Relationship Orientations

[PT: Relationship Orientations]

(Check out sex & gender terms here [link], gendered attraction terms here [link], and attraction types, aspec identities, & other orientations here [link.])

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Singlehood: A situation where a person who desires a relationship is currently unpartnered.

Non-partnering/Nonamory/Agamy/Afidelity: A situation where a person does not desire any intimate relationship ever. This could be for any reason, such as personal preference, being aspec, religious reasons, mental health reasons, etc. They may refer to themself as Nonamorous/Agamous/Afidelitous.

Monogamy: An intimate relationship that is exclusive between two people. A person who exclusively desires monogamy would refer to themself as Monogamous.

Although monogamy is often used to refer to both unmarried and married couples, some people distinguish monoamory (an unmarried couple) from monogamy (a married couple.)

Ambiamory: A relationship that can be monogamous or polyamorous. A person who is fine with either monogamy or polyamory would refer to themself as Ambiamorous.

Syndeamory describes an ambiamorous person whose preferences for polyamory or monogamy are based on their partner's preferences (ie; if their partner prefers polyamory, they will prefer that too.)

Monoflexible: A person/relationship that is usually monogamous, but on rare occasion becomes polyamorous or nonamorous.

Polyflexible: A person/relationship that is usually polyamorous, but on rare occasion becomes monogamous or nonamorous.

Fluidamory: A person/relationship that is fluid or fluctuating between multiple different amory/gamy categories (ie; fluctuating between nonamory, monogamy, & polyamory, fluctuating between multiple different forms of polyamory, etc.) A person who desires fluidamory would refer to themself as Fluidamorous.

Mutoamory is a subtype of fluidamory, where a person’s relationship orientation changes based on the scenario or circumstances (ie; a person who usually has the same relationship orientation, but becomes syndeamorous during vacations.)

Virtuamory is a subtype of mutoamory, describing a person who desires polyamory for online relationships, but is monogamous or nonamorous for offline relationships - if they were to take their online relationships offline, they would lose interest in it, or find it too difficult to maintain. 

Divisuamory/Diviamory: A person who has different amory/gamy desires depending on the attraction type. For example, being monogamous towards romantic relationships, ambiamorous towards senseships, polyamorous towards QPRs, etc. A person who experiences divisuamory would refer to themself as Divisuamorous/Diviamorous.

Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM): An umbrella term for people/relationships which include the desire for more than one consensual partnership. This includes ambiamory, some forms of monoflexibility and polyflexibility, some forms of fluidamory, some forms of divisuamory, and polyamory.

Relationship Anarchy (RA): A person who believes that relationships shouldn't be given “rules” by society (aside from rules of consent and ethical treatment), and that the only rules that matter in a relationship are the ones given by the people involved within it. Relationship anarchists support all forms of atypical relationships. Some people identify as a relationship anarchist if they wish not to further label their relationship orientation, similar to how some people use the term “queer” if they wish not to further label their attraction.

Polyamory: A person/relationship that includes/desires more than one partner. A person who desires polyamory would refer to themself as polyamorous.

Polygamy describes the marriage of more than two people, and a person who is married to multiple people may refer to themself as Polygamous.

While a relationship between two people is known as a "couple", a relationship between more than two people is known as a "polycule."

Paramour is a word to describe a polyamorous person’s partner. Metamour is a word to describe the partner of a partner. For example, Tomas is dating Miram, and Miram is dating Lora - this means Miram is Tomas’s paramour, and Lora is Tomas’s metamour. 

Multiamory describes a polyamorous relationship that is a complex mix of attraction or structures. For example, a polygynous polyaffectionate octad in an egalitarian paxamorous relationship that participates in swinging. Another example would be a full triad where A & B have a senseship, B & C have a casual relationship, and C & A have a romantic & sexual relationship.

Attraction Types, Aspec Identities, & Other Orientations

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(Check out sex & gender terms here [link], gendered attraction terms here [link], and relationship orientations here [link.])

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Attraction Types

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Social Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is social in nature. What is considered under this umbrella is up for personal interpretation, but oftentimes it includes platonic and familial attraction. 

Emotional Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is emotional in nature. What is considered under this umbrella is up to personal interpretation, but oftentimes it includes platonic, familial, romantic, queerplatonic, and alterous attraction. 

Platonic Attraction: A platonic desire for someone/something. What is considered "platonic" varies from culture to culture, however it typically includes desires such as sharing hobbies, sharing emotions, and oftentimes some degree of physical touch (though that is not always necessary.) It is often described as "a desire for companionship." The platonic desire for someone/something is a Squish (ie; "I have a squish on Dustin.") 

