If you're in the US, now is a great time to talk to the young people in your life about the US military:

People are truly incapable of seeing nonbinary people as their gender.

From the start, you are forced to pick between the labels transmasculine and transfeminine based on your AGAB. From then on, if you don't visibly present as the side you are transitioning to, you are seen as woman-lite or man-lite until others consider your transition complete, in which case you'll just be treated as a binary trans person.

Subvert this system in any way and your identity becomes scrutinised.

If you use a label like "transneutral" or "transxenine", expect doubts about whether your experience is real, or to still be asked if you're male or female ('transfem' or 'transmasc'/'TMA' or 'TME') so that they can categorise you still.

If you're multitrans, you will be told you're co-opting labels and either treated as a confused transmasc or a confused cis woman (yes, even if you're perisex AMAB).

And obviously if you're a AFAB transfem enby or an AMAB transmasc enby, you're actually just a cis woman/cis man, because you're 'not transitioning'. Damn, I thought we left the truscum rhetoric behind but apparently not.

I refuse to succumb to this system, in any shape or form. I am multitrans. I am a honeybee transfem and a coffee bean transmasc. Deal with it, because I'm not going anywhere.

I'll go ahead and say outright that PCOS-exacerbated perimenopausal symptoms tend to respond overwhelmingly well to HRT.

Not all symptoms and not all people of course. But in general, taking a milder-than-T androgen and micronized progesterone will kick the shit out of so many symptom sets. The rest tend to respond well to the addition of estrogen.

HRT for perimenopause has a really, really bad reputation because it was quite unsafe at one time, about 30 years ago. However, that was several generations of medication ago. These days, it's as safe as HRT for transition.

However, doctors will only very rarely recommend HRT for PCOS+perimenopause, because of that reputation of being very dangerous, and also because. Well.

Let's be real here.

The medical system absolutely hates the "makes women fat and mean" disease (PCOS), and they will absolutely try to punish you for having it, by prescribing you nothing more helpful than exercise, and punish your mother for "getting old," too. It's a malignant kind of malpractice taking advantage of the fact that most people don't have the time and knowledge to make suggestions about their own care and rely entirely on doctors.

There's a reason the gray-market for perimenopausal care is so robust, after all. I can think of 3 "all-in-one" online "clinics" just off the top of my head specializing in getting people this kind of prescription when their doctor refuses care.

Thank you for the addition and information, I actually didn't know that HRT for menopause had gotten safer myself so that's quite good to hear :)

I haven’t been on this app in a while, but I know a Black man, Keith Porter, was murdered by ICE on New Year’s Eve (Rest in Power) in Cali. Just one of the countless Black people who’ve been murdered by ICE and other agents of the state.

I log back into this app and see the conversations around the white woman, Renee Good, who was just recently killed. And I can’t help but notice the stark difference in circulation of news and boosting of stories between both of them across this app…

Shit has BEEN happening to Black people across administrations and is currently happening to Black people under this administration, and is met by crickets. Yet when it starts touching white people, I see real anger start being felt from the gen pop followed by amplification and co-opting of Black terms and memorialization… I stg it takes everything in me to give af about yall.

"Friends and family of the 43-year-old man who was fatally shot by a Department of Homeland Security agent in Northridge on New Year's Eve gathered on Sunday to demand accountability and hold a candlelight vigil for their lost loved one."

Do not forget the other victims of ICE

as much as we must mourn and stand in solidarity with Renee Nicole Good, please do not forget the other victims of ice raids, who are not white. Silverio Villegas González, a cook from mexico who was dropping his son off at daycare and was murdered Jaime Alanis, a farmer from mexico who fell off a green house at the farm where he worked to send money to his wife and daughter Roberto Carlos Montoya Valdez, a father and grandfather from Guatemala who was hit by a car Josué Castro Rivera, a garden from Honduras who was struck by a car And so many others who were killed or are dying in detention centres, prisons ect racial bias is always something we must be aware of, Renee will be focused on because she was a white woman and a US citizen, but do not forget all the other victims of ICE, may they all rest in power

It scares me how many people seem to think that trans men and mascs transitioning makes our lives easier.

When the reality is that any trans person seeking transition, from social to medical, are choosing to affirm themselves in the face of a society that does not want us to. Transitioning from any gender to any gender causes more hardship than what the individual would have faced without transition. Transitioning doesn’t remove the bigotry they may have been facing prior to transition, and often actively increases it instead.

