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I'm so over this whole "oh no a grown man born in x year might be sexualized!" business.
Just a reminder to anyone that might be side-eyeing Francois because he went to dinner with Connor.
Connor turns 26 next month. He's closer to 30 than he is to 20. He's a grown fucking man. And if he wanted to date someone in their 40s, he would have every single right to do that. It would not make the 40 y/o a perv of any kind to date a fully grown, developed adult man with autonomy.
He's literally only 4 years younger than me and I've seen 30 year olds putting themselves in metaphorical timeouts for thirsting after him.
That is a GROWN MAN. He's not a fucking minor, stop infatalizing him for your stupid self righteous purity culture shit. Age gap discourse has gone so far in the opposite direction that you motherfuckers can't treat adults like adults anymore. Its disgusting.
My response to this is a bit wordy, and I understand that's not always ideal. But I think there's an important opportunity to expand on what my post is really about here, and I'm going to take it.
So, its more complex than that to be honest. Power dynamics can look all different types of ways. There are plenty of situations where someone you work with may be significantly younger than you, but still hold a significant amount of power over you in your workplace. The issue there, ahould a sexual or romantic relationship form would not be the older party daging a younger person. But the younger person with more power over the older party dating a subbordinate. And thats ONLY if the relationship is unbalanced due to the power dynamic.
At this point, age gap discourse has been muddied so far beyond what it was originally meant to do that people have lost the plot entirely. The term "age gap" hardly serves the purpose it was intended to anymore.
The thing is that adulthood is nebulous. Theres no "one size fits all" for how adults develop their maturity as they age. People act like after a certain number of years, different generations can't possibly have anything in common, or share experiences, or have the same interests. Thats simply not true. I guarantee that there are people in their 80s and 90s who are just as deeply invested in all of the same hobbies you find yourself drawn to, as you are. Who may be having the same first-time experiences you've recently had. That includes things like sex, discovering their gender or orientation, and any number of things you might think of as impossible for older people not to have experienced already. And its actually so important to recognize those older folks, welcome them into your spaces, and allow them to feel like part of the community. Ageism (againat both older and younger generations) is a HUGE problem online, and age gap discourse is only one part of that problem.
The idea that age is an absolute and inherent way to determine wether someone is a creep for dating another adult is really dangerous. Because when adults are infatalized to the point where people believe anyone past a certain age should never date them, find them attractive, or hook up with them, it makes room to strip those younger age groups of certain autonomy that they are entitled to by right of being an adult.
It also makes room to label older adults who respect and value their younger partners, friends, or acquaintances as creeps or even pedophiles when they've done absolutely nothing wrong.
We're seeing that exact thing happen to Francois right now, for the simple and innocent act of having dinner with a close work friend. To the point where he felt so compelled by these accusations that he unfollowed the rest of the cast on social media.
Can you imagine what he must be going through right now? The public defamation over a completely innocent interaction is unbelievable, and unacceptable.
We cannot let age gap discourse become something that robs fully grown adults of their autonomy and right to choose. Or turns them into a scapegoat for something that never even happened.
Its okay to be uncomfortable with it in your life and the media you consume. But its important to own up to that as a personal discomfort, and not turn it into a whole rhetoric that ultimately strips adults of their inherent rights.
I'm not saying thats what you're doing or intending, person in the tags who I am intentionally leaving anonymous.
But it's important that you know that there is not a "problem with age gaps". There is a problem with people's individual behavior, and with social structures that not only allow but encourage people who are already "problematic" (since thats the term we've chosen for this conversation) to prey on younger people because they consider them inexperienced and easy to manipulate.
A good example of those types of social structures is Leonardo DeCaprio. He refuses to date anyone over 25, yet continues to age well outside of that age group. The social structures in place allow him the freedom to do that unhindered. And now he's developed a track record of intentionally seeking people he considers inexperienced because he doesn't think they'll see through his bullshit like women his own age do. That is what makes him a creep. It's not just about the age gaps. Its about his individual behavior, and the social structures that allow him to abuse those dynamics.
from what we can tell "full movie online free" seems to be some kind of 21st century prayer
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Hudson Williams backstage for DSquared2
Ilya couldn't help but bring Shane into his life.
Oil study to kick off 2026!
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i will never be against piracy ever but i also need physical media to remain
the average blockbuster carried about 3x as many films than that that are streaming on Netflix or any other streaming service, physical media along with piracy is more important than ever.
I thought this wasn’t true, because how could it be true? How could one small store have more movies than an online database? So I googled it.
I am surprised and depressed to learn it’s 100% true, according to google. A Blockbuster store was required to have a minimum of 7000 titles, but most averaged about 10,000. Netflix has 4000 movies. (And 1800 tv shows if you want to count those, but even included, it’s still less)
Now I’m even more depressed about the collapse of physical rental stores.
BONUS: They weren't beholden to Who Owns What IP Right Now. They got videos from everyone. You didn't have to pay separately for the rights to rent from the Disney Shelves and the WB Shelves and bler bler bler, and they only STOPPED having those movies when the tapes broke or someone never returned 'em.
friendly reminder that your local library will have lots of physical media and if they don't have what you're looking for you can most likely ask them to purchase it or order it from another library through interlibrary loan
Shoutout to Scarecrow Video- they have over 148,000 titles, most of which you can rent by mail. Rentals have been down in the last few years so they're asking for support!
boosting this for Scarecrow Video. It's also now a non-profit.
I'm so over this whole "oh no a grown man born in x year might be sexualized!" business.
Just a reminder to anyone that might be side-eyeing Francois because he went to dinner with Connor.
Connor turns 26 next month. He's closer to 30 than he is to 20. He's a grown fucking man. And if he wanted to date someone in their 40s, he would have every single right to do that. It would not make the 40 y/o a perv of any kind to date a fully grown, developed adult man with autonomy.
He's literally only 4 years younger than me and I've seen 30 year olds putting themselves in metaphorical timeouts for thirsting after him.
That is a GROWN MAN. He's not a fucking minor, stop infatalizing him for your stupid self righteous purity culture shit. Age gap discourse has gone so far in the opposite direction that you motherfuckers can't treat adults like adults anymore. Its disgusting.
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I get annoyed when people are making posts that are shocked that Shane pulled Ilya. And like maybe, /maybe/, Shane locked down Ilya (there's an argument that Ilya 'domesticity kink' Rosanov locked himself down as soon as he could get Shane to agree to it) but Shane did not pull Ilya, Ilya pulled Shane.
Canonically Shane is one of the hottest men in the world, he's rich, he is at the top of his high intensity career, and he has the biggest saddest wettest most beautiful brown eyes out of anyone on the planet. The moment Ilya saw a scrap of interest he was arranging for them to be in a commercial and jerking off in the shower at him. Ilya watched this man fold his pants one (1) time and thought "well i gotta fuck him forever now". Shane tried to say there wouldn't be a next time and Ilya was like it's too late, I've got your number, you're never getting rid of me, if I annoy you enough you will come organize my socks as like a sex thing.