A Passionate Friendship/Affectionate Friendship is a platonic relationship that holds a high level of commitment and/or energy, and is ranked towards the top of an individual's personal relationship tier list. The platonic partner of someone with a passionate friendship is called a PF. The desire for a passionate friendship with someone/something is a Pash. Some people consider passionate friendships to be QPRs.

Familial Attraction: A familial desire for someone/something. What is considered "familial" varies from culture to culture, however it typically includes similar desires to platonic attraction, except it usually has more focus around starting traditions and sharing assets. Familial attraction is not limited to blood/legal relatives, nor is it necessarily always felt towards blood/legal relatives either. 

Romantic Attraction: A romantic desire for someone/something. What is considered "romantic" varies from culture to culture/person to person, however it typically includes desires such as sharing hobbies, sharing emotions, having dates, potentially living together/sharing assets, potentially marriage/legal partnership, potentially starting a family together, and/or intimate physical or emotional interactions that the person would not be comfortable doing with people they have non-romantic feelings for. The romantic desire for someone/something is a Crush. 

People with romantic attraction often have physical sensations around their crushes. This might include fuzzy/tingling feelings in the stomach or chest, heart-racing or heart-pounding, feelings of warmth in the stomach/chest or neck/face/shoulders, goosebumps or an electric feeling when touched by them, difficulty breathing (or an easier time breathing around them), and lightheadedness.

They may also have emotional responses to being around their crush, such as increased anxiety in comparison to when they are around non-crushes (typically worries of embarrassing themself, seeming weird, or offending their crush) or lessened anxiety/a feeling of ease and comfortability they don't experience around non-crushes.

A Soft Romo is a romantic relationship that holds a low level of commitment and/or energy, and is treated rather casually. The desire for a soft romo with someone/something is a Fluff. 

Queerplatonic Attraction: A queerplatonic desire for someone/something. “Queerplatonic” generally describes attraction that is intensely platonic with traditionally romantic qualities (while having no romantic attraction involved), or somewhere in-between romantic and platonic attraction. A queerplatonic relationship is often called a QPR. The queerplatonic partner of someone is sometimes called a Marshmallow/Mellowfriend or Zucchini. The queerplatonic desire for someone/something is a Squish, Squash, Plush, or Crish.

Alterous Attraction: An alterous desire for someone/something. “Alterous” generally describes a deep emotional attraction that is not distinctly romantic or platonic, but from an outside lens is misinterpreted in that way. Sometimes queerplatonic attraction is considered to be under the alterous umbrella, however alterous attraction can also describe emotional attraction that is completely disconnected from platonic and romantic attraction whatsoever. The alterous desire for someone/something is a Mesh or Hush.

Physical Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is physical in nature. This includes aesthetic, sensual, and sexual attraction. 

Aesthetic Attraction: An aesthetic desire for someone/something. “Aesthetic” (in this context) generally describes a person’s physical characteristics (hair, eyes, shape, voice, etc), a person’s presentation (fashion, hairstyle, etc), and/or how a person carries themself (body language, “vibe”, etc.) The aesthetic desire for someone/something is a Swish or Thete.

Sensual Attraction: A sensual desire for someone/something. “Sensual” generally describes non-sexual physical touch, however it can also include voice and scent. A sensual relationship is often called a Senseship. The sensual desire for someone/something is a Lush.

Sexual Attraction: A sexual desire for someone/something. This generally includes a desire for touching/groping and/or enacting kinks/fetishes that provide sexual pleasure. A purely sexual relationship is often called an Intimaship, while a sexual & platonic relationship is often called a Casual Relationship/Friends With Benefits.

Libido describes a body’s physical desire for sex. This differs from sexual attraction, because sexual attraction is directed at someone/something, meanwhile libido is the body craving sexual release. Libido and sexual attraction can align for people who experience both, however they can also occur unaligned.

Allolibidoist/Normolibidoist describes a person who experiences regular spikes in their libido. Hyperlibidoist describes a person who experiences more spikes in their libido than most other people. Hypolibidoist describes a person who rarely experiences spikes in their libido, or whose libido spikes are dull and don’t last very long. Non-Libidoist describes a person who has no libido.

Sexual Arousal describes the body’s physical response to touch in a sexually sensitive area, or the body’s physical response to sexual attraction or libido. This includes genital arousal (wetness, erections, heat, etc), and/or physical responsiveness elsewhere in the body (ie; blushing.) A person can experience sexual arousal while not experiencing sexual attraction or a libido spike (ie; a person who is accidentally touched on their crotch may grow aroused, even if they do not find the person who touched them to be attractive.) Arousal is not the same as desire, as a person can be aroused and distressed or uncomfortable by their arousal.

Waveric Attraction/Waverous Attraction/Fluidic Attraction: A fluid desire for someone/something. For example, a person who feels platonic attraction towards someone one day, and romantic attraction towards them the next. The waveric desire for someone/something is called a Wish.

