such a fucking shit show with dating. Apps are busted. How do you meet people in the age and demographic you wanna date seriously? Spend hundreds of dollars on classes for hobbylike things? things that you either already know how to do and awkwardly show up and have the instructors be like oh... why are you here? and make everyone feel bad for how amateur they are compared to you? or things that inevitably only middle aged married people have time to do? or things that only heterosexual women do? or things that couples do?
volunteer? and again meet only retired married people? I'm all for intergenerational friendships but no one is looking to meet people at these things I'm told to meet people at. Shannon and Kate and Martha are all here at this class together as gal pals and don't wanna talk to someone 20 years younger. Alexis is there for serious business and isn't interested in friends or chitchat. Doreen is an insecure 55 year old who laughs awkwardly when the 29 year old already knows how to draw/sculpt/use a camera/write/crochet/whatever. The volunteers are all there for Serious Business and there's no time to chit chat and chit chat is about their children or their divorce anyway but toodles they're driving off as soon as their shift is over cuz they have to make lunch for the kids school lunches tomorrow.
No, I don't want to run, my feet and knees are fucked. No, I can't take my dog to dog parks regularly - the nearest ones frequently have dog fights (hello, east bay) and all the others require driving and almost everyone there is a 40-60 year old with their dogs and kids.
No, I don't wanna hike, because again the knees but also getting there is impossible without driving. Inevitably workout classes are gay dudes and groups of girlfriends and again those retirees and they're all so fucking crunchy borderline making it feel like a cult.
The writing group is literally called Shut Up I'm Writing and Sit Down And Write In Silence. The gaming groups are college boys who earnestly tell you they want a Japanese wife because she will be obedient and older men just wearily trying to have a boys night with this one shot.
No, I don't want to be spending hundreds of dollars on drinks. A beer costs 12 bucks - if it's a cheap disgusting one - and a cocktail costs 20. And how depressing is sitting around in various bars for hours a week trying to become a "regular"?
Oh, I forgot about libraries! All the events end up being for kids or elderly people and suffer the same pitfalls as classes. But hey at least they're free.
And no. No I will not be dating someone from work.
So what the hell do you do.
