the aro experience of not really caring if two characters kiss but being FASCINATED by the dynamic that arises from the two being together

*staring into the bathroom mirror, gripping the sink* i will not spend the rest of my life lonely because i'm aroace my boundless joy swag and whimsy will ensare an amazing queerplatonic partner and even if that doesn't happen that means i get to decorate my house however i want and have whatever pets i want

what if the bi to aroace pipeline is real and it gets me

Fuck shipping. I'm canoeing everyone now.

These two characters are in a relationship? Nah, they're friends. These two characters hate each other? What if they hung out and comforted each other instead? No romance. No sex. Just friendship.

Canoed.

I always forget about the term rose (as in, the shortening of romantic-sexual) and it's such a good term. Allorose is such a good term to make it clear that you're talking about only people who are both alloromantic and allosexual, and not talking about other tertiary ways of being allo, and all the rose labels, like grayrose and demirose, are so cool and convenient too. And their flags are so good! I love the blue-green. Anyway. Just a reminder that rose exists and it's a cool word and we should use it even more.

Wanting a romantic relationship as a (most likely) aroace not in a "If you want a girlfriend you can't be aroace, it doesn't work like that" kind of way but in a "I want someone to choose me. I want someone to choose me, day after day, for the rest of our lives, because they want to. I want to be someone's partner, I want to be someone's first pick, I want to be their favorite one. I don't want to be shunted aside in favor of husbands, wives, and kids, because our schedule changed, because we've moved on to different things. I want to be a priority. I want them to fight to keep me, I want to fight to keep them. I want to hold someone, I want to be held. I want to exist in their space, I want them in mine. I don't want to find out they mattered so much more to me than I did to them. I dream of a love so heavy it makes my spine throb." kind of way

My toxic aroace trait is that I have only ever seen evidence that a grand total of two (2) people in the universe actually experience romantic and sexual attraction on a scale that everyone insists as normal, and that is Gomez and Morticia Addams

Today I was chatting with two guys and mentioned I was aroace. It went a little something like this.

A: wtf is that

B: it means she’s not attracted to people in that way

A: bro you can’t just not pick a side, that’s crazy

B: nah, it just means she’s spectator mode

A: OHHH IT MAKES SENSE NOW

I have never felt more validated or laughed so hard