Nonrose Attraction: An umbrella term for any attraction that is not romantic or sexual ("ro" being for romance, and "se" being for sexual attraction.) 

Loveless: A person who feels disconnected to the word “love”, and wishes to describe their enjoyment or attachment towards things with other words (ie; appreciation, admiration, connection, etc) or with no words at all. This could be due to neurodivergence, feeling rejected by the culture surrounding love, etc. Heartless is a similar term, describing a person who feels disconnected from love and romance. 

Attraction Stances: A collection of terms to describe how a person feels about attraction-based experiences/actions. The stances are generally sorted into five categories - favorable, indifferent, averse, repulsed, and ambivalent. 

In terms of experiences/actions, it is generally sorted into the following categories - social, emotional, friendship/plato (platonic attraction), family, romance, queerplatonic, alterous, physical, look (aesthetic attraction), touch (sensual attraction), and sex.

A person's stances may sometimes change over time, either randomly or due to psychological exploration and/or traumatic experiences.

-Favorable describes a person who has positive feelings towards the experience/actions. For example, a friendship-favorable person enjoys platonic interactions.

-Indifferent/-Neutral describes a person who has neutral feelings towards the experiences/actions. For example, a look-indifferent person who has no strong feelings about aesthetic attraction.

-Averse describes a person who experiences personal dislike towards the experience/actions, but not necessarily dislike towards it as a concept. For example, a sex-averse person who dislikes the idea of being in a sexual setting (ie; strip club), but doesn’t mind hearing about other people’s experiences there.

-Repulsed describes a person who experiences repulsion towards the experiences/actions, often to a point where they feel physical distress (anxiety, nausea, etc) at even the concept. For example, a romance-repulsed person who feels visceral discomfort at romantic actions, even when it's exchanged between other people.

-Ambivalent describes a person who experiences complicated or fluid feelings towards the experiences/actions. For example, a touch-ambivalent person who feels extreme discomfort towards touch sometimes, while seeking out touch other times.

Third gender alt pride flag

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Pride flag color meanings

burgundy brown: culture. crimson: spirituality. amber: happiness. pineapple white: pride and awareness. pinky coral: love and joy. orangish salmon: the identity and history of culture to which you belong.

files: 01 ; 02

tag-list: @radiomogai, @imoga-pride, @boingogender, @daybreakthing, @discrophy, @themogaidragon, @acronym-chaos, @colablob, @rwuffles, @charlie-lottie.

free to use. no credit needed, but it would be appreciated.

[Flag ID/ 3 similar flags with 6 horizontal stripes. From the top, the colours are dark reddish orange, reddish orange, light orange, pale yellow, orange, pale orange. In the centre of the flag is a dark orange 3rd gender symbol, a circle wih a straight line coming from the top. On top of the line is an upside down triangle. The symbol is outlined in light yellow. /End ID]

[PT: Third Gender (link) Alt Pride Flag.

Pride flag color meanings

burgundy brown: culture. crimson: spirituality. amber: happiness. pineapple white: pride and awareness. pinky coral: love and joy. orangish salmon: the identity and history of culture to which you belong.

files: 01 (link); 02 (link)

tag-list: radiomogai, imoga-pride, boingogender, daybreakthing, discrophy, themogaidragon, acronym-chaos, colablob, rwuffles, charlie-lottie.

free to use. no credit needed, but it would be appreciated. /End PT]

Aplatonic (apl for short) flags part 3 :3 🍏🟩🟦🟪 (This set uses green+blue+purple, there's another set that uses yellow for apl instead.) (Due to the image limit, this is split into 4 posts.)

I noticed some a-spec flags were missing tertiary counterparts, so I made some. Some of these flags have already been made before, so they're not all original (I still wanted to have all the flags together in a set, and all in the same res).

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greyplatonic | demiplatonic | aegoplatonic (1)

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aegoplatonic (2) | non sam apl (1) | non sam apl (2)

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neu apl | aplvoid | aplflux

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aplspike (1) | aplspike (2) | apljump

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dark greyplatonic | light greyplatonic | atomoplatonic

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delloplatonic | fictoplatonic | cupioplatonic

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bellusplatonic | reciproplatonic | lithoplatonic

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frayplatonic (1) | frayplatonic (2) | apothiplatonic

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orchidplatonic | myrplatonic | aplflexible

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I'll also note that some of these terms can have multiple names, with the "platonic", "aplatonic", & "apl" part being interchangeable. This isn't applicable to every term though. I also chose not to list everything to try to keep it brief. So for example, greyplatonic can also be called greyaplatonic and greyapl.

