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alright man we get it
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That Rolling Stone article about Chappell Roan... the bits about the shit she went through are already wild, but what really gets me is when the article starts listing. every. single. singer. who reached out to her, worried, to commiserate, to give tips, to agree that the harassment of fame is indeed hell. I'm like. "So y'all agree?? All of y'all agree being famous is horrible???" Good LORD.
Fellow stars have reached out to see if she’s OK. Charli XCX was one of the first to do so (..). Eilish has been keeping tabs on Roan (...). Hayley Williams DM’d her, offering to chat with Roan anytime. Katy Perry told her to never read the comments. Lorde gave her a helpful list of things to do at an airport to fly under the radar. The band Muna hosted her for dinner. Miley Cyrus invited her to a party. Lady Gaga has passed along her phone number (...). Roan went on walks and grabbed coffees with Lucy Dacus and Julien Baker. Their boygenius bandmate Phoebe Bridgers came over to Roan’s just to hang, commiserating on how fandom behavior has become increasingly “abusive and violent.” Sabrina Carpenter, who’s also had a shockingly massive year, suggested they meet up and unpack their summers. “We’re both going through something so fucking hard … she just feels like everything is flying, and she’s just barely hanging on,” Roan says. “It was just good to know someone else feels that way.” Backstage at the Vic Theatre in Chicago, Roan flashes her phone to show a lengthy email from Mitski she received that morning. “I just wanted to humbly welcome you to the shittiest exclusive club in the world, the club where strangers think you belong to them and they find and harass your family members,” it reads.
I?? MEAN???
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The mockingbird, the jabberjay and the mockingjay 🕊️ inspired by this post by @fromevertonow
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thinking about how when you experience a lot of shame in your formative years (indirectly, directly, as abuse or just as an extant part of your environment) it becomes really difficult to be perceived by other people in general. the mere concept of someone watching me do anything, whether it's a totally normal activity or something unfamiliar of embarrassing, whether I'm working in an excel spreadsheet or being horny on main, it just makes my skin crawl and my brain turn to static because I cannot convince myself that it's okay to be seen and experienced. because to exist is to be ashamed and embarrassed of myself, whether I'm failing at something or not, because my instinctive reaction to anyone commenting on ANYTHING I'm doing is to crawl into a hole and die. it's such a bizarre and dehumanizing feeling to just not be able to exist without constantly thinking about how you are being Perceived. ceaseless watcher give me a god damn break.
sorry to put your tags on blast on this insane breach containment post I have since muted, but you're right and you should say it.
It is defeatable. Go for the throat.
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This has been said before by people better at articulating their opinions than me, but the bad reception Black Widow got from male MCU fans is about so much more than just the simple concept that it's a superhero movie starring a woman, but the fact that it's so clearly a film by women for women. It's in all the little things, like all the amazing braids sported by the female characters instead of having them constantly fight with their hair down, Yelena and Natasha being excited about the vest and all its pockets, zero sexualisation of any of the Widows, the forced hysterectomy being discussed matter-of-factly, and the women getting to wear minimal to no make-up in settings where that makes sense. But it's also in the big things, like the story centred around the epidemic of girls being subjected to human trafficking with a theme of reclaiming your anatomy and freeing other female victims, both others’ and your own.
Obviously this doesn't mean that every single woman on earth is automatically gonna identify with and like the movie, that's an impossible achievement. But it is a movie that's so much more than pandering, and these geeks are just completely incapable of inserting themselves into a point of view different from their own.
Ok but re: Kudou saying "I killed the original Reiko Kujirai" is sort of the truth in his eyes i think. Kujirai-B said she's living her best version in life and that it cant get better than that, she refuses it to be better than that, and she killed herself the day after she got engaged, the night where she is supposedly at the highest level of happiness, when she is at her best self.
I think Kujirai B for all her laizzes faire attitude is actually so fucking afraid of life going downhill that she refuses to grow and want more, and when those growth are forced upon her she'd rather die than be faced with a potential fall... And anyway i think kudou knows this, knows the reason why Kujirai B chose to end her life at the very top, and he felt guilty for bringing her there, ergo, "killing her."
I think it's also why kudou is so cold to Kujirai A, why he's pushing and pulling and being such an asshole. He's afraid that if they go out again, if they date again, if they fell in love for real again, then Kujirai A will kill herself like Kujirai B. I feel like he's warring between longing to replicate his relationship with her, being afraid that it would end the same way, and actually falling in love witb Kujirai A as her own person.
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I think every computer user needs to read this because holy fucking shit this is fucking horrible.
So Windows has a new feature incoming called Recall where your computer will first, monitor everything you do with screenshots every couple of seconds and "process that" with an AI.
Hey, errrr, fuck no? This isn't merely because AI is really energy intensive to the point that it causes environmental damage. This is because it's basically surveilling what you are doing on your fucking desktop.
This AI is not going to be on your desktop, like all AI, it's going to be done on another server, "in the cloud" to be precise, so all those data and screenshot? They're going to go off to Microsoft. Microsoft are going to be monitoring what you do on your own computer.
Now of course Microsoft are going to be all "oooh, it's okay, we'll keep your data safe". They won't. Let me just remind you that evidence given over from Facebook has been used to prosecute a mother and daughter for an "illegal abortion", Microsoft will likely do the same.
