporting meghan murphy they are really pushing the idea of trans women as male predators. Miranda Yardley is an English trans woman who repeats TERF talking points for them and was very well received for opposing updating the Gender Recognition Act in the UK. The reference to Stonewall UK also suggests that the new staff are completely in bed with English TERFs, who have links to US Evangelical funding.

Stop supporting After Ellen, the name has essentially been bought out to promote a fascist agenda which wants to remove all trans people from existence and then work on doing the same to the rest of the LGBT community (whether individual contributors admit it or not).

Yeah afterellen was bought out and no longer is an independant website. No surprise they’re terfs bc thats the kind of agenda straight men controlling lesbian websites love 2 push

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Yah. Past AE peeps are NOT impressed with what’s happened, what with now being so openly transphobic, as well as literally erasing ALL work from authors who are trans-inclusive and all articles that spoke positively about trans people in any manner whatsoever.

Current AfterEllen staff is literally erasing the voices of all the women who came before them. And yet people still ask for proof of how TERFs hurt cis women. Well there you fucking go. A bunch of men and TERFs have decided that all of the cis women they disagree with don’t deserve to have a voice anymore than trans women do.

Thank you @ritualofthehabit and @hrefnatheravenqueen for elaborating!

Removing past articles is particularly cruel and damaging because as the writer in an above tweet pointed out, it can erase a huge body of their work. They might have their own digital or hard copies, but beyond being Orwellian it wipes out writing samples they can point to and can undermine their credentials when trying to cite their own work.

(via Too much of a good thing)

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23rd March, 2018

golbatgender:

cishaming:

Guess now would be a good time to remind everyone that “trans trender” and “gender trender” are terms meant to undermine a trans person’s identity with the sole intention to misgender them. These terms even can upset people’s dysphoria. If you use these terms as insults, you are transphobic.

Also using them reinforces transmisogynistic beliefs that people would pretend to be trans for trivial reasons like invading restrooms

(via five cishets in a trenchcoat)

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26th July, 2017

piss-monster:

regenerateme:

tracyalexander:

trans-mom:

aiga-muamua:

trans-mom:

I’d like to point out that actual studies have linked trans suicides to constant misgendering as a cause (one of, I should add), whereas affirmation of gender is known to do the opposite. So intentionally misgendering trans people is pretty much legit trying to kill them.

In other news, water is wet.

Where the study/source?

I’m uber busy at work and I don’t have the time to pull up the specific spot it’s discussed. But, look up the work of Dr. Ry Testa. He’s a trans man tackling these issues.

Someone who knows how to navigate resources and has the spoons and time try and find the paper, save trans momma the trouble.

Sounds super legit though. Being misgendered almost always causes some dissociation and social withdrawal form me since it belittles my identity. I don’t get suicidal thoughts but I could sure as hell see how someone who does would be affected by that.

Hiya! 

I’m hoping I could help somewhat.

This is all the work Dr. Testa’s done.

Development of the Gender Minority Stress and Resilience Measure.

Effects of violence on transgender people.

I think this is the one though; The relationship between gender-based victimization and suicide attempts in transgender people.

Misgendering a trans person is a violent act. It’s an emotional abuse that cuts deep into who we feel we are at our core. We have enough to deal with internally, adding external voices to that can destroy us.

@TERFs who insist misgendering is just ‘hurt feelings’

(via rage - goddess, sing the rage)

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21st July, 2017

Anonymous asks:

Their attention is just another reminder that "compulsory heterosexuality" was never meant to describe the experiences of the rest of us. It was and remains a TERF/radfem/lesbian separatist dog whistle.

betterbemeta:

dykeastraea:

betterbemeta:

Reminder that “compulsory heterosexuality” as a term was coined by Adrienne Rich, a contributor to the infamous TERF book The Transsexual Empire.

Wait how is compulsory heterosexuality a terf thing. I’ve never heard that ? (I’ve barely heard anything about the term in general though so.)

The informal concept that we are all compelled by society to be heterosexual is real and important. But the phrase/language use of “compulsory heterosexuality” was coined or at least popularized by Adrienne Rich in her essay Compulsory Heterosexuality and Lesbian Existence, which was extremely sex-essentialist and included stuff like… a mother nursing her female child as a lesbian experience. Or a nurse caring for a female elder a lesbian experience. Even if not all lesbian experiences are sexual, that’s kind of getting into a sketchy area (is caring for a male child ‘straight?’ is a latina or black nanny caring for a white girl baby having a ‘lesbian’ experience?) that is questionable at best.

the experience that all people are conditioned by a heterosexual society to be straight and see straightness as success and a default, is real– this post is not intended to remove that concept from anybody or ‘take away’ the right to express that concept in language. Lesbians experience it in a unique way, and almost all over lgbqa+ women (and others!) experience it in different unique ways. Its important. we gotta talk about it.

it’s just that this language as it was solidified, was done so by someone who did not think bisexuality, pansexuality, asexuality, were valid. And it was done so by someone who did not think that trans women were women, or that nonbinary dfab people were anything but cis women, or that trans men were anything but women. That’s what anon means when they say “it was never meant for the rest of us.” Many posts that are about “identifying compulsory heterosexuality” are posts that contain a lot of bi, pan, ace, trans, nonbinary, and other experiences as brainwashing and not as nuanced stories told by diverse people.

(which is not to say that a lesbian can’t have experiences where a heterosexual society tried to use bisexual and other categories as weapons or tools to keep them open to including men. We’re furious about that too.)

incidentally, TERFs would really love it if being a terf was synonymous with ‘lesbian experience.’ They have been trying to make that a reality for years. One of the ways they do so is popularize their language and references to their literature as I-thought-it-meants and get newcomers to lgbtqa+ community to use them and accept them.  It can be really disappointing to find out that what seemed like useful language was coined in a context that is exterminatory of others but I’m sure that moving forward alternatives can be found that don’t include contributors to The Transsexual Empire.

(via five cishets in a trenchcoat)

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