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saw a radfem post about how there’s no female version of emasculation. bestie yes there is

“masculinity is empowering and dominant and femininity is degrading and restrictive. there’s no humiliating way of being stripped of chains” i want you to look women of color & disabled women in the eyes and tell them this. that there is no humiliating way to be stripped of your womanhood.

people are reblogging this again so I wanna add that on top of women of color and disabled women you can also just talk to trans men&mascs and nonbinary and intersex people raised female about this.

it’s very funny to me whenever people who insist they are the final voice for Trve Feminism and have such an accurate understanding of misogyny, also completely ignore how much the cover-up of the violent policing of failed womanhood plays a role in patriarchy. babe stop believing everything the patriarchy says!!!!! IT IS LYING TO US CONSTANTLY!!!!!!!!

lots of good talk in the notes of different ways different groups are affected by this (lets call it unwomaning, but feel free to workshop lol). but! i want to prompt us to go a little deeper. clearly, this does happen, and it happens to a lot of different people. so how can people - and not just any people, but feminists - claim it doesn’t? why does nearly everyone understand the concept of emasculation, but unwomaning is a non-topic?

ill talk about my own ideas later, but i wanna hear yall discuss this!

#I feel like it might be bc the ‘normal’ or expected reaction to emasculation is to take out your anger on someone beneath you to reaffirm#your masculinity#but for women once you are unwomaned you are supposed to disappear#or be disappeared#there’s not a way to gain it back in a womanly way bc to be a woman is to be passive not active#taking something back is too masculine#is a catch 22 ig

really interesting observation!! i think you are onto something here.

another way of putting it might be: manhood is something that must be fought for and proven and claimed, but womanhood is something that must be (or at least appear) natural and effortless, so much so that it can happen quietly in the background. at least, that is the public front we are supposed to be invested in.