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i understand making fun of people for being immature assholes but does anyone else get increasingly uncomfortable with how quickly it goes from "lol that 30 year old is getting into fandom fights with teenagers" to "lol i bet they don't have a job and live with their mom and still watch cartoons and have an under developed brain" like ok........ ok hang on im seeing red flags here.... the ableism smoke detector is beeping gang......
In response to a popular comic that's been floating around.
Headcanons are not activism. Ships are not activism. Fandom engagement at large is not activism. Punching down on someone for relating to a character in their own way, especially by claiming the way they are relating to the character is inherently not progressive, is reductive and damaging. Believing those who disagree with you are bigots and what they bring to the conversation is wrong or irrelevant is reductive and damaging. Telling any group that their headcanons 'overpower' fandom and are 'an epidemic' is reductive and damaging.
You are ostensibly telling someone they're playing with their dolls wrong. We are well past the age to be fighting over who gets the swings at the playground or whether you should go through the monkey bars forwards or backwards. Turning exceedingly minor fandom disagreements into a moral crusade, using the opportunity to feed into existing discourse about vulnerable groups, and refusing to listen to the voices of the group you are harming by mislabeling them all under a pejorative reactionary term to de-legitimize them makes you a bad person. Be better.
peace and love on planet earth or whatever
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BTW i see these posts all the time like "ohhh i dont know what to comment on fics.." and every response is "keysmashes! or hearts!! anything works :3" and thats GREAT!! thats helpful!!
but: consider. if u genuinely like analyzing writing.. do u know ur just allowed to go through and quote your favorite parts and ramble abt what they mean to u and the author will LOSE IT WITH HYPE?
genuinely. i felt SO WEIRD the first time i did it.. but like. holy shit authors love it. its crack for authors. the first time i did it, it was on a fic that hadnt updated in half a year, give or take, and the author made 3 updates that month BECAUSE OF MY COMMENT.
LIKE. as an author every comment is INCREDIBLE!!! but also, dont feel like your comment has to be short or otherwise ur invasive or smth!! authors ADORE long comments more than ANYTHING.
Nyanlang
I eat with a fork in my dominant right hand and a knife in my non-dominant left hand.
When cutting meat, if possible, I hold down with the knife and tear with the fork.
I have been doing this for as long as I can remember.
My parents kept trying to make me not do so, but I persisted anyway.
I am not sure why I do so. It just feels better.
Anyone else do this?
my fave thing abt the "bring back bullying crowd" is that if pressed they go "um... bullying actually provided negative reinforcement that prevented people from doing socially unacceptable things with no repercussion" oh you mean like. like being an asshole to strangers for no reason. like. that's p socially unacceptable. imo anyway. like you're doing rn? stopped stuff like that? I'll hit you with a brick
dont bring back bullying bring back me as your god-judge with a brick
let it be known that I would be posting all the illya sprites if the image limit per post wasn't 10
whatever, here's a selection of 10 good ones
live
always complain about things. okay, you know how programmers explain their code to rubber ducks when it's not working? same principle. an appliance breaks down. I get pissed off, try everything, go through the various stages of despair etc. I complain about it to a friend and explain why it frustrates me so bad, and suddenly I'm thinking 'wait I should try unplugging it and then doing a factory reset and then—' and I go home and do that and it starts working again. I keep losing my earrings. I complain about it to a friend, about how I keep them all in a little dish but then the specific one I want always dematerialises the moment I want it. my friend says 'I just keep them on the little card backs they came with' and I think well shit, I always throw those out. but then I think aha I can make a bunch of pinholes in a decorative postcard. genius. I read a story. it's about something I'm usually into, but for some reason I don't like this story at all. I complain about it, I figure out what irritates me about it, I have a great idea for a way better story. I try a new recipe, it doesn't come together. I bitch about it like crazy, about what I thought I did right and how it failed, and before I know it I'm explaining out loud which parts I'm inexperienced at or didn't understand or adjusted wrong. I need a little table for drawing on. I complain about it in the group chat, two days later someone says 'hey I spotted the kind of table you're looking for on the side of the road, do you want to come pick it up'. I complain, endlessly. my life is enriched. the art of complaining.
