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"i was looking for answers in somebody else but i had all the answers"

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★ about me: 17, aussie, did system, loser, nerd, aromantic, transmasc, queer freak, audhd + more, musician, #1 karnasas fan

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It does actually blow me away that amatonormativity (the societal belief that everyone thrives best in and should desire a monogamous romantic relationship) is not a more frequently discussed topic in activist spaces because it is so fucking useful to describe so many aspects of society relating to misogyny, abuse, financial pressure, medical restrictions, family structures, etc but it's either completely unheard of or treated as a joke.

And frankly, as an aro and acespec person, I am fully fucking aware that the refusal of a lot of people on tumblr to use the term amatonormativity is centered around aphobia because apparently no one else is affected by lressure to be in a monogamous romantic relationship enough to talk about it, right? I am tired.

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There are also so many situations in which people are affected by this.

Your family asking why you don't have a partner, or if you do why are you not marrying, moving in together etc. Getting shamed for having some sort of friends with benefits agreement, getting told to present differently or "you won't find a partner". The idea that even just thinking someone is attractive is cheating on your partner, because obviously you can only have those feeling for one person. Getting told that whatever issue you have will be fixed, if you just find a partner.

Aromantics, people refusing to ever partner with someone, polyamorous people and people refusing to ever marry are probably the most affected by amatonormativity, but basically everyone experiences it on a regular basis.

If you don't think you experience this ever, it's probably just because you have accepted it as some sort of universal law, rather than the western societal construct it is.

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big shoutout to trans people that decide to change their last name too. sometimes you’ve just gotta throw the whole name out and start from the beginning.

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Anonymous asked:

it’s really cool to see someone who is in the exact same kind of relationship that i am for once. i get comfort from both the “aros can be in romantic relationships too” as well as the “aros dont ever have to date” kinds of posts but it always feels as if both of these awkwardly exclude me. i never thought i’d find someone else who was fine with their partner calling the relationship romantic for them but not for themselves. relationships can be just as messy and nuanced as identity itself but i dont think most people are ready to admit that.

knifearo answered:

even in places where relationship anarchy is talked about (the aro community being a big one, at least from what i've seen) it's still difficult to find people's accounts of like. how they put relationship anarchy into practice. i don't know. relationships are like gender to me in the way that every social construct is the same. every person is an individual. every individual is going to have their own approach to gender: just because we have these two major categories doesn't mean that it isn't infinitely variable and extremely personal. relationships are typically categorized as romantic, platonic, or familial, but the truth is that those categories are just as made up as the binary gender system. sure, they pop up a lot, and sure, they might be helpful for you to apply for yourself, but ultimately, every relationship is unique. once you start thinking outside of those arbitrary boxes— hold on i got so caught up in thinking about how to explain it that i stopped writing this post to draw a diagram

with anything listed being a stand-in for whatever else you can think of, obviously. but that's the thing it's like. you don't have to use the presets. everything is infinitely customizeable. you are ALWAYS creating unique relationships with other people you just don't think of it that way... once you approach every relationship in your life with an open mindset suddenly there are beautiful beautiful possibilities for all kinds of connections with other human beings... as always i fall back on my favorite phrase. which is "you can do whatever you want forever". because you can

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gautierprotectionsquad asked:

Would you mind if i send you academic articles i find that talk about aromanticism/alloaro identites?

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moongh-sts answered:

i would love that actually, thank you!! i did manage to find something but if there's more it'd be huge

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I don't know how much of this is may be useful in your academic paper and you might have found some of these articles already

Amatonormativity, Aromanticism, and What Defines a Relationship

Composing Aromanticism

Understanding aromantic peoples’ experiences of intra-community discrimination within the Queer Community

Romantic love TM — terms and conditions apply

Vol 3 Issue 3 Aromantic

The Fiction of Amatonormativity: Reactions to Queer Platonic Relationships in Eighteenth-Century Literature

The Erotic Worldmaking of Asexual and Aromantic Zines

Conclusion: The Ends of Romance

“But I’m so lonely!” – Aromanticism and Amatonormativity in Little Women (2019)

Wronging a Right (An Essay about Wednesday Adams)

Not Her Cup of Tea: Aromanticism in Barbara Pym’s Excellent Women

Queer aromanticisms: Doom and bloom in Moses Sumney’s Blackalachia

Nonbinaring as Methodology, erased relationships, and the aromantic subtext of As You Like It

“Anti-?” Creative Documentary Photography and “Green” Short Film Production Introductory

Inventing the Perfect Crush: Arguing for Middle-Grade Narratives with Aromantic Leads

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HUGE omg thank you, ive found a couple of these but definitely not all!!

#saves#ive already read one yippee
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every time someone new starts identifying with aromanticism an angel gets its wings

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aroace people you deserve to be happy and comfortable i'm glad you're here . aro people you deserve to be happy and comfortable and i'm glad you're here . ace people you deserve to be happy and comfortable and i'm glad you're here . aspec people you deserve to be happy and comfortable and i'm glad you're here . never feel lesser for who you are or how you experience attraction or attachment or lack thereof

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we’ve done enough getting upset about erasure of aro characters. it’s time for us to start making alloro characters aro in retaliation. erase the romanticism. idk i just didn’t really see the romance in it when these two kissed. seems to me like they actually care about each other super deeply and that just CAN’T be romantic everyone knows that romantic love is more shallow… oh you think they can’t be aro cause they’re in a canon relationship? well. people in romantic relationships can still be aro y’know 🖤

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My brain can’t stop imagining Joe Hills playing a hurdy gurdy. He’s the world’s most hurdy gurdy man. He’s a human hurdy gurdy.

To me this is the same picture.

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pickastitch asked:

i'm making a masterdoc on traffic!gem and i've come to ensure that the section of sl!shiny duo is rat approved

The key word to remember when discussing traffic!shiny duo is trust, and it will come back with every season. Their first major interaction was Gem asking Pearl to go fight the Enderdragon because out of everybody else she is the most competent one here. Pearl stands around the taskmaster as Gem gets a new red task because she trusts that Gem won't harm her. That leads to her death. When Pearl betrays Gem in the finale, Pearl doesn’t see it that way. She trusts that Gem is competent enough without her and has faith in their relationship to continue on even if she isn’t always with Gem because it always has, but that had never been tested in this high stress of an environment leading Gem to be bitter throughout the rest of the series.

Trust also comes back with Gem's relationship with Scarlet Pearl as she sees her as this near deity-like figure because she trust's Pearl's skills enough to make the myths believable. Gem knows of this crazed murderer who basically won 1v5, but doesn’t know about the mental turmoil that comes along with it. If you think about it, Scarlet Pearl is Gem's blorbo who she horribly mischaracterizes. She even projects onto this tale of a figure of destruction that strikes fear into others hearts. That comes later though.

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whereispearlescentmoon answered:

“If you think about it, Scarlet Pearl is Gem's blorbo who she horribly mischaracterizes.” yeah you did it. You summarized their whole shit in one sentence. Congratulations.

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