Designed for Violence

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JANE REMOVER — REVENGESEEKERZ (2025)

I feel like people desperately need to start rethinking the way they interact w the concept of trauma particularly with just how often people will compare traumas, yet at the same time will understand this doesn't actually get you anywhere.

Firstly, in arguments and disagreements; other peoples trauma gets used as a point to make and nothing more. People, and entire groups of people, get boiled down to their experiences they've went through. Whenever people make sharing their friends trauma to others to make a point, I just wonder... do your friends know about this? Do they know you're sharing this information so you can win an internet argument?

Secondly, the scale of trauma. The internet cannot decide whether some experiences are objectively worse than others, and at the same time constantly design their points around the belief that there is an objective worse. On top of that, people get ideas in their head on what a traumatized person acts like. the more openly loud, abrasive, and kicking and screaming you are, the more traumatized you seem, the better the points you're making are to people. In a way, healing is actively discouraged. If you want to be heard, you have to get worse. more unstable.

I've often get put in discussions where they blatantly, clearly believe I have never been through anything traumatic, and cannot possibly know how painful it is, and therefore I have no ground in this argument. They want me to kick and scream. they want to know every personal detail. The trick is that they do not actually care, they know if they get me to react it will sting more once they say this point no longer matters.

Because trauma comparison is so encouraged and normal, its often prevented me from ever sharing anything about myself. I have gotten told, multiple times by multiple people, that they don't like hearing me talk about my trauma because they feel like nothing they've experienced matters in comparison. that instead of listening and giving a helping ear, they grow resentful and self-pitying.

I have no way to conclude this other than these things need to be changed. we need to stop treating trauma as a "Win" button, and we need to be kinder to each other. If we don't, we're just going to continue to teach people that people like them when they're worse, and their trauma is only ever good for making points in arguments.

one of discourses that this is particularly an issue with is taboo media discourse, because a lot of the arguments people make for and against taboo content is trauma and I see it commonly get used to inform very specific stances, its really common to see people who are in favor of taboo media not being censored, but only if the person writing and the person interacting with it is traumatized themselves.

The reason these arguments never go well is because no matter what, someone has to get their feelings hurt, and told their trauma doesn't matter in comparison. You are encouraged to spill your blood with the risk of being told it means nothing, and then made fun of for spilling your blood. The argument lives out its reactionary nature in the an extremely cruel way by making people expose the most intimate experiences of theirs and their friends lives. They may not have healed from it, but they will use it as a weapon to make others feel worse. If your reasoning behind your stance is your trauma, you automatically "win" a lot of the time.

There are some times where this doesn't "pay off" no matter what. if someone believes that all taboo media is self harm for traumatized people, then traumatized people get controlled and shamed for being traumatized. You are not trusted with your own agency, and need to taken away from you, "because someone with trauma cannot make a correct decision on their own feelings on sex. you have to be a certain type of sexually oppressed to heal, as anything abnormal will never let you heal." this is the thought process, and it gets people hurt, because they are being kept in a weaker, docile position.

Overall, using trauma as arguments encourages comparison for no actual substance. nothing happens but potentially feeling validated, which is extremely addictive for someone with ptsd, because we're never listened to. we all have to "heal" yet at the same time, you are constantly being told your trauma is what makes people listen to you, you need to get worse, you need to get more unstable, you need to declare it to everyone.. and if its not good enough...? you need to grow up. It's tiring, and only starts a cycle of self harm.

And now, what is a traumatized person? at its core it is just someone whos been through an extreme or abnormal experience, did not get the proper support after/during the event, resulting in behaviors that effects their daily lives. this is the best way i could define it. When speaking to others though, its a bit different. if you want to be identified as someone with trauma, you have to be pretty careful. You have to act out in ways that only hurt yourself, otherwise you're the abuser. You need to leave out details, change them, or add them on to make you a perfect victim if you don't already feel that way (which majority of people don't), or else you're the abuser.

I feel like people desperately need to start rethinking the way they interact w the concept of trauma particularly with just how often people will compare traumas, yet at the same time will understand this doesn't actually get you anywhere.

Firstly, in arguments and disagreements; other peoples trauma gets used as a point to make and nothing more. People, and entire groups of people, get boiled down to their experiences they've went through. Whenever people make sharing their friends trauma to others to make a point, I just wonder... do your friends know about this? Do they know you're sharing this information so you can win an internet argument?

Secondly, the scale of trauma. The internet cannot decide whether some experiences are objectively worse than others, and at the same time constantly design their points around the belief that there is an objective worse. On top of that, people get ideas in their head on what a traumatized person acts like. the more openly loud, abrasive, and kicking and screaming you are, the more traumatized you seem, the better the points you're making are to people. In a way, healing is actively discouraged. If you want to be heard, you have to get worse. more unstable.

I've often get put in discussions where they blatantly, clearly believe I have never been through anything traumatic, and cannot possibly know how painful it is, and therefore I have no ground in this argument. They want me to kick and scream. they want to know every personal detail. The trick is that they do not actually care, they know if they get me to react it will sting more once they say this point no longer matters.

Because trauma comparison is so encouraged and normal, its often prevented me from ever sharing anything about myself. I have gotten told, multiple times by multiple people, that they don't like hearing me talk about my trauma because they feel like nothing they've experienced matters in comparison. that instead of listening and giving a helping ear, they grow resentful and self-pitying.

I have no way to conclude this other than these things need to be changed. we need to stop treating trauma as a "Win" button, and we need to be kinder to each other. If we don't, we're just going to continue to teach people that people like them when they're worse, and their trauma is only ever good for making points in arguments.

one of discourses that this is particularly an issue with is taboo media discourse, because a lot of the arguments people make for and against taboo content is trauma and I see it commonly get used to inform very specific stances, its really common to see people who are in favor of taboo media not being censored, but only if the person writing and the person interacting with it is traumatized themselves.

The reason these arguments never go well is because no matter what, someone has to get their feelings hurt, and told their trauma doesn't matter in comparison. You are encouraged to spill your blood with the risk of being told it means nothing, and then made fun of for spilling your blood. The argument lives out its reactionary nature in the an extremely cruel way by making people expose the most intimate experiences of theirs and their friends lives. They may not have healed from it, but they will use it as a weapon to make others feel worse. If your reasoning behind your stance is your trauma, you automatically "win" a lot of the time.

There are some times where this doesn't "pay off" no matter what. if someone believes that all taboo media is self harm for traumatized people, then traumatized people get controlled and shamed for being traumatized. You are not trusted with your own agency, and need to taken away from you, "because someone with trauma cannot make a correct decision on their own feelings on sex. you have to be a certain type of sexually oppressed to heal, as anything abnormal will never let you heal." this is the thought process, and it gets people hurt, because they are being kept in a weaker, docile position.

Overall, using trauma as arguments encourages comparison for no actual substance. nothing happens but potentially feeling validated, which is extremely addictive for someone with ptsd, because we're never listened to. we all have to "heal" yet at the same time, you are constantly being told your trauma is what makes people listen to you, you need to get worse, you need to get more unstable, you need to declare it to everyone.. and if its not good enough...? you need to grow up. It's tiring, and only starts a cycle of self harm.

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