What is it about allo people that makes them think that they get to define my relationship?
I don’t mind questions, and I’m not even clear on all the ins and outs myself (ace aro spectrum orientations are confusing) but learn the difference between asking, and forcing me to justify the way I live to you because you’re not happy with my answer
it’s actually not and you need to just take my word for it
Polycule but it’s just two people in a romantic relationship with each other and their third who’s pretty obviously aroace but also somehow so deeply intertwined in their lives that it’d just be wrong to not count them as involved. Is this anything.
My specific brand of asexuality means that I’m constantly forgetting that attraction exists outside of sexual context
I can understand no problem if it’s a pin-up situation or something, but when someone reblogs a picture of a character just standing there sometimes my brain stalls like
‘What’s the joke?’
The 'joke’ is that they’re hot, Jack. People just enjoy looking at them
Sometimes I am like ‘surely no one actually thinks about sex that much’ and then I talk to to my allosexual friends and actually it’s even more than that
Can never tell if romance novel protagonists being so constantly horny is just because they’re romance novel protagonists or if that’s actually supposed to be reflective of allosexual people’s internal monologue
Surely people don’t get hard during completely normal, nonsexual conversations, not even actively fantasizing, just because the person they’re talking to is hot
Because this is tumblr I do feel the need to clarify I don’t think there’s anything wrong with sexual thoughts or activities, I just. You tell someone you’re asexual and they ask “Well what do you think about all day then?” and you kinda roll your eyes and are like “The same shit everyone thinks about, just without sex,” but then you read romance novels and you’re like “Damn, if this is really what it’s like for y'all, I guess that is actually a valid question.”
Am always seeing posts from both sex favourable and sex averse aces, advocating for positivity for themselves in denial of the other
‘Stop equating asexuality with not being able to have sex’ and 'I’m tired of seeing posts about how aces can have sex, actually’ basically
But I don’t think we need less of either, we need more of both
Aces that are fine with having sex need positivity because the 'pure bean uwu’ stereotypes surrounding ace celibacy are inaccurate and infantilising. Sex favourable aces might also be called fakers or doubt their orientation
But also aces that are averse to sex need positivity because constantly putting the focus on how asexual people are 'actually normal about sex’ is othering to sex averse aces, and can lead to assumptions that all asexuals are, or should be, sex favourable
We need to make sure we don’t silence other ace experiences with our own
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