Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane
I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay
“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch
When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it’s gone by the wayside. Which sucks.
Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, “you can say no, I wouldn’t have asked if I wasn’t prepared for either answer.” And then they said no. This wasn’t some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn’t happening nearly enough anymore.
More recently, I was really glad when we got to “rejection sensitive dysphoria” in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.
Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don’t want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it’s only a matter of time. Because if you’re nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?
my dad (Maori) works on a ship with all Maori/Tongan/Samoan fisherman- and one Aussie guy called Jake.
And that wasn’t done on purpose just sort of how it ended up, but Jake recently got an injury so they put him on a Different boat just for a little bit (a sit in the wheelhouse and scout type of boat, instead of the main fishing one) and he only got back to my dad’s ship today and he was apparently like Shaking. He was Traumatised.
Dad said Jake kept pulling him aside and going “They were all yelling on there, but in a MEAN way” “They didn’t clean… Like at ALL”
Jake experienced what a boat full of old school Aussie fisherman is like. That is the norm Jake. You just happened to be on the all Island boy boat on your first go out. “It was time for dinner and they had FROZEN nuggets” Jake that’s what they have on ships that are out at sea for months at a time.
On my dad’s boat they are eating fresh fish and coconut milk Ceviche. They’re grilling steaks on an open bbq on the deck that probably is not regulation. All the guys have their own special knives to prepare sashimi every couple days. Everyone is happily doing their own work so they can clock out early and set up a movie on the deck. Jake did you genuinely believe that’s what every boat was doing.
Local Australian man is fed fresh juices and smoked fish for first time- refuses to go back to beef jerky boat life
jake that first night when they served a freezer tray tv dinner and not an overflowing plate of fish that’s probably going for conservatively like $40-$80 bucks a kilo but the guys decided Eh we’ll catch more let’s just fry it up:
Reading a book about slavery in the middle-ages, and as the author sorts through different source materials from different eras, I am starting to understand why so many completely fantastical accounts of “faraway lands” went without as much as a shrug. The world is such a weird place that you can either refuse to believe any of it or just go “yeah that might as well happen” and carry on with your day.
There was this 10th century arab traveller who wrote into an account that the fine trade furs come from a land where the night only lasts one hour in the summer and the sun doesn’t rise at all in the winter, people use dogs to travel, and where children have white hair. I don’t think I’d believe something like that either if I didn’t live here.
I mean honestly everything that Arab traveler said lines up with the Arctic areas, except the white hair part, I don’t know where that originates from, or if it’s accurate
If I had to guess, maybe they had albinism? Or maybe it’s one of those cases where kids sometimes start out with one hair color and develop a different one when they get older. This is all conjecture, but something to consider.
Still really cool tho
guys, the traveler just wasnt used to blondes
Also, languages develop words for colors over time so they get grouped with the closest one. That’s why people with orange hair are called redheads. The word for red is generally the third color that gets a name. There wasn’t always a word for the color orange, but there have almost always been people with orange hair.
And the Romans in Rome were fascinated by the Celtic slaves brought back from the British Isles because of their fair hair and skin.
For the sake of “I would not believe it either if I didn’t live here” kind of context, this is a perfectly normal hair colour for children where I’m from. It darkens to a dark ash blond/sand brown when they grow up.
So what I learned from this is even in modern times, people don’t know or believe that Scandinavians are just that pale and blond without jumping to “albino” first
You wouldn’t have believed the 10th century Arab guy either.
A lot of public media will be destroyed by this. Public TV and radio are vital for rural areas in our country, and without them, anyone living there will have a difficult time finding out about important news in their area.
One thing you can do is find your local PBS station and click “donate” at the top of the page. https://www.pbs.org/stations/
The government might have decided that it’s not in the business of being helpers, but that doesn’t mean you can’t be a helper. Do what you can, where you can, and Mr. Rogers is proud of you for it.
Just because what you wanted didn’t happen, doesn’t mean it’s queerbaiting. It is now being used an excuse when the ship you want didn’t get together. Queerbaiting has to do with marketing.
Queerbait: A cookbook that you learned about from ads with pictures of people eating tasty looking soups and the author’s social media posts about how soup lovers are going to love it, proves to have no soup recipes.
Not queerbait: A cookbook has no soup recipes. You assumed there would be some based on vibes and wishful thinking. No soups were ever advertised or promised.
Also not queerbait: A cookbook that was advertised as containing soup recipes has soup recipes but not for the types of soups you like.
They cut off usda funding from Minnesota, which includes wic and snap. Please consider donating to food banks around the area or food drives. Many immigrants are too scared to leave their homes to shop as well and a community member is doing great work.
Alarmed by what companies are building with artificial intelligence models, a handful of industry insiders are calling for those opposed to the current state of affairs to undertake a mass data poisoning effort to undermine the technology.
Their initiative, dubbed Poison Fountain, asks website operators to add links to their websites that feed AI crawlers poisoned training data. It’s been up and running for about a week.
AI crawlers visit websites and scrape data that ends up being used to train AI models, a parasitic relationship that has prompted pushback from publishers. When scaped data is accurate, it helps AI models offer quality responses to questions; when it’s inaccurate, it has the opposite effect.
[…]
Poison Fountain was inspired by Anthropic’s work on data poisoning, specifically a paper published last October that showed data poisoning attacks are more practical than previously believed because only a few malicious documents are required to degrade model quality.
The individual who informed The Register about the project asked for anonymity, “for obvious reasons” – the most salient of which is that this person works for one of the major US tech companies involved in the AI boom.
zoning out or imagining things is not dissociation. dissociation is a severe trauma response. fucking stop with this. you were not traumatized by your math homework and dissociating at your desk, you were uninterested and zoned out.
I’m begging all my mutuals to pay attention to the wildfires in Argentinian Patagonia. Almost 10.000 acres of unique Patagonian Andean forests, with South America tallest and world’s oldest trees, burned and they were all intentional. The worst part is that back in December, the government announced that they would lift the ban on foreigners buying rural land, and on changing the land productive activity after a wildfire for 30-60 years. Firefighters are crying because they don’t have enough resources, the government cut their budget by 70% for this year, while they wasted 300 million dollars on F-16 jet fighters. It’s not just trees, it’s animals and people’s lives, whole towns, that have been endangered, more than 3000 tourists had to be evacuated. The climate catastrophe is worsening the fires, with less rain and more wind this summer.
You know this website really has changed Tom Hiddleston is being gay as fuck in a TV show and I’ve seen maybe two posts about it. If that had happened 10 to 12 years ago it would have been inescapable it would have been truly radically inescapable you would have not been able to get away from it
I identify the most with the woman who has a green velvet ribbon around her neck and keeps being like “DONT untie my neck ribbon or something really bad will happen” and then her husband unties the ribbon and her head falls off. this is extremely real to me. spent my whole life like “please don’t do this thing to me or really bad stuff will happen” and everyone around me being like “that sounds fake” and doing it anyway. and then my head fell off!
CEO of Epic Games casually says that every AI has instances of creating CSAM and deepfake revenge porn content as if that somehow excuses anything.
some highlights from the article
“UK technology secretary Liz Kendall warned that X must "urgently” take action over the imagery being generated through Grok, to which the platform responded by locking the image generation behind a paywall.“
"Amid pressure for the UK government to quit X altogether, Labour Party chair Anna Turley confirmed that "conversation are taking place” about such measures, stressing that “X needs to get its act together.”
“The prime minister has been very clear that this is absolutely abhorrent,” she said.“
