your aggression and painting everything as this-or-that (“live with that or admit you don’t give a shit”) really seems more like you think this is sports teams…
unless you find a way to somehow live completely on your own, without the noticing of others, it really is not possible at all not to participate in / contribute to the idea of capitalism – not in the current world.
where do you work? what do you do? are you, by your logic, a murderer? where do you live? have you bought a smartphone, or a computer? are you somehow exempt from this ideology you’re casting upon the rest of the world?
if that isn’t clear, what I’m saying is that everybody – even you! – contributes to and “advances” capitalism in some way. that’s what we live under. this does not mean we cannot also be against this living condition.
the situation mentioned involved a woman starting a business to feed her family. if she didn’t have enough money, she’d starve – because of capitalism! how do you propose she’d have solved this instead? starting businesses is debatably worse than working under a business, but does this not mean you’re still supporting their endeavors? which jobs don’t contribute to this?
i think you’re getting yourself lost in ideas. it’s very easy to paint everything in this situation as bad, but that’s not at all realistic. contributing in the slightest to a bad situation does not mean you can never truly be against that same situation, especially if the situation gives you no choice!
by the way, calling out the slightest impurities in the actions of others (and equating them to something worse) doesn’t make you any better.