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Reblogged draconicqueer
At one point I had a housemate who had been through multiple abusive or at least unhealthy relationships, and it effected the way they interacted with the world and others around them.
One of the effects was that they couldn't admit to mistakes or accidents. They would lie when they could, and they'd try to cover it up when they could.
One day, they broke one of my glass dishes in the kitchen. I wasn't at home at the time, so they cleaned up in a hurry and then hurriedly scrambled to glue it back together. They never said anything to me, and I wouldn't have ever noticed-
Except I walk barefoot in my home and two steps into the kitchen I had a small shard of glass in my foot. Looking for a source, I noticed the dish in the drain, and looked a lot more closely at it than I normally would have, and noticed a small piece missing from where they had glued two larger pieces together.
It took me a good twenty minutes to fish that glass out of my foot. I then went and vacuumed very throughly, as two dogs and a cat lived in that house, along with the humans.
If they hadn't been stuck in the patterns they learned when they were younger, they might have told me about the glass, and I could have worn shoes until it was safe. They might have spent longer cleaning it up and making sure the floor was safe, instead of trying to cover up their mistake by gluing the dish back together.
If they could have broken out of those patterns, they would not have put those around them in harm's way.
Break out of your unhealthy patterns. They're hurting you, and they're hurting the people around you. If someone over reacts to something like a broken bowl, the answer is to remove them from your life, not to go around gluing bowls back together without saying anything.
I forgot to say it, but this is both metaphorical and literal. It was a very real shard of glass in my foot AND a lot of us pick up unhealthy coping mechanisms and then go on to unintentionally hurt others. So please, please, work on identifying behaviors and thoughts that end up hurting you and those around you.
Because sometimes it's not just a shard of glass. Sometimes it's a lot bigger and more harmful.
Reblogged campedward
a lot of things get on my nerves. im constantly annoyed. and i also have a deep love of humanity and the world but everything is really annoying
got halfway through my tax return (still need a couple documents to get sent my way before i can finish it) and it is legit nothing but life changing in terms of what my tax return might be especially since I did a lot of extra withholding to be extremely safe but man. finally something good after so so much bad luck. goddamn. I did some pre-tax stuff in xcel to prep myself even more for what I expected taxes to look like and the expected return in that area of things was pretty ok and would have still been made worse w/ etsy revenue since etsy has changed the taxable income on that to not qualify for me every year and it tanks my return LMAO but bro. you have no clue how much this puts me into like the best scenario to pay off some debts and be financially well rounded while im in very shitty winter hours w/ work rn
#rambles#btw this post is not to push away from the concept that im still broke as fuck. all my returns have sucked and i've gotten screwed over#and some life stuff has thrown me into rough debts. but this is so promising man. i put so much work into trying to be a good debtor#and i never miss payments on most anything. i just never get rewarded for finally trying to be smart and financially secure like this.#its like im finally being vindicated financially idk#gonna put it towards a good five year anniversary trip with my love <3
Reblogged foxgirlmoth
you fuck a banjo player and it’s great until six hours in you realize theyve been plucking out man of constant sorrow on yr clit the whole time
you fuck a spoons player and it’s great until smithsonian folkways comes in to document and culturally preserve the odd shit theyre doing to yr dick
no one has ever successfully fucked a dulcimer player because they vanish like a dream into the morning mist
Reblogged armadyleans
Help two trans women and a cat stayed housed!!
$300/2500
We need to be able to pay for rent by the start of Feb. Anything helps and thank you in advance!
Reblogged armadyleans
tired of this shit lets add pvp to laundry
Reblogged armadyleans
B-17 bomber is riddled with German anti-aircraft fire but miraculously survives. Later they discover the explosive shells were all inert; sabotaged by Nazi slaves working in armament factories.
Inside one empty shell is a written note: it's all we can do for you now.
The most important part of all this is that these small acts of bravery and noncompliance cannot be known as long as the enemy still stands, and might never be known. Just because it doesn’t seem like anyone is doing anything doesn’t mean it’s true. The best malicious compliance or subtle sabotage is the one that’s never detected, but makes ravages nonetheless.
A critical part of any resistance is
Do not post your crimes
Do not brag. Do not look for brownie points. Do not publicly recruit. Keep your mouth shut.
>goes onto terf blog out of curiosity cause they made a dipshit post >their second reblogged post in is a defense of pedophilic thoughts towards children >don't know what i expected
#why is it every time that these fuckers have some SECONDARY worse thing going on every time#i also love the “no uterus no opinion” slogan cause it's like does removing yours put you in a schrodinger's opinion situation or ??#btw tumblr you love nuking blogs cause they comment on OTHER people being fucked up. i'm not the pedophile defender here LMAO#rambles
Reblogged natalia-lafourcade
If you ever feel useless, remember the UN is concerned about this situation
Reblogged slopmaster9000
It's actually kind of striking how rapidly the ads on ostensibly respectable platforms have changed in the last 12–18 months. I've been getting penis enlargement scams and pyramid schemes that don't even bother to pretend to be otherwise on YouTube – it's like every platform is now running the kinds of ads that even three years ago would have been restricted to porn sites, and I'm not gonna lie, the fact that everyone seems to be getting desperate all at once ain't an encouraging sign!
I just saw full frontal erect penis on a weather app. It's not the sign of the impending tech-bubble implosion I expected, but apparently it's the sign we're getting.
"You know those are based on your browsing history" no, you don't get it: I tried obfuscating my identity on YouTube with a burner freemail account on a public terminal and actually got more boner pill ads. Boner pill ads appear to be the default experience when they don't know your demographic.
#every time we watch a football game it is about 90% sports betting ads or ai workplace services ads man. or weight loss :/#it DOES feel like ads are acting on everyone's insecurities#i did love that lilly ad that should play more of the fat person saying hey dont fucking tell me to lose weight. i've tried everything.#its not your body. it's mine. fuck you. that was a good ad among everything rn and meant a lot
Reblogged ianthesgildedboner
