We all know what erectile dysfunction is but literally no one is ever taught what vaginismus is and it can cause people to feel extremely lost, broken, and cause people to take their own lives. Raise. Awareness.
For the uninformed, vaginismus is when the vagina painfully tightens and spasms when faced with pressure, usually from anything trying to insert into the vagina. It’s the reason I can’t wear tampons, and why many people can’t have vaginal sex without severe pain.
There’s not a lot of treatments, and there isn’t a single one that is for vaginismus exclusively - they’re all medications or treatments to treat symptoms, but not the causes. In fact, for a long time doctors waved off vaginismus as a purely psychological disorder in cis women.
Seriously, this is so unaddressed and uncared for in medical circles. Please spread awareness, even if all it’s for is to let those who have it but don’t have a name for it finally be able to understand what’s happening to their bodies.
Certified Sex Ed Post!
Hi hello! This post is almost 10 years old and there ARE treatments for this. Vaginismus is otherwise known as pelvic hypertonia and it is a MUSCULAR condition that can be caused by many different factors including endometriosis, trauma, chronic UTIs, and connective tissue disorders.
It’s incredibly common! And it can be treated by physiotherapy.
I know this because I’m currently undergoing physio and although it can take months to recover, I’m already seeing improvement. A lot of the pelvic floor exercises are available online, but if you have these symptoms please TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR and see if you can get a physio referral (or investigation for underlying causes like endometriosis).
Also, my additions to posts never get reblogged so a note to my followers: this is SUPER IMPORTANT ISSUE that affects many people and is rarely talked about. Please reblog, and please share this info with as many people as possible.
Pelvic hypertonia/vaginismus is incredibly debilitating and psychologically damaging but it CAN BE TREATED. Spread the word, and you never know who you’ll be throwing a lifeline to.
I adore her little flaps
its so fucked that they get to use music in commercials. that my fucking wife asshole
the new dj crazytimes song … now that’s what I call music!
The best part of this:
“Should I risk my life?”
Then, Slavically, “Yeah, I will do it for you.”
I hope she knows how much we all adore her
Who is this woman I must tell her that she has restored my awe for physics at the (my) age of 35 years in the span of one 2 minute video
Her name is Tatiana Erukhimova, and she works for Texas A&M University.
I keep meeting artists who complain that Tumblr Is Dead then when I check their blog they've made four posts in six months and all of them were self promo lmao. Influencers whining that "tumblr is useless for engagement" tells me every part of the problem, like sorry you can't just show up and farm this userbase for clicks by waving buzzwords around the way you can on tiktok. This is the Excited About Stupid Things website reblog some shitty fanart or die
Bringing back this ancient post because I would like to add that I think another reason people have trouble connecting with others on here is that nobody even glances at their new followers' pages or checks out the regulars who DO show up in their notifications. You should be checking for bots anyway but like you could already have cool creators hanging around you and you don't even know it because you log in to drop your posts and immediately leave, you have to Live Here dude. Meet the neighbors.
I've been giving this writing advice to a lot of my friends lately so I'll do a mumbling post about it here.
You gotta play dolls with your characters.
Slap them in AUs, make silly fanfiction, make "what if?" senarios. You gotta recreate the feeling of taking your toys out as a kid and improv-ing a story on the spot. You'll get a sense of what makes them who they are outside of their main storyline.
Take a piece of yourself, expand and explore upon it. Create characters and storylines that are love letters to those you've cared most about. Take that little ball of hate and/or despair and give yourself a little therapy lesson.
Be bored! Be frustrated! Be unsatisfied! "Someone should make a story about ___" YOU should make that story! If you aren't satisfied with the media you see, make for yourself the story you DO want to see! Don't worry about how others will view it. For right now, for right at the beginning, the only way you're gonna make progress is if you're having a bit of fun.
LITERALLY YES!
I've been able to explore alot of my characters this way, be they personal writing projects I wanna get off the ground, or even dnd things!
