i am so fucking serious shut the hell up with "trans women vs trans men" stuff.
love and appreciate trans men. don't make up bullshit about how different they are to trans women, and how one is better than the other. and i consistently see trans men get the shit end of it.
I've unfollowed so many fucking people because people are constantly trying to say so much shit constantly pitting them against eachother for seemingly no fucking reason. I'm sorry as someone who is non binary, trans men and trans women are basically the same. because. men and women are also basically the fucking same. stop with this binary black-and-white shit
love trans men
any time you see or want to use the words TMA/TME (trans misogyny affected/exempt) used think:
- are you specifically referring to a combination of transphobia and misogyny, or is it just transphobia said to a trans woman.
- Is this specifically a problem that only trans women experience, or is it something that trans men also deal with, or do they experience something very similar?
- with TME, are you specifically referring to everyone exempt from transmisogyny, or is this more focused on people who are affected by transphobia, but not misogyny? Are you actually focusing on other trans people who aren't women?
- Could someone being transphobic perhaps view a trans man as a woman? Do you need to be a woman to experience misogyny? Can you reasonably say trans men are fully exempt and that they do not experience similar or the same things?
- How are you sorting non binary people into this binary? even if the terms are fuzzy, how at all can you tell or say that a non binary person person "is TMA"? Have you reminded yourself that non binary people exist?
- Can you truely say at all that anyone at all is "Affected" or "Exempt" from transmisogyny? Are these terms even useful for what you're describing? Why are there seemingly no commonly used terms like this for other discriminated against group? why is it simply not enough to talk about the discrimination, but we have to draw lines of who is and isnt affected by it?
I've seen people using the terms TMA and TME just fine. some of these are a bit extreme but ive definitely seen people use these terms in some of the shitty ways described. I'm saying is, just be wary you're not falling into any of these pitfalls, and be wary of times you hear it used