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• she/her or they/them
• 28 years old
• this blog runs on a queue though I’m also always lurking
• i tag potential triggers as “trigger cw”
• my letterboxd is also at susiephone
• my photoshop creations here
• my fandoms here
• i run @overhatedcharacterspoll
• i also have a disney sideblog at @housesofmouses and a hatchetfield sideblog at @livelaughlauter
• due to the sheer volume of messages, i will not be responding to donation requests, since i don’t have time to vet them all. however, i will continue reblogging vetted donation posts from sources i trust.

"It was just a joke!"

Sure. It also wasn't very funny and it bombed. And now you have to deal with that.

"You can't even tell a joke anymore!?"

You can and you did. And people can react to it. Here we are.

Used to be, in ye olden days, every December, a Lord of Misrule presided over the winter holidays, called back then, the Feast of Fools. So Christmas was happening, even though this year's Lord of Misrule was none other than the Black Hood.
[...]
And so, another mystery was wrapped up in a neat, tidy bow, just in time for Christmas. Throughout the Black Hood's reign of terror, Betty had stared into the blackest of voids. The place where Joseph Conway's soul had once, perhaps existed.
And in that void, she'd seen a dark reflection, a truth that could not be burned away. A truth that whispered to her, "This isn't over."

RIVERDALE (2017-2023)
Chapter Twenty-Two: Silent Night, Deadly Night

MARY POPPINS (1964) dir. Robert Stevenson

Forest of a thousand eyes

Taylor Swift + casual looks
The End of an Era (2025) Episode 1 | Episode 2

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

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My most referenced meme is actually this sign from a furniture store's going out of business sale in my hometown.