Hot take but I really do think that some of y’all need to consider how/why/when/how often you’re making fun of straight people for being straight

I do it too, I’m not going to pretend I don’t make jokes about the hets, or the down with cis bus, or whatever

But I recently befriended a cis, straight dude and I have watched him be dismissed, degraded, and unambiguously insulted for the perceived “crime” of being straight — all in queer environments where he is allegedly “completely welcome” and surrounded by “friends”

This guy is not a toxic person! But I have seen him be made to feel so small and like his comfort and safety in those spaces are conditional on his silence and acceptance of being treated like a human dunk zone, and I think that some of y’all have had so much shit from straight/cis people that the second you feel like you’ve got an inch, you want to luxuriate in the perceived catharsis of bullying someone who— actually —doesn’t deserve it

And until he very, very carefully mentioned to me in private that it makes him feel bad, I didn’t even clock that I was involved in doing that, that it had become so instinctive for me to make casual jokes like that, and that— well meaning or otherwise —I had been contributing to an environment that made someone I really really like feel like shit

So, I dunno, I think maybe some of y’all should think about that too

Coming back to say that while a lot of the responses to this post have been mainly positive, some folks have an attitude that it should be something that my friend— or any cis, straight man —should just be able to get over, because fuck ‘em, that’s why, because they’re in a queer space and they should shut up and accept it, because you suffer as a queer person and they should have to suffer too— regardless of whether or not this specific person has done anything to wrong you

I’m gonna say this point blank— you’re a tar pit if you think this way

Your suffering does not make you special, you are not granted brand new permissions to be belligerent and cruel because you have been treated poorly, straight people aren’t an oppressed class, no, but they’re people who are entitled to the same amount of basic decency that you, yourself, are entitled to

It feels good when you’ve been treated like shit to then go forward and treat other people like shit. That’s what you’re admitting. Does it make you feel good to do harm? Are you proud of that? Are you comfortable with being that kind of person? Because I dunno about the rest of you— but I realized I wasn’t, and it turns out it’s pretty fucking easy to change

There's a post going around Tumblr about how if you're post-menopausal and have bleeding, you should get it checked by your doctor. I brought some minor bleeding I'd had up in a doctor visit earlier this year, prompted by that post, and this week, after a biopsy, I found out I have cancer. It's early stage and the survival odds at 5 years are 99%. I have an oncologist appointment and we may have caught it early enough that surgery alone will be sufficient treatment (no radiation/chemo).

So that post may have saved my life and it may have made my treatment a lot easier too.

If you get into menopause and then start bleeding again, really, get your reproductive innards checked out. The life you save may be your own.

Betar should be considered a terrorist organization by all governments

Betar is a disgusting organization run by modern day Nazis

What's with Zionists and their obsession with sexual violence and hating on a woman who cares about the well being of children!?

Some great news!!!

While the people over at Betar US should be arrested this is still great news.

Betar is a terrorist organization and should be dealt with as such

Some good news!

every time I think about Dilbert I think about this comic and how the question being asked is Not Stupid and its answer is genuinely interesting and arguably very important information anyone using a computer should know

This tag is incredibly really good because it is 100% why you might need to defrag your drives sometimes.

If you've ever bought a flash drive or something and wonder why its advertised as 512GB but you can only use 480GB or whatever of it, it's because that other 32GB is being used as a directory for where the actual files are located on the drive. (I'm pulling those numbers out of my ass but you get the idea.) If you had full access to the entire drive it would just be a stream of data with no idea where to start or end.

When you delete a file, you're not actually deleting the 1's and 0's. You're telling the directory "this specific range of data is no longer allocated to something and can be used for something else." It's the reason forensics can obtain data from a drive even if it's been "deleted" because for all intents and purposes, it's still there. It's also the reason you have Fast and Slow options for formatting a drive; the former just clears that directory and the latter actually goes in and tries to overwrite every bit of memory to wipe it clean.

When you fill up a drive and delete lots of files, those empty ranges of data can be spread out haphazardly. Defragging the drive is just moving things around so they're more organized and related data is all grouped together and that "free" space is consolidated.

Also yes Scott Adams is now dead ❤️

just rewatched t2

Actually this time probably not. The writing was on the wall way before Reagan became president, and the steel mill closed in November 1981, barely ten months into his president.

He was governor of California during that "writing on the wall" period. He was the one writing. It was his wall.

Oh. Well don't I look stupid now.

Terrible news: you learned something today

the past lives in you

[EXTREMELY HAUNTED & HOLLOW-EYED LOOK] yeah man i’m doing. Really good

amandareifer

"character doing a c+ job of breaking the cycle of abuse" is such a crunchy dynamic forever. what if i'm giving my all to give you a better life than i had and i'm succeeding but "better" just isn't quite enough. what if my blind spots and deeply ingrained trauma and inexperience mean that you will be indelibly scarred by me despite my best efforts. what if my abuser's influence still bleeds through at times because i know nothing else. what if i go so far in the opposite direction to avoid it that i hurt you in ways i couldn't have anticipated. what if my undeniable love and unforgivable shortcomings came part and parcel with each other. what if your love and gratitude and resentment and pain came part and parcel too. what if we both knew you deserved better but i was all you had. what if we had to move forward and reckon with that. what then

FUCK it was in parallel australia