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@briarpatch-kids

Call me Briar! 32 they/them, transmasc-ish and happily married. thembo rights, Dirt Selkie and wheelchair user

Hello! I'm Briar and here are the basics! (Last updated August 2023)

  • My blog is kind of a messy space like the rest of my life, so there's a lot here.
  • I mainly post about my garden, fiber arts, sewing, canning, the cat, the ducks, and disability topics.
  • I'm a full time wheelchair user and ventilator user with mitochondrial disease. I have a little less than half the energy I'm supposed to and that causes a lot of issues.
  • My health is super variable because of the above. If I overdo it or get sick Bad Things Happen and I've been told by my doctor I should look at flares in terms of weeks to months rather than day to day.
  • If you want to use any of my photos or video for a stimboard or moodboard, just tag me or send it to me so I can see your art!

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Commissions are permanently closed due to declining health

Moral stuff

  • This is a trans and ace inclusive space. Don't play those games or I'll block you.
  • I have friends here who are intellectually disabled and proud of it. If you're mean to someone for their typing or asking a question that can easily be googled I will call you out on it. Same goes for ableism of any other kind.
  • I am anti genocide and for a free Palestine.
  • I am also anti-military and one of my deepest regrets in life was joining at 17. I did not kill anyone and worked in medical but it was still contributing, and still wrong.
  • This is an anti racist and anti facist space. Black Lives Matter.
  • Please don't drag me into fanfiction stuff. I don't read it, I don't really involve myself in fandom, I've never been on Ao3. Just don't be a creep and write nsfw stories about kids or real living people. It's gross okay?
  • I say queer. I won't tag it, I won't stop saying it, it's part of my identity, don't ask unless you want a rant about it.

Communication

  • My anons are off due to people being weird about my friends and their disabilities, and I really appreciate people letting me know when I say something inappropriate or short sighted. I'm on the autism spectrum and working really hard to grow as a person so feedback is a good thing!
  • I also love it when anons and such tell me fun facts or talk about their day if it was interesting or whatever.
  • I generally try to answer DMs and asks as soon as possible but sometimes they get lost. If I haven't after a few days, please don't assume it's because I don't like you or whatever. It's because I didn't have the social energy and put it off, then my memory sucks so I've forgotten or it didn't go through so you're welcome to send it again.
  • I don't have the energy for group chats, I'm sorry. I want to, but I inevitably burn out my social energy in a week and then ghost and feel bad about it.
  • I've had a pretty variable disability experience because I went from able bodied and capable of running miles to a full time wheelchair user who needs assistance with every day tasks slowly over 7 years. I'm happy to answer most good faith questions about disability, mobility aids, and the like.
  • Anyone is welcome to ask for a plain language explanation of something. I will not be rude or snarky about it if you want an easy to understand answer.
  • I don't reblog funding requests, I'm sorry. I'm disabled and trans and so are most of my friends so I see one every fourth post and it's really rough on my mental health. I have a small budget that I use to donate when I'm able to instead.

Everything is fixed and okay now, but in a Peak Briar Move I knocked a cup of coffee onto my oxygen condenser. Thank fuck I've been drinking it black lately

my dad (Maori) works on a ship with all Maori/Tongan/Samoan fisherman- and one Aussie guy called Jake.

And that wasn't done on purpose just sort of how it ended up, but Jake recently got an injury so they put him on a Different boat just for a little bit (a sit in the wheelhouse and scout type of boat, instead of the main fishing one) and he only got back to my dad's ship today and he was apparently like Shaking. He was Traumatised.

Dad said Jake kept pulling him aside and going "They were all yelling on there, but in a MEAN way" "They didn't clean... Like at ALL"

Jake experienced what a boat full of old school Aussie fisherman is like. That is the norm Jake. You just happened to be on the all Island boy boat on your first go out. "It was time for dinner and they had FROZEN nuggets" Jake that's what they have on ships that are out at sea for months at a time.