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[A-spec flag sets masterpost]

an alternative crossdresser flag.

flags for crossdressing enben, crossdressing men, & crossdressing women respectively.

flags by us. for cam. tagging @radiomogai.

more mspec emotional and physical attraction flags

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Inspired by the multiemotional anon, we decided that us using emotional and physical as vague umbrella terms isn't a bad idea. Omni- and bi- are selves-indulgent. Ply- and pan- are companion terms. We're happy to make more (including mono variants!) if there's demand. Definitions are inspired by the ones in the LGBTQIA+ Wiki.

biemotional / biphysical

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definition(s): emotional/physical attraction to: - men and women; - same/similar and opposite/different genders; - more than one gender / two or more genders.

These flags were made by combining Michael Page's bisexual flag with ryanyflags' emotional and physical attraction flags.

polyemotional or plyemotional / polyphysical or plyphysical

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definition: emotional/physical attraction to many, but necessarily all, genders

These flags were made by combining (tw: bright colors) Samlin's polysexual flag with ryanyflags' emotional and physical attraction flags.

omniemotional / omniphysical

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definition: emotional/physical attraction to all genders, with or without a gender preference

These flags were made by combining pastelmemer's omnisexual flag with ryanyflags' emotional and physical attraction flags.

panemotional / panphysical

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definition: emotional/physical attraction to all genders - regardless of gender; - in the same way or degree.

These flags were made by combining (tw: bright colors) Jasper V.'s pansexual flag with ryanyflags' emotional and physical attraction flags.

The symbol:

Mera: A man who feels attraction to women but doesn't feel comfortable calling themself straight.

Wira: A woman who feels attraction to men but doesn't feel comfortable calling themself straight.

Wera: A woman who feels attraction to women but doesn't feel comfortable calling themself lesbian.

Mira: A man who feels attraction to men but doesn't feel comfortable calling themself gay/veldian.

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I originally shared these terms along with other definitions and without flags (I was exhausted). At first, I had restricted the terms to cisn't people, but I've decided not to limit them to anyone. Still, I coined them specifically based on my experiences as an isogender man/woman attracted to women and men, but uncomfortable with the straight/lesbian/veldian labels — I'm not fully binary, and sometimes the binary associations of those terms bother me.

→ Terminology:

• Mera = Man + era.

• Wira = Woman + vir.

• Wera = Woman + era.

• Mira = Man + vir.

Tell me if there are similar terms!

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@radiomogai

I made versions with an actual white stripe:

Butch Pride Flag

Butchness: describing an unfeminine identity or a gender expression linked to unfemininity, a slang commonly adopted by GNC women and LGBTQIA people.

Seems that this flag is regardless of orientation, although this word is historically associated with lesbianity (before bisexuality and homosexuality became separated), a straight woman could be butch depending the definition.

Synonyms include mannish, masc, tomboy and manly. See other versions: enbutch, bi/pan/nb, lesbian, bi, stag/tomcat, mech, pan, drake/dragon,

Source: OpenMinded. - Ap

hope it was okay that i changed the symbol to the butch symbol instead of just the female/venus one. also made an icon-sized version!

Enbirldox

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Enbirldox; a term for being enbirl & not being enbirl at the same time.

Enmanwodox; a term for being enmanwoman & not being enmanwoman at the same time.

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Novelosexual (alternate flag)

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An alternate name for visualnovelsexual, the sexual attraction to characters from visual novels.

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@radiomogai @io-archival @beyond-mogai-pride-flags

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Transgenesis/genesistrans

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The opposite of transanalog/analogtrans. A term for ones transness developing early in life.

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Transdecay/decaytrans

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A term for ones transness fading away/disappearing over time. Coined with detransitioners in mind, but not exclusive to them.

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@io-archival @radiomogai @beyond-mogai-pride-flags

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Epicene

"A historical term; meaning having characteristics of both sexes or no characteristics of either sex; of indeterminate sex."

I've known of this word for a little while, but only recently learned it has been used as a queer identity! Personally, its definition really spoke to me as an intersex person. I would not say this is an intersex exclusive term, but it has history of being used in reference to intersex people, so be aware of that!

You do not need to credit me. Anyone can use. Go nuts.

Plain text: "Epicene: A historical term; meaning having characteristics of both sexes or no characteristics of either sex; of indeterminate sex."

I have made a rework of the flag"

ambineque

from latin ambi ("both") and neque ("neither").

ambineque describes someone who is feminine, masculine and neither. similar to and inspired by ambonec, except it's about femininity and masculinity rather than manhood and womanhood.

examples:

personal use: i'm an androgyne and the unique combination of my feminine masculinity and masculine femininity makes my androgyny feel aphorian, aporine and outherine.

flag meaning: the shades of purple represent masculinity, femininity and any combination thereof and the shades of green represent other gender qualities as well as the lack thereof.

A less eye-straining verison: