help a trans disabled family escape harassment

we are a low-income family of 3 trans disabled people needing to move ASAP. for months now, our neighbor has been repeatedly sexually harassing us and threatening assault. attempts at deescalation have not improved the situation. things have gotten even worse recently, and we are worried for our safety

our goal of $4500 will help with:

any help is appreciated, including comments + rbs !! thank you so much 💓

goal: $4500

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y'all need to relearn the word erratic and stop using schizophrenic/bipolar/psychotic as a replacement

y'all need to relearn the word particular and stop using ocd as a replacement

People need to relearn the word "egocentric" and stop using narcissist/narc as a replacement.

People need to relearn the word "impulse" and stop using "intrusive thought" as a replacement

This is so fucking embarrassing. This is one of the most embarrassing business quips I have ever seen in my entire vile career.

coat bath

tag yourselves i'm the GREAT ROOM beside the GOURMET KITCHEN

i remade it in the sims 4

We talk a lot about "if you're sick stay home from work" but I feel like we also have a lot more control over "If you're sick stay away from that social function."

If you're sick, stay away from that social function.

If you're almost sick, and going to this social function is going to wear you out and probably push you over the line into actually sick, you should probably stay away from that social function and get some rest.

If your kids are sick, don't drag them to the function. Stay home. Put a funny movie on. We do not need to perpetuate this culture. We do not need to have our kid's cold turn into Grandma's pneumonia just to keep up appearances. We do not need to have our kid's cold turn into 20 other kids' colds just to participate in a craft at the library that you could easily replicate at home by googling for 2 seconds.

genuinely and i’m so tired specifically of parents acting like kids with colds is like, baseline healthy. all the time adults who know i’m immunodeficient invite me over and when i ask if the house is healthy they say yes! and neglect to mention that actually their toddler is sneezing up green snot and their 6 year old has a cough. this happens all. the. time.

i know it’s normal for kids to have gunk all the time (although i do think we should take children’s immune health more seriously too but that’s another post)

and i love spending time with children and i get it sucks to have to raincheck every time your kid catches another bug but if your kid is sick you need to tell me. and if your kid is sick i don’t want to hang out with you one on one until your kid is better because you might have it too more mildly. i need to know if anyone in your household is sick and for some reason a lot of people think that doesn’t include kids.

sure we need to protect grandma ofc! but some of us are 32 and also prone to pneumonia. so unless you plan on covering my hospital bills, just reschedule!!

This also goes for parents who work, and especially if they work with immunocompromised clients.

My assistant has small children and when i get sick, i might have an Addison crisis that might actually kill me. Even from seemingly benign colds.

Happened before, so I'd rather it doesn't repeat.

And said assistant said that in their children's school they have to post newsletters to every parent, specifically asking them to keep the sick children at home and not send them to school.

Multiple times a week!

which i am at a loss of words for

as if everyone suddenly forgot how sickness works

Not to go "if you have ADHD just go for a run" or anything, but I am so serious if you have ADHD you should regularly go outside, no headphones no phone no nothing and just stand and observe for a while until you've had enough. Not until you get bored, until you've had enough. Drink your coffee without watching tiktok. Have a bath without music. Turn down the volume in your headphones. I cannot overstate how much learning to be bored is cruicial with ADHD. Life is not just about pleasure, no matter what your dysregulated dopamine system thinks, and when you teach your brain to be okay with being bored, then boring tasks stop feeling like torture. By letting yourself be bored you are yoinking your system out of the high/low binary and allow for the highs to feel like actual highs and not just anything that isn't low. I am so serious go literally touch grass. Listen to the sounds in your flat. Stimulate your body the way it was designed. It lowers anxiety and makes you feel like you're real and best of all it's completely free

I really wish more ADHD mental health care told you WHY things like this matter to our quality of life.

The Hyperactivity in Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder is NOT about being physically hyperactive, it's about having a "hyperactive central nervous system" because it's a form of inheritable dysautonomia. The problem with disautonomia, especially the ADHD kind, is that it makes boredom flag to your nervous system as a THREAT, triggering hyperactive and maladaptive central nervous system processes like fight or flight.

But dysautonomia kills you that way. Literally, part of the reason our average life spand increase on stimulents is that it helps manage risk-taking impulsivity that can get us killed by accident, but the other part is that stimulents can regulate a hyperactive CNS such that it is functionally (while impacted by the stimulent) NOT dysregulated anymore. And PHYSIOLOGICALLY that is essential because the physical outcomes of dysautonomia can reduce your life span by YEARS if not decades through self-perpetuating hypervigelence, endocrine disruption, and adrenal fatigue.

So when the ADHD brain goes stimulation-seeking and a doctor tells you to practice mindfulness, it feels like being told "hey go stand in a functioning boiler until you can stop thinking" rather than WHAT IT IS which is the process of re-teaching your body what is and isn't safe.

Standing outside making mindful, non-interpretive/moralized observation of the world helps your brain and body re-acclimate to the idea that absence of that frantic "busy" feeling isn't a threat or a risk to your safety, and gradually reduces the level of distress that just hanging out somewhere triggers for you.

Learning WHY this stuff was being suggested and understanding what it was actually supposed to do went a long way towards changing my relationship with my ADHD. I am FAR more functional now, far less prone to shame spirals and rejection sensitivity, hell, I can **sit physically still for near on an hour at a time** now without feeling like I'm going to crawl out of my skin.

So yeah. Go outside. Let the world narrow around you and take deep breaths until it stops feeling claustrophobic or like you need to climb walls. Learn how to let little sensations become big ones like the way the heat of the sun on your skin starts as a gentle warming and be omes a unique collection of sensory moments depending on how it lands on you. Listen for sounds under sounds and let them fade in and out as you move your focus from one sound to the next. Enjoy. Move on. Rinse and repeat.

