please stop treating the word neurodivergent like it means the overlap between autism and adhd

i dont know how to articulate this well but some of you act like neurodiversity starts with adhd and ends with autism. you talk about "the neurodivergent experience" and everytime you mean "the overlapping experience of adhd and autism."

please remember us when talking about neurodiversity. ocd, dyslexia, dyscaculia, personality disorders, tourettes, intellectual disabilities, schizo-spec disorders, etc. all fall under neurodiversity.

please stop saying neurodivergent when you mean "autism and adhd."

this post is okay to reblog but do not clown on it

This disability pride month I'm BEGGING you to acknowledge and care about the people in this community who often fly under the radar when it comes to positivity and information. People who require equipment to live, like ventilators, pacemakers, and feeding tubes. People who are bedbound. People with visible differences. People who have disabilities caused by things like substance abuse, overdose, or self harm. People with conditions so rare that they've never met someone who has the same one. People who need full time care and have to have help to use social media.

If you want to support the community, that means supporting all of the community. Disability pride means being proud of every last one of us, and making sure everyone feels heard. Make sure to amplify the voices of those who need it this month, and ideally for the rest of the year too.

I'm going to clarify here and now that "visible difference" =/= mobility aid user. There is plenty of positivity on this site for mobility aid users. Visible differences are things like limb differences and facial differences, for a couple of examples. Please don't make this another post about mobility aid users in general, that isn't the point at all.

"silly dehydration abs, don't they know x professional athletes have a layer of fat because it makes them stronger?" okay now when i ask you to draw a fat person do you understand that i'm not asking you to draw a fucking powerlifter strongman? do you understand i'm talking about fat people you'd see on the bus? do you understand when i say i want more fat people represented in art i'm not asking about the fucking n'th percentile of athletes who do x sport in which being a bit heavier is a tactical advantage? can you draw a fat person who is just fat because they're fat? do i need to hit you with a baseball bat again?

i saw a post recently telling people they shouldnt lie to their trans friends about whether they 'pass' because it could endanger them, and while i get the concept i think the problem is that passing is... so highly subjective? different people are gonna intepret your gender presentation differently.

like i've personally had strangers adjust their gendered language with me mid conversation and had no clue what changed their mind. i had a lunch break where one coworker had clearly assumed i was a man while the other had clearly assumed i was a woman and both kept side eyeing eachother in confusion. which is fine by me, that's the kind of reaction i've intentionally cultivated, but it does suck if you're aiming for a stealth lifestyle because there really isnt a line where you wake up one day 100% passing.

maybe just... try not to resent people if they say you pass when it turns out others may not agree with them. there's a good chance they weren't intentionally trying to give you false hope, it's just that gender is in the eye of the beholder, and if you're mid transition different people are gonna behold you differently.

it can depend on a lot of factors! i've been perceived as a generally pretty masc guy by some folks who started assuming i was a girl when they saw me wearing a tank top and by extension the binder under it. i've had people think i was a guy until i spoke, because at that point i hadn't started voice training. i've had people assume i was a girl because they couldn't hear me speak now that i have started voice training and have a very masculine voice. i've had people misgender me because they saw my deadname and assumed that even though i have a chosen name i must still be a girl. i've had people get really confused when i mentioned my extended family (who i'm not out to) misgendering me, because they assumed i was cis. it's all just a weird game of whack-a-mole where gender perception is the hammer and you sometimes get whacked.

does anyone have any audio drama recommendations that have prominent characters that are trans men/masc? (That aren’t Hello from the Hallowoods, The Silt Verses, or Camp Here and There)

Heartglass recently started releasing (ep 2 coming tomorrow), and one of the MCs, Allan Coleman, is a trans man. Allan is one of a trio of characters trapped in a strange version of hell, trying to make the best of his afterlife by working in an ice cream shop. (I’m Allan’s VA, and I’m also transmasc).

Our At the Bottom of the Garden does.

It’s a fake non-fiction podcast a guy is making about his family, specifically his great, great aunt that is also slow-burn folk horror. Aidan’s explicitly, talked-about-on-screen trans, with that playing an important part in his story, though probably not in the way most people’d expect.

…actually, Arcadia, CA does too, in that case a supporting character/love interest/antagonist.

That one is YA suburban fantasy /also/ about fairies.

(look, i know what i like, & it’s trans characters and fairies, ok?)

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Trans Masc Representation in Audio Fiction

Spirit Box Radio by @hangingslothcentral - so Eira who writes, sound designs, composes and performs all the Hanging Sloth shows is a trans guy, but also SBR's protag is explicitly a trans guy. The other shows: Not Quite Dead and Remnants don't explicitly have trans male protags but are entirely voiced by Eira. Clockwork Bird is fun for gender reasons in the same way Frankenstein is. Go listen!

@eelerschoice ! Is both written by a trans person, Dr Lou Sutcliffe, and one of its leads is our beloved B Narr, who you may know from The Silt Verses. Also it's a creepy ocean horror story. What's not to love!

@theholmwoodfoundation is both co-written by a trans man, Fio Trethewey, AND has a major character who is a trans man - namely Van Helsing's grandson, which is delightful to me. Also Mina Harker is possessing a trans woman and they're both being lovely about it, so bonus points.

@nightshiftpodcast has a lead who is a queer man played by a trans man, and the story is an urban fantasy about his enemies to lovers romance with a guy who is essentially the PR man for urban fantasy Meta. It's so much and I love it so much god bless.

