everything is embarrassing

many people know loons from heated rivalry, but now laser loon is the symbol of the resistance here

This one I found on Reddit is my current favorite. Get 'em, bird.

A whistleblower at the fascist DHS has released the names of 4,500 ICE and Border Patrol agents, providing an unprecedented means to monitor and counter their local presence

If you're an american, go check https://icelist.is/ to see if there's any ice/dhs/border patrol agents living near you. If there are, start planning how you're going to burn their car and/or home to the ground while theyre terrorizing some city in another state, without endangering yourself or others of course.

the choctaw vampire hunters in sinners, photographed by eli joshua adé, smpsp.

Music in Film: Sinners (2025) dir. Ryan Coogler

Wani Souma.

opal carved by makoto nakano

❁ pyrex ❁

patron saint of conflicts of interest

hello from me & the ever present temptation to take off your skin and walk out into the sea forever

Share this, please. Do not be fooled by ICE’s administrative warrants. They are NOT a legal basis for a search or to enter your home or business. For that, ICE must present a JUDICIAL WARRANT.

The difference is shown below. Study it.

Who is you Chiron?

winter night [print]

overall, more than being able to diagnose yourself as a particular attachment style or whatever, the most insightful thing i've learnt from attachment theory is that we have a deep need for unreciprocated loving care, attunement, safety, comfort, and encouragement at a young age from a mature caregiver who is "good enough": who is reasonably consistent, and who has the capacity to repair after misattunement. it is crucial that this loving care is not mutual

at this stage, the child should not have to consider the caregiver's needs, limitations, stresses, because the child has no capacity or power to respond appropriately. being forced to think about their caregiver, to second-guess their own spontaneous impulses because of their caregiver's inability to provide a safe space for the child, to adapt prematurely and suppress their own needs, is what creates insecure attachment

this doesn't mean that the child shouldn't show love or care at all, but that expressions of love are spontaneous and heartfelt, given freely, rather than motivated by a need to secure the caregiver's love for fear of losing it

the more i think about it, the more i believe that so much of adult "selfish" or "entitled" or even violent behaviour in relationships is a misguided attempt to get this very real need for unreciprocated love met. the necessity of mutuality and balance in adult relationships, of having to regulate your own feelings for another person, to be present to them without agenda, to attune to them and sit in their perspective, reminds the person of being forced to forgo their own needs for the caregiver in childhood, and this provokes fear, anger, resentment, disengagement, anxiety, shame

some part of them is still trying to find that safe container where they can receive without giving, where they don't have to think about the other person. to this part of them, their own loving actions are understood as a performance and a means to an end to try to secure this safe container, where they'll finally have those deep needs met, and where they won't have to adapt to another

in a way it's tragic, because there's no way to get those needs wholly met as an adult. the attempt to meet those needs in adult relationships often results in dynamics that reinforce insecurity instead of healing it, getting people stuck in cycles. i do think spirituality and religion can meet that need to receive unconditionally. ideal parent figure protocol and internal family systems therapy can simulate the feeling of younger parts receiving from older parts/"self"/ideal parents. the therapeutic relationship can meet some of those needs in a limited, mediated way, and maybe other more one-sided relationships do that too

but having to actively choose to reckon with your unmet needs means letting go of the fantasy that you'll find that space where you can simply receive, where all of your needs will be met forevermore, and where you can let go of your relational responsibilities: your accountability to both yourself and others. your responsibility to care for yourself and to care for others

that can be a process of grief, maybe even involving grief for your caregiver whose childhood needs were also unlikely to have been met. you can contextualise their actions in the conditions of broader material insecurity and injustice (if racial capitalism is organised abandonment, then it also acts to organise emotional abandonment through deprivation of resources). letting go of the fantasy can also be liberating, though, especially once you let yourself feel the cost of being fixated on an emotional outcome that can never eventuate

i don't think it's a linear process though, and so many kinds of relationships all the way from childhood to adulthood can reshape and reform our emotional needs, steadying us in different ways and different contexts, often according to what feels safe and tolerable at that point in time. there's wisdom in the pace that the mind and body chooses to process, grieve, rest, stagnate, let go, leap forward

and hopefully, at a certain point, the child desire for that pure reception of love is counterbalanced by experiencing adult reciprocity and desiring that too. not as transaction or begrudged compromise, but something flexible and open and improvised. something that strengthens your integrity and self-respect

Leslie Levings, An Effort to Release It

Wild Blackberries - Lucy Clayton

British , b. 1970s

Watercolour, blotted line technique and ink on paper , 42 x 59.4 cm.

Theresa Graves- VAMPIRA (1974)