Anonymous asked:Cgl/ ddlg is a kink and kink is always a sexual thing. There is no other way around this. You are being harmful to minors by making them think that being in the kink community is non sexual and is therefor safe for them.
Sigh. Here we go again. I refuse to re-hash what I’ve already said, SO…
Do NOT try to tell me that I’m harming minors when I’m HELPING by explaining how a CGLRE relationship can turn into a power exchange relationship, despite it being non-sexual.
YOU are hurting minors by saying “Well, as long as it’s not sexual, it’s fine!” Because it’s NOT fine if you have minors engaging in punishment dynamics because they don’t know why it’s a bad idea.
Anonymous asked:Do you know of anywhere that sells onesies/babygrows cheaper than $25? I live in England and the shipping is like another $20 and it's sad
Unfortunately that’s pretty much the lower end in terms of pricing! I don’t specialize in UK products, so I wouldn’t know much about other options for you.
Unfortunately, parents aren’t always that understanding about age regression. But that’s okay! They don’t have to know, and there’s ways to keep your age regression private. Here are my tips.
1) Get a prepaid Visa.
If you want to order little stuff online but don’t want your parents asking questions, look into getting a prepaid Visa. Some of them require your parents to activate them, so make sure to check. If you think your parents would without wanting access to your account, then go for it. But if you want it more discreet, try to find one that you can just load and go.
You can usually buy these at gas stations or the gift card aisle at Wal-Mart.
2) Order from a discreetly-named website, and pretend you bought something else.
If getting a prepaid Visa doesn’t work out, you still have options! Order your little stuff from Amazon, and say you bought a book or something like that. (Make sure to have your something picked out in case they ask.)
3) Ship your stuff to a friend’s house. If you can’t, get a PO Box if you have the money to do so
If you have a friend who’s parents are less likely to snoop, ask if you can ship your stuff to their house instead.
A post office box is a box at the post office where you can have mail sent instead of your house. Then you can go and pick it up. Minors can have a post office box, so if you’re underage, no worries! The price for a post office box varies, so make sure you can realistically afford it if you’re going to go that route.
4) If you’re going to buy at the store, make sure to have a good cover story for what you’re buying.
If your parents are with you at the store, you can tell them one of your friends at school has an older brother/sister who just had a baby and you want to get them a present.
If you’re a girl, you can say you need emergency pads/tampons and ask your mom/dad to drop you off at the store and pick you up in the parking lot when you’re done. Then just buy your little stuff with it (make sure you have the little stuff on a separate receipt.) As long as the extra bulk in the bag isn’t obvious and you’re keeping it relatively hidden, they probably won’t notice.
If you can drive but your parents see you coming home with stuff and ask about what you bought, have a lie ready. If you’re a girl you can say pads/tampons or bras and they’re probably not gonna look. If you think they would anyway, try to provide a distraction. Have a bag of candy or two ready and take it out when they ask and say “Candy, want some?”
That’ll be a distraction so they hopefully don’t ask questions.
5) Have really good hiding spots.
A shoebox under the bed isn’t really a good spot. Neither is your pillow case. Your parents used to be teens who hid things from their parents, too, so don’t go with your first instincts. Get creative. Think of things they’d never dream of. Here are some ideas.
⭐️ Walk into your room and look around. Pretend you’re a nosy parent snooping for your kid’s hidden stuff. Where would you look first? Avoid all those places.
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For small things such as pacis, you can hide them in hoodie pockets or pants pockets. If your parents do your laundry, this is probably not the best idea. Even if they do your laundry though, they probably dont re-wash clean and folded socks ;) You can put your pacis in a clean pair of socks and fold them up.
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A great discreet option is a fake book lockbox.
Your parents wouldn’t suspect a dictionary is hiding a paci hoard! (Note: it’s not big enough for a sippy cup or bottle, so only use it for pacis and other small things.)
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Who says your closet isn’t a good hiding place? All you need are four things things: a heavy coat, a t-shirt, a hanger, and some sort of purse or bag you can put on the hanger. First, put your sippy cups, bottles, or whatever else fits, into the bag and secure it on the hanger. Hang it up in your closet, and make sure the hanger doesn’t look uneven. If all looks good, put the t-shirt on the hanger, over the bag. Finally, cover it with the heavy coat and button it up.
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One place your parents will never think to look is the air vents. Remove the front plate of the air vent and you have a perfect hiding spot! The only downside is that it’s not very easily accessible. If you go this route, make sure to wrap whatever you’re hiding in a washcloth so it doesn’t rattle around in there when the AC is on.
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If you’re a girl, a large makeup bag is a good option. Put it in your underwear drawer and have some pads/tampons on top so it looks like your feminine hygiene products are stored in there.
⭐️ If you’re allowed to keep snacks in your room, you can use a cereal box. Eat half the cereal and use the bottom of the box to store whatever will fit. Then put the bag of cereal on top.
