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| hi, i'm delia | she/her or they/them | 22 | classicist | campy scifi lover | white and tme | jewish lesbian |

hi, i’m troy mcclure. you may remember me from such urls as mouserat-vevo, jewishtardis, and songforten, or from such posts as “this m/f ship from fifteen years ago was a gay allegory” or “weird meta post about an obscure composer” or “meme about being jewish only other jewish people will find funny”. today i’m here to talk to you about—

for the record this is not a doctor who blog. this is a personal blog where i post whatever the fuck i want. unfortunately due to the autism, that often results in this being a doctor who blog

make sure to touch the mezuzah on your way in!

i am a staunch antizionist. i believe in the liberation of the palestinian people. jewish beliefs and traditions have nothing to do with the settler state calling itself israel. any zionists i find interacting with my posts will be blocked. jewish muslim solidarity forever 💜

dobby was only there in the lord of the rings to cockblock sam and frodo. whenever it looked like frodo was about to shoot his shot dobby was just like whats is potatoses master

Hi there 💞

I'm a disabled transfem trying to raise funds to survive. More specifically, I'm trying to raise funds for toiletries, clothes, & a new phone. Unfortunately at this time I don't have a bank account, so my only option is asking for digital gift cards - for visa or amazon. Please DM me if this is something you can provide. Drawing commissions are available, but I don't have the specific details posted at this moment.

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i wish that fandoms had a healthier relationship with criticism so instead of confession blogs being used as a breeding ground to start shit for no reason they could go back to being used for their intended purpose ; whatever this is

Unironically I think the early to mid 20s age group in America has unbelievably bad consent boundaries on all levels and so much language to defend it but this makes me sound like elon musk if I say it however the commonality of someone who will be like “I had 47 panic attacks and it’s your fault” if you tell them no is insane

I rejected someone and got called “the scariest person I’ve ever met” with so much therapy speak interspersed like alright okay alright okay alright okay

“You just say whatever you’re thinking and I don’t know how to handle it” was verbatim part of this conversation. Also everyone hates to see an autistic bitch

When I was in this age bracket, there was a huge emphasis on improving consent culture via graceful rejection, and it's gone by the wayside. Which sucks.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

Being someone who cannot handle rejection makes you much more likely to violate boundaries, and yes, that includes sexual ones. Yes, you, reader who has never hurt a fly. If you don't want to stumble backwards into sexually assaulting someone, fix your RSD meltdowns. If you keep them up it's only a matter of time. Because if you're nice enough to interact with, but are known to have RSD meltdowns, guess what happens when your friends and acquaintances need to reject you?

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