Cannot overstate it enough that doing aus helps you look at a character from every angle imaginable!
Putting my ocs in their own AUs, even just to ponder on it and not actually write anything, has helped me figure out their canon stories! Sometimes the concepts of the AUs are more interesting than the canon, but for various reasons I cannot simply abandon or change the canon in order to do the AU as a main story (a lot of my AUs are just me shoving my ocs into the roles of other well known stories and characters, like direct fairytale retellings or superhero comics) so I have to stop and ask myself "why are the AUs exciting in a way the canon is not?" And then alter the canon to have these more exciting elements.
Why is my throuple story more fun when I put them into all these other stories? The root seems to be that one character in particular ends up with a more abusive famoly situation and gets a damsel in distress role in most of the AUs, while the canon was lacking that tension. Solution: get their abusive birth family more involved in the canon version instead of just blissfully shoving them into a background element where they have no influence on the plot.
Why is my trans woman x bird man couple so interesting in the AUs? Because they meet as adults when bird dude can no longer hide his supernatural connections. Can't force that into my canon though, I like their dynamic as childhood friends and too many story details would have to be scrapped if I changed it. But I can perhaps emphasize how badly he and his wife are trying to ignore the supernatural connections and drive up the tension to a breaking point.
Etc.
Put those ocs in situations and analyze the results! You never know what you'll discover
knew from a young age that i was weird and unfixable
if your partner doesn't want you to take hormones or get surgery, you should break up with them or divorce them. your body is yours alone.
He gets up like nothing happened . he doesn't even care
You can pinpoint the exact moment he turns to liquid
tragic when a thing gets hate for being 'woke trash' and you look into it and its not even that woke. like cmon man i was promised monacle popping gay commie propaganda. this is just a video game with a woman in it.
my daily affirmation as an author
[ID: "Cold weather reminder. Do NOT plug space heaters into power strips or extension cords. Plug space heaters directly into the wall outlet. Power strips are not designed to handle the high current flow required by a space heater and can overheat causing a fire."
A photo is attached of a power strip with an extremely charred end. Part of the power strip's wire is also charred. End ID]
My husband, an electrician, told me I have to reblog this.
For clarification's sake, is this true everywhere? I ask because I know that different countries have different quality home electricity provision; American home electricity Ain't Great compared with most of Europe, for example. In Wales I have never heard of this being a Thing, but our electricity comes in 240V flavour, so possibly the higher current naturally avoids this issue?
My British husband (not an electrician but electrician-adjacent) says yes this is true in the UK as well - anything that uses a lot of power should be plugged directly into the wall rather than an extension lead
Good to know, thank you!
*gets up to replug space heater*
I live by the motto, “if you can’t buy what you want, make it.” And this motto came to life recently in the form of a floral mosaic dining table for my back deck.
Our deck table had been showing its age already when the wind caught the umbrella and cracked it. I wanted to replace it with a mosaic table because I’d been enjoying that art form recently. But I couldn’t get one the size I wanted so I got creative.
I spent a few weeks looking for tile and figuring out a very loose design concept. I started by picking a limited set of tile shapes and a color palette.
Once the tiles arrived I had a piece of particle board cut to size for the base and I experimented with different motifs until I settled on a selection of floral shapes that gave me plenty of variety to fill space without locking me into one repeating pattern.
And then I was off! I basically doodled my way around the table, attaching tiles with Weld Bond (I went through 4 full bottles!) and rocking out to the K-Pop Demon Hunters soundtrack.
Once the florals were done it was time for the background…
Over 3,800 1cm glass tiles make up the not-design part of the design. It went pretty quickly though because I just had to fill the space, leaving room for grout.
Once I had the tile done, my husband assisted with disassembly and reassembly. We used the legs off the original table for this one (waste not).
One huge bucket of black grout later…
She is finished.
I enjoyed making it and just looking at it makes me so happy - I can’t wait for all the dinners we’ll have around this table 🌼❤️