⭐️ If your parents don’t take out your trash, you can store stuff inside the bottom of your trash can. Just lift up the plastic bag with your trash, put your stuff down at the bottom, them put the trash bag back inside. (Just make sure to always have trash inside, so you can’t see the stuff hiding at the bottom. But don’t let it get full, either, in case your parents decide to empty it themselves.)
⭐️ Have any old board games you don’t play any more? Store your stuff in there! It won’t look suspicious stashed on the top shelf of your closet. (Bonus points if you store the game somewhere else and occasionally play the game in front of your parents.) If you don’t have any, here’s some cheap ones .
⭐️ If you have a bean bag, unzip it and hide stuff in there. Make sure not to store small stuff that might get lost, though!
⭐️ Get some fake flowers (here’s some nice ones for under $5) and a vase that isn’t see-through. Put your stuff in the vase, then insert the flowers. This is a cheap vase that’s big enough to hide a sippy cup inside. For added security, get some easter grass and put it inside the vase, on top of your sippy cup. It’s completely hidden!
6) My door doesn’t have a lock. What do I do?
If you’re going to spend some time being little and want to be alone, prepare in advance. Stuff a towel or blanket against the door. If someone tries to open it, it’ll only open a few inches.
If your parents ask why you did that, say you were trying on outfits and didn’t want them walking in on you.
Be sure to have a temporary hiding place to shove the pacis, bottles, etc. you’re using in case of an emergency. If you’re wearing a diaper, make sure to keep it covered or have pants nearby that you can quickly put on.
This is all the tips I have for now! If anyone has more ideas, let me know and I’ll add them to this. I hope this helps!
Anonymous asked:tip for littles who are shy about buying things for themselves: whatever you’re buying, get a gift bag with it. they’re not too expensive (most are $1-2) and will make what you’re buying look like a gift. sometimes I’m embarrassed to get cute/agere stuff for myself but this tip helps me a lot!
justpuppi asked:aaah im sorry but whats the difference between cg/l and cglre. I know you probably answered this question tons of times but I can't find it right now.
No worries! CGL is a kink term for caregiver/little. It’s the gender-neutral term for DDlg, DDlb, MDlb, and MDlg. Cglre is non-kink age regression involving a caregiver.
Anonymous asked:Hey, cg/l is power exchange and even if it's not sexual is still a kink. BUT cglre is caregiver-little-regression and is not a kink, as it is a form of coping mechanism for trauma and other reasons. (This is for the other anon)
Yep! Cglre is a relationship that does not involve a power exchange dynamic. But it’s easy for people who don’t know enough to be confused about cglre. For example, parents punish their kids for doing wrong right? So it’s easy for someone who doesn’t understand power exchange dynamics to think it’s okay for their non-sexual caregiver to punish them for being bad. In reality, that’s not such a good idea.
What I want to express to my younger followers is what power exchange relationships look like v.s cglre relationships, because it’s very easy for a cglre relationship to fall into a kink dynamic on accident. That can result in some very bad experiences, and I don’t want anyone to go through that.
I actually had a cglre relationship that turned into an abusive cgl relationship. It’s so gradual and subtle that people who haven’t experienced that form of abuse might not realize what’s happening until it’s too late.
Sorry anon, but cgl is a kink term, even if the person means it non-sexually. Not all kinks are sexual.
This is the dumbest thing I’ve seen in my whole life. Apparently all other age regressors really are as dumb as they’re little age. God you guys need to be educated. Clg isn’t kink, Anon is right. It’s a relationship dynamic and you can be in a cgl relationship if you’re asexual and it has nothing necessarily to do with sex. And the definition of kink is an unconventional sexual preference so saying that not all kinks are sexual is probably the dumbest thing in the world. For something to be a kink, it has to be sexual.
I’ve spent years researching the psychology of alternate sexual practices. Before you go throwing a tantrum over something you clearly know nothing about, do some research.
CG/l stands for caregiver/little and is a power exchange dynamic. I don’t know why you’re equating kink with sex, because they can and do exist completely independent of each other. There are asexual members of the kink community. There are kinksters who engage with people outside their sexual orientation. Because sex has nothing to do with their interactions.
Kink can evolve other emotions besides sexual arousal. The endorphins released can feel similar to a heroin high. It can create an adrenaline rush similar to sky diving or roller coasters. It can create emotional intimacy similar to kissing or cuddling. Some people use kink for catharsis Kink can simply be physical sensations and emotional states.
What exactly someone experiences varies from person to person. So I’ll say it louder for the people in the back.
KINK DOES NOT HAVE TO BE SEXUAL.
This is especially important because there are minors out there who enter into power exchange dynamics without being aware of what they’re doing, and think that it’s okay because it isn’t sexual when it’s very much NOT okay. These relationships are intense and can easily become dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing.
