“Hey, why don’t you want trans men talking about their experiences or writing theory about themselves?”
Get comfortable with asking that question. Because you’re going to be asking it a lot.
Trans men, overall, have not been the ones talking about trans men in things like academia and when presenting feminist/political theory. If it’s not cis people, it’s the lucky few trans women who made it past the barriers while being openly trans. But not trans men.
Trans men have been absent from the discussion of trans men.
If I could underline that, I would.
But now we’re in online spaces, where random trans men and transmascs can just, put forth their ideas and share their stories and experiences and thoughts out in the open with each other and we can gain a better understanding of transmasculinity, the issues we face, the struggles we’re going through, what studies we need to convince someone with the authority to do so to conduct, all of that. We could (and should, if you’re able) be writing books and articles and using what means we have to put our voice out there.
But the response so far to us doing that hasn’t been “hey, cool, glad you’re finding a way to include yourselves in the discussion about you! This is desperately needed and we’re excited to see it!” It’s to just… repeat the old theory that was crafted without our input and without consulting us at us, demand that we read that, and shut up. Which tells me a pretty clear message: “we have already decided for you what your experiences are. We don’t want to have to rethink anything. Now shut up and stop being inconvenient to us.”
But uh. Dont. If you’re a trans man or transmasc, don’t just shut up. They wouldn’t be telling you to quiet down if they couldn’t hear you, and if they can hear you, so can somebody else. Be inconvenient. Be a huge pain in their ass. Make them have to sit down and go back to the drawing board so that the theory reflects your reality and not just their favorite token who just happened to get lucky enough to match the theory and now thinks this applies to all of us, or the theoretical trans man that only exists in their heads and on their papers.
And if you’re not a trans man or transmasc, feel free to join us in asking that question at the top of this post. Get comfortable with saying it. It’s your script to help make it easier for you to confront somebody intent on silencing trans men and transmascs. Make it uncomfortable for them to shut us down. If they can see how much pushback they’ll get for it, they’ll be less inclined.