I'm 75% sure I've made a post like this but WGAF I'm doing it again because I want antisocial and narcissistic positivity posts that go beyond just "you're not evil."

so shoutout to stereotypical antisocials and narcissists, people who supposedly affirm the idea that we're "evil:" shoutout to psychopaths and grandiose narcs, to those who have been incarcerated, struggle with lying and aggression, aren't in and/or don't want therapy, and don't empathize with or even love literally anyone.

also, shoutout to non-stereotypical antisocials and narcissists, those who look like they're confused or faking: shoutout to antisocials and narcs with "contradictory" co-occurrences, who are anxiety-prone or otherwise lacking in "sociopathic/narcissistic charm," high-masking, seen as "romanticizing" their PDs, and capable of empathic concern.

from one antisocial narcissist to another, we're all worthy of respect. neither diagnosis is a monolith, and there are so many ways for them to present beyond whatever oversimplified view gets circulated online. your entitlement to safety, support, and fulfillment isn't dependent on anyone thinking you're a "good antisocial/narc," I promise.

To the narcissist reading this:

I'm so sorry. The narcissism scare is everywhere and people refuse to accept that they don't understand the word, too focused on trying to slander people they don't like to realize they're hurting people who are uninvolved. You don't deserve that.

Going into the new year, hold on. Please survive. It will get better. This will pass. People will learn. You're strong.

I love you.

i think about these tweets a lot and honestly just hearing it from someone else has helped me a lot in even less than a month

There is no such thing as “the evil kill-people disorder that makes you kill people”; it has always been a myth made up by demonization to sell more ableism.

*through gritted teeth* when i do something wrong and am politely asked to change my behavior its just a simple request to fix a problem and not an indictment of my character. when i do something wrong and am politely asked to change my behavior its just a simple request to fix a problem and not an indictment of my worth as a human being

*gripping the sink and staring into the mirror* i can regulate my emotions and move on from well-intentioned polite criticism by resolving to change my behavior in the future without dwelling on the shame and guilt. i can regulate my emotions in a healthy way and move on and not get stuck scrolling tumblr for an hour and a half to just blast my brain w stimulation to avoid my negative feelings. oh wait its too late for that last one

When we dismiss the struggle of NPD entirely, when we deny the framework of the disorder itself, we aren’t being progressive. We’re creating a vacuum. Without the avenue for treatment, without the acknowledgment that this is a pattern that can be understood and managed, we abandon everyone involved. We end up with more abuse cycles, not fewer. Because you can’t seek help for something you’re told doesn’t exist. You can’t access therapy, you can’t find community resources, you can’t even begin the grueling work of self-awareness if the prevailing online discourse is just "they're just an evil asshole, end of story."

This is where the "NPD isn’t real" chorus shows its hand. It’s not just unhelpful or short-sighted. It’s an absurd interpretation that feeds directly into the myth of the perfect victim. The logic goes: if a victim’s abuser is complex, is themselves wounded, then the victim’s purity is somehow tarnished. To maintain a black-and-white moral universe, we must erase the grayscale reality of the disorder. It’s a comforting fairy tale, but a dangerous one.

Let me be unequivocal: I will not pretend that people haven’t been hurt, aren’t being hurt, and won’t be hurt by those with NPD. The wreckage is real and profound. Accountability is non-negotiable. Harm is harm.

But tearing down the entire diagnostic wall—not to build a better, more compassionate bridge, but just for an excuse to be blatantly ableist—is what truly upsets me. It trades the hard, nuanced work of healing and prevention for the cheap thrill of a hate-follow. It lets us point fingers at "demons" instead of examining systems and support structures. We can hold space for the devastated and recognize the disordered, not because we excuse, but because we understand that only in that difficult duality is there any hope for assisting those in need.

When the character analysis is getting really good but then they drop “narcissistic” as an insult or character descriptor

it’s either be infantilised or be demonised in the eyes of so-called ‘advocates’.

you have autism? you’re just an innocent guy who can’t understand anything and must be coddled like a child, even if you’ve stated that that isn’t necessary.

you have NPD or ASPD? so you’re the fucking devil incarnate and you’re going to abuse everyone who has ever even so much as crossed paths with someone in your bloodline.

learn to treat people with mental illnesses like actual people, jesus fucking christ.

I think when coming to writing characters with ASPD and NPD it’s okay for them to seemingly adhere to some stereotypes. They exist for a reason. Let that character be a jackass and let them do fucked up shit and be cold and all the things that people hate. But don’t let that be where they end. They’re as whole of a person as anyone else and many people do experience these stereotypical forms of the disorder. To ignore that large part of the community is a disservice to actually destigmatizing the disorders. Im sick and tired of the idea that for a narcissist to be socially acceptable, a narcissist can’t be a narcissist.

I'm taking away the word empathy from the NTs until they discover it isn't a synonym for "giving a shit about people"

In an attempt to be less of a dick:

empathy is a brain function that some people (including me!) struggle with.

There are three types! Affective empathy, which is basically the ability to read other people's emotions, Somatic empathy, the classic "I feel sad because you're sad" and Cognitive empathy, which is the ability to accurately guess what people are thinking and feeling.

If you use empathy to mean "caring about other people" when you could use words like compassion, you're implying a large subsection of the population (including people you may know) are heartless and bad simply because of the way they were born!

Not cool!

Seems people have a lot of trouble with dealing with those who have narcissistic personality disorder. So here's a nice little quick guide.

Ways to deal with your local problematic narcissist: