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this entire thread is so good. we need crave to lock in and make social media accounts for the hockey teams (metros, raiders, centaurs) in the show. (x)
make casting announcements for the new hockey players/coaches/commissioner AND THE TRADES from like an “official” MLH account.
What was the first moment you think our on-screen chemistry clicked? Nothing had to click. It was there.
CONNOR STORRIE and HUDSON WILLIAMS — Cosmo Goes Deep
if i, a gay man, were to post excitedly about the m/f smut i was reading, nobody would dare blink an eye and say that it’s fetishisation. nobody would turn around and suggest that my engagement with heterosexual romance stories, that i do not relate to, is based in some form of perversion. the issue is that you inherently view queer sex (in all forms of sex and sexuality and queerness) to be more explict than heterosexuality. you inherently view it as something out of the norm, as diverse reading, and that separation of sexuality into categories of “standard” and “diverse” is the core issue here. sexuality is diverse, but no one sexuality is more diverse than another - heterosexuality exists on the same unmappable spectrum as queerness, it isn’t the baseline, it isn’t the controlled variable, it exists on the same spectrum. (insert here: this is not to say that diverse reading as a category is necessarily bad, i understand the use of words like diverse in these areas when we are dealing with white heterosexuality in all media areas. but it is to say that if you want to start battling representation truly, we need to stop viewing these experiences are two separate kinds)
there are a varietyyyy of reasons why women may engage with mlm romance books more than m/f or wlw. starting with (1) the equal footing of being two men in society. in a m/f romance, you as a female reader are expected to relate to this character. if you really want to be embedded within the story and find connections with the narrative, you need to relate to this female character who is (2) limited by the fact that the patriarchy has always been here, and still permeates every area of media. we do not allow women to exist in a grey space. we do not allow women the same grace of being messy, and if we do allow women that within stories, then more often than not, their acts of resistance or their “messiness” is their lack of adherence to said patriachy and its norms, which brings us right back to ‘female characters cannot exist in our current media without being attached to their lower position in society and that means that (3) reading mlm romance provides you with that separation we are not often granted. (and none of that it is to say that there aren’t spectular books of all combinations that manage to have a meaningful story with female characters that aren’t solely defined by them being female, but it is to say that when reading and looking for escapism, it makes sense that you would reach for a book where there is a lesser chance of being reminded of your subordination (insert here a side tangent about romance books specifically, and the inherent subordination of female sexuality within media and society as a whole)
your desire to frame engaging in material that does not directly reflect your world view and lived experiences as something perverted is so worrying. so fucking worrying that your first thought on people reading books they do not necessarily relate to is “they must be fetishising this”. you need to be reading literature you don’t relate to. you need to be reading other experiences, and that’s everything from race, to class, to gender, to home life, to political views, and everything in between and outside of that - you need to be able to read from other perspectives. that’s so fucking important.
now more than ever, you need to be reading outside of your personal perspective.
but the desire, specifically, to frame fictional engagement with other sexualities + gender identities as something perverted, is to say that anything that is not the Standard Baseline of Heterosexuality, is inherently more explicit.
and it is actually painful that people do not realise that. it is painful that we constantly have discussions on “why do straight cis women read so many mlm romance!?” and people don’t ever take a step back to consider why they’re offended by that. and don’t even get me started on transgender sexuality in fiction. oooooo, y’all hateee when a trans person is sexual in media and y’all despiseee when someone who is not trans reads it.
read books you do not relate to. read books that differ from your lived experiences. read books that do not reflect your singular life.
and above all, please free yourself from the notion that queer romance and sexuality is inherently more explicit than heterosexuality. please, above all else, free yourself from the idea that heterosexuality is the standard. especially if you are trying to “protect queer art” with these arguments. especiallyyy if you believe that you are being progressive, whilst functioning off of the same rhetoric that has them pulling queer books - romantic and not - off of shelves.
queer sex is no less explicit than straight sex, i beggeth you to free yourself from this mindset that you haven’t even realised you hold.
huuuughhhhh yahoo selling scraped data from tumblr to AI sloo probably uughhhwaaauuwghhhhhh
this is what you're looking for to opt out!!!
It's under Visibility, noy Privacy like I assumed at first.
just wanna emphasize that this is found in the individual blog settings, not your general account settings. meaning you have to go to each of your blogs, then their settings page, then this switch at the bottom
In regards of the Trump government scraping all trans inclusion in its queer information portion of its websites I have made this thing. Spread the word. Don't let them pretend we never existed.
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can you tell i missed out on smth fundamental in my formative years 😏
“average person eats 3 spiders a year” factoid actualy just statistical error. average person eats 0 spiders per year. Spiders Georg, who lives in cave & eats over 10,000 each day, is an outlier adn should not have been counted
happy 10 years of spiders georg everyone
“average meme lasts 5 years” factoid actually just statistical error. average meme lasts 30 days or less. Spiders Georg, which started on this day 10 years ago, is an outlier adn should not have been counted
Happy 13th anniversary to Spiders Georg!
so um i think the dans "slut" text from wdapteo has officially broken containment