Love and Luck by Passer Vulpes productions is a love story between two men, one of whom is played by a trans man and wheelchair user. It's a very sweet magical realist / light urban fantasy about the queer community in Melbourne, Australia. Extra points because the two leads are played by irl husbands Lee Davis-Thalbourne and Erin Kyan, which is charming to me.

Kind of a deep cut but The Blood Crow Stories Season 2 is a wild west horror story that stars a trans man and it makes me really happy listening to a wild west 1800s setting where a badass outlaw lady gives a guy rags for his monthly bleed without making a big deal of it.

Moonbase Theta Out by @monkeymanproductions has a morally grey (french!) trans guy antagonist from S2 onwards and it's like, A Whole Thing. Also in general a buttload of excellent queer rep including the show's leads from S1, a person who figures out they're non binary, and their husband.

@iriscasefiles stars Brian Jeeter, one of the core cast of a motley crew of space rebels and outlaws, he's a xenolinguistics specialist married to a non-binary alien called Krejjh, it's delightful, he's delightful, they're currently releasing their third and final season!

@dosafteryou is a fucked up and toxic love story between a trans guy and essentially a god? It is tasty and terrifying and very fun, bonus points for being written by a trans guy too, about out to David Orion.

@folxlorepod is a smorgasbord anthology of queer horror stories, including episodes with trans masc protagonists. It's generally full of queer and trans joy and also wrath, and is made by a queer and trans team. You should check it out!

There are more but I am currently at a train station so can't do proper research. I think Evelyn Glass in @pasitheapowder is trans? And the very definition of haunting the narrative. Also I'm sure The Pilgrimage Saga by @starstrider-productions must have a trans dude protag but I cannot remember (it definitely has one of my favourite trans women in all of fiction.) I'm also sure @innbetween has trans guy protags but I cannot remember which series. I suspect The Gospel of Haven has a trans guy protag too but needs more research.

One thing that makes me sad is I can't think of shows with trans guys of colour as protags. I'm sure they exist, hopefully folk can recommend some.

Happy listening!

(Also a heads up that whilst a popular fanon for the eldritch demon John Doe in Malevolent is that he's a trans man, the creator has explicitly clarified that none of the show's protagonists are textually queer or trans. Still, if you want to have fun Supernatural-style, you absolutely can.)

@surceasepod has one transmasc main character (who i love so very much) as well as one cisgender character that i'm pretty sure is played by a trans guy and a couple of more minor characters who are trans men (either heavily implied to be dead or just showing up for one episode) they might have more i don't know

one time my mom and i were talking about autism and she said if i got it from anyone i got it from my dad, a man who has been buying and sorting pokemon cards for several months straight and likes to memorize license plates and then quiz my mom on them. and then she remembered that my father is not actually biologically related to me (#childofdivorce) and lost her shit laughing. i got that proxy autism

he indoctrinated you into the woke mob

being an intersex person who isnt a waifish hairless elf devoid of any visible sex characteristics i honestly think if i was a fictional character id be denounced as a transphobic stereotype

when intersex people have mixed sex characteristics and hormones 🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯🤯

and what are we going to do when the HP series comes out and we start seeing a resurgence of the fandom here including gifsets and fics. like are u guys gonna bring up your neurodivergence and cry "can we separate the art from the artist!!!!! you dont need to pay to watch it!!!!!its my comfort show and I'm DEPRESSED and AUTISTIC"

what then

Important addition:

Reminder that "separating the art from the artist" is a sentiment that only works when the artist is dead and no longer profiting off the work in question.

JKR is still very much alive and very much openly devoted to spending as much of her money on efforts that increase transphobia. You cannot separate this artist from this art, because she is heartily using funds from that art to fund hate groups.

Do not watch it. Do not pirate it. Do not talk about it. Have nothing to do with it whatsoever.

you can hate-read h. p. lovecraft's work. you can hate-read stranger in a strange land. that is because both of the dickbags who hated poc and queer folks are DEAD and CAN'T MAKE MONEY off of it. you're allowed to make fun of them for their weird worldbuilding and their completely unveiled biases in the story, because they aren't profiting when you talk about it. jk rowling is actively profiting off of this show and she considers any discussion of her work total support for her. don't watch the show. don't watch it to make fun of it don't watch it to have fun don't watch it to critically engage with it. you are supporting a cruel woman who wants to see people suffer.

my contribution to the wolf 359 fandom and its 5 other active fans

personally I don't think if you're a kid you should be using your real name on the internet. very easy for people to find out too much about you. instead you should spend years using a different made-up name that becomes part of your persona to an arguably even greater degree than your actual name and then when you grow up and find out you're trans you have a ready-made name to switch to even if it's probably like Leaf or something

i know a guy whose name is not joshua except online and to me. he introduced himself to me as joshua as a prank, but it backfired on him because i comply maliciously. i have also chased him at high speeds after he stole something of mine, causing a fear that i don't think he'll ever recover from

“Pride is for everyone!1!1!”

*no curb cuts*

*up a hill*

*no sensory safe zones*

*no ASL interpreters*

*no masks provided*

*grassy, uneven terrain*

Stop liking shrimpnami it’s haunting me

Saying now that I think Johannah’s going to get a redemption arc so when it happens later I’ll be able to come back and gloat

I’m just saying that in the People Are Capable of Fundamental Change for the Better Podcast it would make sense for a girl who fell into violence and hatred because of the abusive environment she was raised in (who also parallels multiple characters from similar situations to hers who get to grow as people) to get a redemption arc

free my girl she did all that shit but she lived and learned and made the choice to attone (please please please)