comptop is a transmisogynistic dynamic that exists and is good to be aware of, but I don't think the correct response is to assume any given trans woman you encounter is in need of being Saved From Topping
what if you didn't assume what she wants, and instead listened to her as her own woman with her own particular needs and interests
please. can we please not assume out of the gate that she needs to hear the Good News about bottoming, or pathologize her if she does enjoy topping, or make assumptions about her relationships/partners
again, it's good to be aware of comptop, but I don't think this is the right course-correction to make
it's missing the "don't assume, listen to her" forest for the comptop trees