The idea of “but everyone knows that” needs to stop.
I saw a post about someone chiding Millennials for not knowing about JKRowlings transphobia, and asking how it is at all possible that people can exist in the world and the internet and, you know, not know.
Which I mean, I get. It is so present in so many of my online spaces that it seems astounding that someone could simply be ignorant! It feels impossible!
But let me tell you a story:
I went on a girls trip with a bunch of friends. All of us are rather incredibly liberal and all of us are incredibly online.
One girl would not stop talking about Harry Potter.
At one point, another girl asked her why she was ok with supporting it, and she had no real clue that JK Rowling was at all transphobic. She had heard that she likes to support Lesbian causes and thought “oh ok cool!” And that was it. She was AGOG with the news and rather horrified.
I must once again emphasize that she was an incredibly online person. She’s a foodie and a restaurant blogger.
Later in the trip we were picking restaurants and I suggested one I found on Google, and she gasped at me. Actually gasped, asking how I could ever be okay picking that one.
The shock must’ve been on my face, because she then told me all of the shitty things that restaurateur does. He abuses staff. Underpays them. Fires them on a whim. Is known for being one of the worst people to his employees in the entire restaurant business on this coast.
And she was so shocked I had never heard of this. Because in her mind, I was just as online as her. And in her online world, EVERYONE knew about this guy.
So I think the moral of this story is: always approach the other person with some empathy. Even online people, even people you think MUST know about how bad people are, may not have heard. It may truly be just them being on a different sphere of the internet than you.
So be gentle, be kind when letting people know they might not have heard about the cancellation of XYZ person. Don’t assume that everyone knows all the same info as you.
By all means, let them know so they can make informed decisions, but being kind will go a lot further than attacking them for some info they might not know yet.
"Friends outside of Minnesota please read. I'm sharing a post written by a personal friend and medical doctor: Friends outside MN, you need to know what is happening here. Everyone knows that ICE shot and killed a woman here on Wednesday. But that’s not the only thing that’s going on:
Here's an AP news brief with a little more info. It's limited in the way major news outlets are right now but provides context that supports the personal account shared.
If you want to help Minnesota, here is a list of places to donate to including rent relief, food aid, and legal organizations
The trailer of Adult Swim’s first fully Spanish series, a lesbian stop-motion animation titled “Women Wearing Shoulder Pads”, was just released recently. Unfortunately, it’s fallen under the radar, and most of the comments are people complaining about woke. Give it some love!
I saw a video of a 13 year old girl damaging her parents' truck with a pickaxe, supposedly because they took her phone away. The comments were full of "this is what gentle parenting leads to".
Why does everyone think children like that received "gentle parenting"? Children don't learn violence and rage out of nowhere. And I highly doubt it was only in response to her phone being taken away. When children are abused constantly and reminded that everyone sides with their abusers and they have zero proper channels for holding their abusers accountable, they have to pick something to do about it. They're going to get a beating anyway just for using the wrong tone, so they might as well do something to deserve it.
Also, remember when that piece of shit Tommy Jordan shot his daughter's laptop with a gun because he was angry about a Facebook post she made? He was met with praise. Everyone wonders where children learn their violent outbursts from, while adults are praised for theirs.
Maybe if children were treated like people, this wouldn't happen.
People are so desperate to believe that children grow up to be monsters if you don't beat, threaten, and control them enough. They have to believe their own abuse made them better, and that abusing a child is for their own good. Because if they ever acknowledged or even considered the truth, then they'd have a lot of introspection to do on who they've let themselves become. And so the generational cycle continues.
It needs to end. Now.