On my dad's boat they are eating fresh fish and coconut milk Ceviche. They're grilling steaks on an open bbq on the deck that probably is not regulation. All the guys have their own special knives to prepare sashimi every couple days. Everyone is happily doing their own work so they can clock out early and set up a movie on the deck. Jake did you genuinely believe that's what every boat was doing.

Local Australian man is fed fresh juices and smoked fish for first time- refuses to go back to beef jerky boat life

jake that first night when they served a freezer tray tv dinner and not an overflowing plate of fish that's probably going for conservatively like $40-$80 bucks a kilo but the guys decided Eh we'll catch more let's just fry it up:

I know we’re focusing on the food but let’s take a second to zero in on the toxic masculinity of it all. No one cleans everyone screams and you can’t leave because it’s a ship in the middle of an ocean sounds like actual Hell. The poor dude had to experience the masculinity Torment Nexus and was probably clawing his way onto a lifeboat.

I love dropping late series interview with the vampire lore that I KNOW will never make the series because it's too bonkers even for iwtv. It's like oooh I wonder if they'll go far enough for the [redacted due to spoilers] to show up? And they're always like, "wait... what?" Cause yeah, Anne Rice was the original "please just stop" author who ruined her own books.

So I've got this friend whose nervous because she's trans and dating this guy who she hasn't told yet because they've only been on a two dates. For this story let's call the friend Jane and the guy she was dating Jason. Happy ending don't worry.

So I tell Jane to bring her boy over to a bbq I'm having and she can tell him she's trans at my place surrounded by queer and trans people who love her and will support her if he ends up being awful.

She waits till the end of the bbq to tell him the news, by which point the rest of us have learned that Jason is a kind, friendly, empathetic, hard working, dummy. So we sit down, all of us a little worried about this gym bro's reaction when she tells him she's trans, and that she understands if he doesn't want to keep dating her it's no big deal.

He's baffled, so we explain what trans is, and after the disclosure that she hasn't had bottom surgery yet...

"Oh you have a dick?"

"... yeah."

He look's around at the room full of people with baited breath, his clearly a little afraid girl friend says

"Oooohhhh! I get it! You think- don't worry Babe! Watch this!"

And ya'll this man jumps up, runs into the kitchen and returns with one of the bratwurst we had for grilling and proceeds to tilt his head back, put it down his throat, hold it in his mouth for a moment, and spit it up without even a whisper of a gag and then looks around at the group absolutely beaming with pride.

My mans saw his worried girlfriend and her support network and thought to him self "Oh they don't think I can't please my girl, but I'll show them!"

I do feel the need to add that later he excitedly tell the group that as a straight guy, he never thought that skill would be useful outside hotdog eating contests.

"Man its too bad that im straight since I've got like no gag reflex and all."

"Honey, I must tell you, i am in fact trans and I have not had bottom surgery."

"My god... everything's coming up Jason."

Pure of heart dumb of ass hetero of sexual

Starting off my challenge to make 1 zine every week until march, it’s some of my favourite baby birds!

I’m doing this challenge to try to kick my habit of overthinking and never starting stuff, though I will admit I’m posting this now on my self-appointed deadline day because I spent the whole week overthinking, gotta start somewhere I guess. Once I forced myself to just sit down and just start drawing it only took me an hour which makes me feel a bit silly

Weight loss talk under the cut (it's a joke though)

Weight loss and GLP-1 talk under the cut. It's about my own experience and happy. (Imo) it DOES discuss numbers though for those who are sensitive. Also talking about fertility a bit

Managed one whole week with those mega long "medium" coffin nails! Took them off today but I'm not sure yet on my next nails

Just remembered something REALLY funny about my semi recent neuropsych results: at one point when she gave me my results she said that she wasn't testing for it, but she agrees with previous diagnoses of autism and adhd. Meaning like, "we weren't looking for it, but boy is it apparent" lmao.

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