Sometimes I wish people were a little bit more sympathetic to people who struggle with sex or even just physical touch in general cus the way a lot of people talk about it makes it sound like they're blaming people for just. Being uncomfortable. Like if people are telling YOU how to live YOUR life then that's fair enough but a lot of the time it's literally just people expressing their struggles and it's seen as them failing or being a prude or just being "stupid" and overreactive. I'm not saying people should be told that their discomfort is a good thing that they should keep fueling, but I really don't think shaming people for their shame is gonna make the shame go away, maybe that's just me being a prude though.
#i see it quite a lot and its disheartening and unhelpful#there are ways to speak about sex and physical touch positively without ridiculing or blaming people for struggling with it#people need support and positive reinforcement and encouragement and safety#not to just be pushed further into the corner#because not only do they believe they should be ashamed of touch + sex in whatever capacity but ALSO should be ashamed about being ashamed#what is this rhetoric supposed to achieve#if people are attacking you for being comfortable with those things then thats another thing#but just punching down at people who aren't as comfortable with themselves and other people as you are is. not very nice actually.#some people are so in their own bubble they seem to genuinely believe that nobody struggles with those things anymore#because we know better now! there's literally no reason why someone would feel ashamed unless they were just a bad sex-hater religious type#it is notttt that simple#you are making it worse im sorry#cw sex mention#asexual#ace#lgbtq#lgbtqia#aroace#acespec#i must always apologise for my feelings#no matter what they are they are always the wrong feelings to have and its exhausting#whether i like it or i dont someone is going to be mad at me for it#rant