But people are so convinced (by the repetition of the TERF rhetoric) that by-way-of transitioning from woman to man, that someone’s life will be made easier. Because we are allergic to looking at the actual lived experiences of trans men and mascs. Because it would show that things aren’t quite as simple as man = easy life and woman = oppressed life.

Oh, of course after I hit post another thought comes to me.

How much of this comes down to oppositional sexism?

Trans women obviously make their lives harder by transitioning. They’re going from man to woman. It’s extremely easy to understand why trans women are in more danger when they choose to not live in the closet.

Because of the erasure of trans men and mascs, people fill in our experiences as the opposite of trans women.

It's fucked up how many people think disabled people have to submit to the authority of our doctors, and if we ever go against their word we're automatically in the wrong and should have our autonomy violated to force us back into compliance "for your own good". Y'all really need to internalize the fact that systemic ableism is thoroughly intertwined with the medical system, and doctors have terrifying amounts of power over their patients

i think people should be nicer to schizophrenics

I feel like people reblogging and spreading this post around are completely missing the original context that this was a vent post and not a general statement. I am schizophrenic. I posted this after remembering a specific time someone actively made an effort to comb through my online profiles and look for reasons to claim I'm "problematic" in order to get me banned from one of the few places i feel safe talking in because they found me mildly annoying and wanted a more valid reason to hate me. I was a minor at the time.

A lot of people are reblogging this without the addition too which frustrates me because I feel like it's really important to bring attention to the specific sort of discrimination schizophrenic people are subject to.

People will see that you're visibly mentally ill, think that you're annoying and actively look for reasons to dislike you, leading to your presence being constantly fucking monitored and judged because everyone's looking for a concrete reason to hate you. That's what this post is about. this is not a general positivity post or a statement. This is an exasperated vent from a schizophrenic person who has been pushed to his fucking brink so many times.

This doesn't just apply to schizophrenia of course- this applies to other schizospec or psychotic disorders, this applies to personality disorders (ESPECIALLY CLUSTER B.) and this spplies to DID and OSDD and other dissociative disorders. Hell this applies to any even remotely stigmatized disorder. I've seen friends with nothing up with them except for mild autism be treated like this solely because someone found them annoying.

My point is that people should really think hard about why you may find these sorts of people annoying. Just really think about if they actually did anything wrong to you other than be annoying.

Generalizations against trans women are bad. They're not more progressive because you had a bad experience with one or several. I dont want to see anyone going around saying that trans women are more likely to hate trans men. Full stop.

Anything that sounds like "trans women are the major perpetrators of transandrophobia" or "I had bad experiences and now automatically react with a bias towards trans women" or "all the transfems on Tumblr are hateful" is transgynephobia and Im not going to stand for any of it. (Reason why Im saying transgynephobia instead of transmisogyny is that as far as Ive read, transmisogyny is explicitly about the intersection of transphobia and misogyny, and here Im talking about bigotry against trans women not a specific intersection, but please @transgynephobia-is do correct me if Im wrong)

Regardless of what you call it, it is pure bigotry. To make out a whole group of people as uniquely bad or more likely to be bad is not a new thing, and just because you have had experiences that support your biases doesnt mean the biases are legitimate. Being a trans woman has nothing to do with being bigoted against trans men. Everyone has the capacity to cause harm, no group is more likely to.

And for the record, I dont condone harrassment, targeting nor misgendering of any sort, regardless what a person has done.

what gets me is that if everyone woke up tomorrow and went ohhh the weight loss industry is EVIL evil like killing and disabling people for profit including children who don't have medical rights evil, and was always an evil scam, and everyone in the industry woke up tomorrow and publicly apologized for being evil and donated every cent they had to helping people recover and their companies dissolved and blew up and every medical doctor woke up tomorrow and went ohhhh shit of course that was wrong and unhealthy for everyone, i have to go apologize and fix what ive done to all my fat patients, and every weight loss supplement turned into pure clear water and every weight scam business location exploded and was instantly transformed into a green park and playground and library and shelter, and everyone was suddenly awakened to the reality like a dancing plague had suddenly passed. if all that happened the industry could disappear tomorrow and literally nothing of value would be lost. at all. there is literally nothing good or redeeming about any of this. its pure shit. its entirely evil.

it is a very good thing to do!!

it normalizes introducing yourself with your pronouns and asking other people for their pronouns! it normalizes not assuming pronouns just by the look.

it combats the idea that only trans/nonbinary/genderqueer people "have pronouns" and that only we would introduce ourselves with them. if more cis people did that, it wouldn't be considered "clockable" and wouldn't automatically paint a target on us.

it makes an actual difference for us. please continue to do so.

