I decided to create something that I wish I had when I first got diagnosed with autism - so here’s my comic for ASDComicTakeover! You can find out more about the project here!

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Update - I’m part of an anthology!

You can back Sensory: Life On The Spectrum here! Please reblog if you can! I’m also so grateful for all the kind things people have said so far, it means so much to me that my tips have helped you. That’s exactly what I wanted!

one of the things that makes autism a disability (and why some of us choose to label it as such rather than an “alternate neurotype”) is the stress. 

part of autism is just being incredibly stressed. overstimulation? stress. holding a conversation? stress. something happening to our schedule? stress. people talk about how often autism is recognized and diagnosed via our stress responses (like meltdowns) because it is just so common to see autistic people stressed because of lack of accommodations to how our brains work.

and this matters because stress kills. stress causes a lot of health issues, or it can trigger pre-existing ones by making certain chronic conditions flare up. i once had a psychiatrist very unhelpfully tell me i “just need to manage my stress” when the stress i was describing was things i could not avoid in neurotypical society and can’t “just get over”. i can do “self care” all i like but i cannot at the very base level change the way my brain inputs information and reacts accordingly.

i only learned this year that loud noises aren’t physically painful for other people. i have lived 34 years in a world in which my friends and family regularly physically hurt me at random just by shouting, and i thought everyone else just thought i was kind of a wimp for not dealing with the pain as well as they did.

like. loud noises physically hurt. it’s like a static shock from my ears to my spine that doesn’t stop until the volume goes back down. i thought we all agreed that ‘that’s too loud!’ and covering our ears meant ‘ouch!’. turns out i’ve been dealing with a stressor almost no one else has, my whole life, alone.

autistic people have to keep functioning through debilitating levels of stress that no one else in their life acknowledges or helps them with. it’s no wonder that their most visible ‘tells’ are breakdowns. 

characters raised to be tools

Do you actually ship them or do you want them to be trapped together in a cave-in where one of them is injured and they have to talk to keep them distracted and stay sane while they wait for help, and end up opening up about their vulnerabilities and bond and then grow desperate as one starts to slip from consciousness while the other begs them to stay awake—

To all the “both is good” tags: this is an aro post asking you to question if what you really want to explore is the vulnerability and intimacy, and whether romance/sex is the only way to achieve that.

I’m in Hell

So is this post asking us to evaluate whether we mix up love and genuine vulnerability? I’m intrigued.

Not quite! I’ll rewind a bit for context.

So a lot of people realize they’re aromantic when they unravel “I want someone who will support me, care about me, and who I can be vulnerable with long term” from “I want to be in a romantic relationship,” aka what society frames as the only way to achieve this. Once we realize that romantic/sexual attraction and the need for emotional intimacy can be two separate things, and some people may have one but not the other, it’s like a light bulb goes on.

This post is a playful way to take that lens to characters and relationships we’re intrigued by. Sometimes there’s a character with a hard shell and so so many bottled up issues we just want to shake them up and make them crack so they have to confide in someone for once. Sometimes their trust issues are so profound that the idea of them being forced into vulnerability and finding care is tantalizing. Sometimes a couple characters clash but are so similar if they only knew..!

Yet with shipping being a celebrated focus of fandom, folks may find themselves embracing that social framework I mentioned earlier of “the only way to have intimacy and trust is a romantic relationship.” I’m inviting people to step outside this mold and see the infinite possibilities of this trope in a non-romantic context, and maybe even consider if some of their ships are just because they want the characters to have their barriers pulled away and talk.

(I was specifically inspired by thinking about a canonically aroace and romance-repulsed character, and seeing people who want this scenario trip over themselves to come up with reasons for why it’s a) not actually aroace and b) why it would be okay to ship it even if it was)

I hope my rambles added some clarity, but given I am typing this up at the airport while waiting for an international flight I am only mildly optimistic

Evolution of Steel! Did you know steel is just iron with a dash of carbon mixed into it? It’s literally just iron with 1% carbon, which magically makes it more durable

Three’s a crowd!

hi guys! discord is doing a survey on how people would like ai to be integrated into discord. take it and say fuck no to every question. when you get to "in general, how do you feel about discord inegrating ai features?", respond that you would actively get everyone you know off of discord and wouldn't pay for nitro or other shop items if they added ai features.

watch out for the trap! there's ONE QUESTION where the last option *isn't* the max 'no AI' option, read each part carefully to be sure

Anyway Discord is running a survey on future AI integration. Bring the heat.

She's hilarious, I love her

I think the most incredible thing about the guy who accidentally put his head in a particle accelerator is not the fact that it happened, or the fact that he survived, its the fact that after getting blasted with a wave of protons traveling at 99% the speed of light and seeing “the light of a thousand suns” he just quietly left the room, went about his day, and went home without telling anyone. Really just speedran the five stages of grief and arrived at the attitude of “welp, whatever happens next happens.”

I googled this thinking I’d missed something in the news but nope this happened in 1978

feel it's important to note that as of 13/11/2025, he is still alive.

HOW

felt like the non-scots should know about this

car crash of lexicographical unpersoning going on here

scots always have to be dramatic about it

Sundered sky

So I follow N. D. Stevenson (comics writer and animator, most famous for Nimona and She-Ra and the Princesses of Power) and his husband Lee Ostertag (also a comics writer and animator) on Instagram. When I started following them, they were both publicly presenting as women, and then a few years ago N. D. came out as transmasc nonbinary, and then earlier this year Lee also came out as transmasc. Anyway this is all setup to say that Lee had the chance to make the funniest post of all time and he took it:

Absolutely iconic.

I want to throw in that part of the context behind this meme was N.D. talking about how he sometimes gets hatemail for marrying a man as a former lesbian, and how many people seem to think he divorced his wife.

I have not managed to find anyone who thinks that in the wild, but it is so damn funny.

a thread of some fave dnd designs I've done over the year, because I'm actually really suprised by how many people have seen my designs uncredited on other sites, and didn't realize they were by me ☺️

If you see the quote "I refuse to share my body with a man who wouldn't defend it politically" or any variation of it floating around the internet — it was Kat Blaque who originally said it and she would really appreciate it if people gave her proper credit for it but it's gone viral on a lot of different platforms and most of the people sharing it don't know it's from her or choose not to credit her on purpose.

Like I just know terfs are going to be parroting it pretending it wasn't said by a black trans woman about herself & her life.

I can feel everyone rolling their eyes at this and I don’t blame you. But I always try and share things like this for as useless as they typically are…. We as individuals still have to try it doesn’t really cost us anything to make a few phone calls