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I eat can tabs, offically. (he/they) MINOR

Tomodachi window will probably change frequently depending on my mental state and mood :]

Heyo, I'm Asher :] (he/they)

You can call me:

  • Can tab/can tab eater/tabs
  • Asher (or shortenings such as ash)
  • maybe

As for identity: transmasc asexual biromantic grayromantic 

Why am I an offical/why is my gimmick so specific?: @/grim-reaper-offical glam killed me into the officalverse in early June! I was previously ieatcantabs, hence the cromnch

I can't be bothered making a dni list rn,  I'll just block you if it's that bad :/

Fandom shit and other stuff under cut bc this is long enough

you ever realize how able bodied people just are not expected to do things that cause them excruciating physical pain? like they’re just. not

if i shouldn’t use my cane because i can sometimes technically walk without it, it would just hurt like a motherfucker then abled people should no longer be allowed to use potholders to take things out of the oven because i mean

well they could technically pick up a hot pan with their bare hands. it would just hurt like a motherfucker

*sees an abled person using potholders*

i just think it’s really sad that you’re giving up on yourself like that

idc about '&' and '/' in ao3 tags. I want a '?' for wildcard. they're in a relationship. i won't tell you what kind

Other options: 'X' - It's '/', but moreso.

'||' - Waffles between '&' and '/'. One way doesn't work, they have to vacillate back and forth at least twice for this tag to apply.

'&&' - '&', but moreso, bordering on '/'. Queerplatonics, I see you.

'^' - Trapped in a constant war of oneupmanship. Destined to implode.

'*' - Enemies that make out sloppy style sometimes.

'$' - Capitalism is involved. Innately toxic.

'!' - Enemies that make out sloppy style, also they're in love but they don't know what they would DO if they weren't enemies, also this is just Kim Possible and Shego, I have no defense your honor.

'?' - This isn't the Author not telling you, this is the Author NOT KNOWING WHAT THE HELL IS GOING ON, the characters are DOING A THING and the Author is only involved as the idiot writing it all down, they ain't steering this ship.

stole @fenoy7's cat because I can

THE HAIRSTYLE IS SO INACCURATE AHZMJXYVANXISUSHD

tagging @funz1es and @beigetiger xoxoxoxoxo

Meep

Tagging @vividvermilion @mortalcoils @i-put-the-hyper-in-hyperfixated and anyone else who wants to do this!

yayyayayyy thank you for the tag!!

updated version since may

I generally like to highlight positive things with my comics, so unless anything new happens with Harry Potter/JK Rowling down the road I’m anticipating this being the last time I want to have a comic on the subject.

There was another idea that folks were putting out there in comment threads last week that I thought was a little silly, so I’d like to quickly address it in non-comic form: folks saying that anything we consume has some kind of morally dubious strings attached.

To that point, I absolutely agree!  Everything we consume, especially in more affluent nations, has some amount of exploitation involved. 

Where I break away from this concept, however, is that folks were listing things like gasoline, electronics, food, clothing, etc.

What, exactly, is the caloric value of Harry Potter? 

When parents come back from work and put food on the table, are they serving up a hot tray of Weasley sibling plushies? 

How did they earn the money to provide that plentiful bounty if not by using fossil fuels and telecommunication devices in a society that compels their use?

Equating a book series to necessities like food/clothing/etc is an intellectually dishonest argument. 

Saying “don’t consume Harry Potter” is literally offering self-proposed allies a simple, insanely easy layup.

The fact that doing something that requires zero effort, nor is asking any life sacrifice to be made, is still too much of an ask for some people tells you what you probably already know:

Those folks were never allies to begin with.

One more thing that I want to touch on regarding responses from last week.  I’ve been making comics for fifteen years; for the most part, I wouldn’t respond to negative comments, but one thing I would never respond to was cruel comments. 

There was a comment that, for me anyway, fit the bill of “cruel”.  The person in question accused me of not being transgender, and that I’m a bad actor MAGA trying to stir up strife.  I couldn’t see the whole of the comment as it was deleted before I woke up the next day, but in my notifications on mobile I was able to see the commenter’s name and the first bit of what they wrote. 

For the first time in my life, I responded to a cruel comment.  Here’s what I wrote:

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Hey!

Wanted to reach out to you regarding a comment you made to me that appears to have been deleted.  I first saw it on mobile and was only able to see part of the comment, but of what I did see, it read:

               “Hi!  Just wanted you to know that I am an ally to trans people, but not you, because you don’t deserve allies.  I honestly don’t even think you are actually a real trans person.  You’re more than likely a right-wing MAGA who just wants to pick fights and cause trouble for the LGBTQ…”

               -your comment

I’m sure to a degree you knew that this was wrong to say, as it appears as though you’ve deleted the comment. 

What I’m not sure about is why you came to the conclusion that you did, and I’d like to understand. 

My comic is available online and I don’t hide anything about myself, at least not anymore since I came out.  As a quick rundown of my journey to this point, I was questioning my gender starting around twelve/thirteen, knew I was trans at twenty, didn’t speak a word of it until I was twenty-nine when I came out to a few people, then didn’t do anything about it again until I was thirty-five and decided that I wanted to transition.  I then publicly came out at thirty-six (I’m currently thirty-seven).

It took a long time to get to a point where I could overcome the shame I had for how I felt, and an even longer time to finally start talking about this part of myself that I was compelled to hide.

It’s an awful thing for someone to waltz into a situation multiple decades in the making and then declare that a journey they had no part in or knowledge of to be untrue.

Even the smallest amount of double checking would have revealed that I’m being genuine, it’s a shame you decided to say such a hurtful thing with no due diligence.

I’ve strolled through your comment history to better understand where you’re coming from.  I appreciate that you are someone with strong convictions and that you’re open to communicating them.  However, a lot of what you’re saying doesn’t appear to be productive. 

For one, having strong convictions mean nothing when you’re voting third party.  I understand that you voted blue in 2024, but it looks like Libertarian is your party most of the time.  There is no such thing as neutral on a moving train.  You either push the train forward, or try to stop it.  Neutrality only helps the people pushing the train forward.

While my comic certainly is accusatory of a specific behavior, I’m not looking to pick a fight.  Your comments, however, are calling people losers, telling people to “stay mad”, telling people they’re worthless, and gloating about all the sex you’re having.

That’s what trying to pick a fight looks like, why are you doing it?

I’m not going to pretend to understand the story of your life, or tell you that your experiences aren’t true.  But what I can say is that I have an understanding of what it’s like to be angry at things in life and not always have the most elegant words to communicate those feelings.

Whatever it was in life sparked so much anger in you that you decided to invalidate my identity so casually and callously, I’m sorry that happened and I hope things improve for you.

Best,

Alex

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I guess that’s all I’ve got to say today. 

Last week was weird.

i think about this post all the time.

So I follow N. D. Stevenson (comics writer and animator, most famous for Nimona and She-Ra and the Princesses of Power) and his husband Lee Ostertag (also a comics writer and animator) on Instagram. When I started following them, they were both publicly presenting as women, and then a few years ago N. D. came out as transmasc nonbinary, and then earlier this year Lee also came out as transmasc. Anyway this is all setup to say that Lee had the chance to make the funniest post of all time and he took it:

I want to throw in that part of the context behind this meme was N.D. talking about how he sometimes gets hatemail for marrying a man as a former lesbian, and how many people seem to think he divorced his wife.

I have not managed to find anyone who thinks that in the wild, but it is so damn funny.

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