And before someone goes "durrr, nuthin' to fear, nuthin to hide", let me remind you that you can be doing completely legal and righteous acts and still have the police on your arse. Are you an activist? Don't even need to be a hackivist, you can just be very vocal about something concerning and have the fucking police on your arse. They did this with environmental protesters in the UK. The culture war against transgender people looks likely to be heading in a direction wherein people looking for information on transgender people or help transitioning will be tracked down too. You have plenty to hide from the government, including your opinions and ideas.
Again, look into backing up your shit and switching to Linux Mint or Ubuntu to get away from Microsoft doing this shit.
there are multiple options here depending on how comfortable you are digging into your computer's registry. You can either simply disable it surface level through settings or excise it entirely from the system registry
reblogging again as a cautionary tale to please PLEASE fucking make a system restore point before you do anything. i consider myself tech savvy and still nearly bricked my computer. and make sure you know how to access safe mode
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what to watch (and read) after when life gives you tangerines
like everybody else i completely fell in love with when life gives you tangerines. i'm a huge fan of family stories & generational stories, so i thought i share my expertise with everyone, uf you are looking for something similar to watch! and for my fellow readers, there will be some book recommendations at the bottom. i will also share my personal pain factor so you can prepare yourself for more tissues. also some of these shows can have some quite triggering content, so please take care of yourself and look into them before to be safe (feel free to ask me too, i will try my best to help)!
1) pachinko (2022-, apple tv+, 16 episodes)
If you loved tangerines please, please watch this! Its one of the best things that has been made this decade and its so underrated! its another generational family set in korea & japan, following the family of korean immigrants in japan during and after the japanese occupation of korea. like tangerines it shows how parents are trying their best for their children even after one to many misfortunes. also from this list its the saddest imo (maybe even a touch sadder than tangerines 😖). Not a big cryier when it comes to media but both shows made me cry frequently. oh, and just to let you know i havent watched season 2 yet, so this is based on season 1 alone.
sadness factors: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
similarity: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
My overall rating: 🍊🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
2) our blues (2022, netflix, 20 episodes)
another show set on jeju, but modern day! It follows a community of people living on the island and the struggles they face. its kind of an anthology show by shifting on which characters to focus on, but most characters will appear in someway throughout the show. does both focus on family relationships and friendships, romantic relationships. Has bustling fish markets, haenyeo, complicated and flawed characters and beautiful writing.
sadness factor: 🍊🍊🍊/5
similarity: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
Family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
My overall rating: 🍊🍊🍊🍊.5/5
3) the bond (2021, viki + youtube, 36 episodes)
is set around the same time as tangerines (but in china). following a family who just lost their mother, which causes the eldest son having to raise his younger siblings because their dad is trash. we then follow them all grow up, going through the ups and downs in their life. less so about the parent/child dynamics but still a lot about family and the joy and pain that comes with it.
(there is a short sub plot about the military interventions in taipei (during i belive the 80s or 90s) that i wasnt to fond of how it was handeled. while it only takes up a small part of the show, i wanted to mention it)
Sadness factor: 🍊🍊.5/5
Similarity: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
overall rating: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
4) i'm married... but! (2025, netflix, 12 episodes)
first off all, i wish people would pay more attention to taiwanese cinema. so many great shows that fall under the radar.
but anyways, this is less so similar to the whole shows as it is to the first half which is focused on gwan-siks and ae-suns early marriage. It is about the complexities of marriage and finding a way to communicate better with each other. there are even some scenes that are quite similar, like when ae-sun has to get up in the early moring to fullfill ceremonies that will help her with pregnancy.
Sadness factor: 🍊🍊/5
Similarity: 🍊🍊.5/5
Family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
Overall rating: 🍊🍊🍊🍊.5/5
and now for my readers!
1) fatima farheen mirza- a place for us (2018)
like tangerines we have a in depth explorarion of family dynamics. and how you can try your best to be a parent, but at the end of the day you will always have blindspots that end up hurting your child. so beatifully written from different perspectives of the family members. so underrated, so lovely!
sadness factor: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
similarity: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
overall raiting: 🍊🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
2) angie cruz- how not to drown in a glass of water (2022)
a mother looking back at her live so far. slowly her regrets are being revealed of mistakes she made while rasing her sun. a very short read with a very memorable main character
sadness factor: 🍊🍊/5
similarity: 🍊🍊🍊/5
family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
overall raiting: 🍊🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
3) hye- jin kim- concering my daughter (trans. jamie chang, 2022)
quite similar to the last book, again a mother reconsindering her relationship with her daughter. its about aging, motherhood and change (and how its never to late to change)
sadness factor: 🍊🍊/5
similarity: 🍊🍊🍊/5
family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
overall raiting: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
4) min jin lee- pachinko (2017)
and at last the book to the tv show pachinko. while i have to admit that i enjoyed the tv show more, this is still a good book! pretty much everything i said about the tv shows applies her to eventhough i would say that the tv hits harder emotionally.
sadness factor: 🍊🍊🍊/5
simillarity: 🍊🍊🍊.5/5
family dynamics: 🍊🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
overall raiting: 🍊🍊🍊🍊/5
i hope you can find something to fill the tangerine shaped hole in your heart! always love media about family and generational stories. So feel free to recommend me something back!
When the camera slowly reveals that Aesun's poetry collection book editor had the face of Aesun's mom i BROKE.... something something "I wonder if my mom's life would have been better if i were never born" something something "a mother's love transcends across lifetimes" ... this drama will kill me i swear