When you no longer feel like the world is actively killing you, it's a lot easier to navigate it.

S++ tier addition to the post, thank you tumblr user butts bouncing on the beltway

starting a collection for my anthropology class can you guys send me more posts like these

Here's a few I have

We talk a lot about "if you're sick stay home from work" but I feel like we also have a lot more control over "If you're sick stay away from that social function."

If you're sick, stay away from that social function.

If you're almost sick, and going to this social function is going to wear you out and probably push you over the line into actually sick, you should probably stay away from that social function and get some rest.

If your kids are sick, don't drag them to the function. Stay home. Put a funny movie on. We do not need to perpetuate this culture. We do not need to have our kid's cold turn into Grandma's pneumonia just to keep up appearances. We do not need to have our kid's cold turn into 20 other kids' colds just to participate in a craft at the library that you could easily replicate at home by googling for 2 seconds.

genuinely and i’m so tired specifically of parents acting like kids with colds is like, baseline healthy. all the time adults who know i’m immunodeficient invite me over and when i ask if the house is healthy they say yes! and neglect to mention that actually their toddler is sneezing up green snot and their 6 year old has a cough. this happens all. the. time.

i know it’s normal for kids to have gunk all the time (although i do think we should take children’s immune health more seriously too but that’s another post)

and i love spending time with children and i get it sucks to have to raincheck every time your kid catches another bug but if your kid is sick you need to tell me. and if your kid is sick i don’t want to hang out with you one on one until your kid is better because you might have it too more mildly. i need to know if anyone in your household is sick and for some reason a lot of people think that doesn’t include kids.

sure we need to protect grandma ofc! but some of us are 32 and also prone to pneumonia. so unless you plan on covering my hospital bills, just reschedule!!

come back my scarab

please come back my scarab

i,m so fuckign sorryy my scarab

Here's something i feel pretty strongly about (speaking as an online creator). You foster the community you want. You have control over what kind of fans of your work you accumulate. You do this by not letting bad actors get comfortable in your space, and by not being afraid to stand up for what you believe in.

If you have a bunch of TERF followers for example, you have not done enough to make them uncomfortable following you. If you're afraid of writing or drawing something that will upset your followers, you're pandering to the exact people you don't want. You're keeping them around.

That's why when creators try really hard to push the image that their work is "wholesome" or inoffensive, they attract an audience that will turn on them the second that creator does something that challenges those pure, clean morals, even something that to anybody else is totally benign. It's an impossible standard. You have to shoot some shots into the sky every once in a while.

It's the reason you always see good people run off the internet by angry mobs for stupid reasons, because they were unwittingly fostering a community with unrealistic expectations.

It's why you see creators who draw or write complicated or divisive work are comparatively left alone, because fans of their work are mature enough to understand that, and therefore unlikely to witch hunt.

It's why when Alice Oseman of Heartstopper had all their fans unfairly turn on them because one of the characters casually mentioned they had committed the unforgivable act of having sex.

Write/draw the shit you want. The right people will stick around and the wrong ones will disintegrate into sea foam.

This story about a bar owner kicking out nazis "even if they're polite" explains it in a broader context, and I think it's worth checking out if you haven't already seen it.

AI artists are now having 'prompt stealing' discourse lmaoo

[ * Cooked new animation :333333333 please go boost my YouTube the algorithm obliterated me please for the love of stars /not forced actually ]

[ * Felt like using a really specific chromatic aberration effect only one app has (inshot) and also threw in that one glitch technique..... In honor of old animation memes I used to watch ]

My new mission in life is to impart this wisdom to as many people as possible

IT'S ALSO USEFUL IF YOU HAVE TMJ DISORDER

in both cases: always start on the lowest setting and wrapped in something soft!! if it hurts, stop!!

But, re: sinuses: look up a diagram of where they are, and when a spot feels particularly good or is particularly congested, hold it there longer. Definitely keep tissues handy for when it drains. Also it can help if your sinuses hurt like fuck but aren't actually congested (which happened when I had covid), but the effect doesn't last long.

Re: TMJ disorder: You can just push it against the joint, obviously; if your vibe has a small contact point you can REALLY dig in there (but again: stop if it hurts). But don't forget the whole area around the joint, around your ears, and up your scalp. There's a lot of muscles that tighten when your jaw is tight/stiff/in pain. Be especially careful when on a spot that's just skin over a bone without a lot of padding.

vibrators can also help if you have restless legs syndrome! Especially ones with fancy pulse patterns. When my RLS is severe I tuck them behind my knees or wherever & can finally lie still & sleep. You might need to wrap them in fabric to avoid skin irritation ymmv. There was even a paper published somewhere called "counter stimulatory devices for RLS" that was hilariously vague about saying the word "vibrator"

Once again adding also useful if you have dystonia or any kind of muscle spasticity. I have cervical dystonia (neck spasms) and dystonia in my left leg that's essentially like persistent Charley horse cramps from my neuromuscular issues and bought a Hitachi expressly for this purpose lol

A vibrator has been recommended to me to unblock clogged milk ducts for anyone that may apply to

I learned about the sinus thing and immediately bought a vibrator for that purpose. And yes, it DOES help with sinus headaches. 

I use mine to cum as well

one time a guy friend told me he was quitting league of legends and literally two weeks later she was on estrogen. these events are intrinsically connected in my mind.

There is still time [to stop playing league of legends]

You: *panicking, running for your life through my labyrinth space station*

Me, over intercoms: You have terf bangs