It's okay if you're nonbinary and the only way you can survive right now is out of spite.

Holding out against hate in this way is a form of love for all the other nonbinary people out there.

Hopefully, one day, you'll feel that love for yourself, too.

Not to be repetitive but genuinely sex positivity and sexual liberation only work if everyone realizes that sex isn’t that much of a fucking deal. It is not the be all end all of anything. It isn’t the crux of every coming of age story or the pinnacle of every relationship. It’s literally just a thing some folks do.

Obviously some folks will put significance on their own, personal experiences, or consider it to be like the highest form of intimacy/romance/etc, but also some folks think cooking together is the height of intimacy/romance/connection, some people put that insane amount of significance onto Hollidays or wacky traditions.

Nobody should be pressured to have/not have sex, nobody should be expected to put significant meaning on sex, the only sex folks should be worried about is their own (if they choose to have it) and if someone’s in a legitimate dangerous situation.

TLDR: sex can personally be a big deal for someone, but collectively everyone needs to stop giving a fuck because folks deciding to smoosh booties or deciding not to do that really is not that big a deal and literally doesn’t affect the general population in any meaningful way.

https://twitter.com/vagina_museum/status/1628046312275935232

YEAH

This is called being intersex, by the way! There are tons of sex variations and PMDS is one of them. I’m not sure why the entire post goes on without saying who we are.

Also the tags aren’t wrong, but the fact it focuses on trans/cis women when the post is about intersex men feels just a bit weird. Intersex people are so erased and we’re constantly brought up as proof the gender binary doesn’t exist, without actually being named or explicitly fought for. Like it isn’t wrong but it wouldn’t feel as inconsiderate if we got actual love.

So yeah. Intersex people exist! Please don’t forget us, and stick up for us too!

[Image IDs: Image #1-3: Series of tweets from verified user Vagina Museum (@/ vagina_museum) on Feb 21, 2023 reading: In 2014, a 70 year old cis man who had fathered four children went to hospital in Kashmir with an inguinal hernia. Everything about him and his life had so far been ordinary - except that the hernia turned out to be his uterus with an ovarian tube and broad ligament.

The man had the expected genotype of a cis man: 46XY. He had a cryptorchidism (an undescended testis) on one side, which affects about 1% of people. Everything external abut him was expected - except that he had a uterus, ovarian tube, and broad ligament.

The man has Persistent Müllerian Duct Syndrome (PMDS). This is a natural variation. Usually, if an embryo is developing as male, a hormone called anti Müllerian hormone is released.

The hormone prevents the development of Müllerian ducts, the tubes which eventually develop into the gynaecological internal anatomy. In PMDS, not enough of this hormone is released.

PDMS is considered quite rare, although in order to diagnose it, doctors need to use medical imaging, which isn’t usually done to people without symptoms, and can be entirely unaffordable to do at all in global majority countries.

The 70 year old father of four isn’t the only man who has discovered a uterus late in life! Last year, a 67 year old father of three from Kosovo went into hospital with a hernia and discovered the swelling was in fact a uterus, ovarian tube and an ovary

In 2011, a 35 year old father of two from India went to hospital with severe stomach pain. Imaging revealed that he had a uterus, two ovarian tubes, two ovaries and the upper part of a vagina.

In 2021, a father of one from the USA went to hospital with abdominal pain. The source of the pain was a tumor on his testis- but he also had a uterus, ovarian tubes, cervix and upper vagina.

In all of these cases - many other case studies of cis men who have discovered they have uteruses, the anatomy was found by accident, because everything else seemed “normal enough”.

You can read the case study of the 70 year old father of four here. Warning: it includes photos of his uterus.

Link preview for scienceDirect.com Hysterectomy in a male? A rare case report Persistent Mullerian duct syndrome is a rare form of male pseudo-hermaphroditism characterized …

Image #4 Tumblr tag from orpheuscas reading: #re: there is no definition of ‘woman’ that includes all cisgender women and excludes all others /End IDs]

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