you can make small improvements to your life over time!! life doesn’t need to become perfect all at once!!

u have to love yourself while you are becoming the person you want to be

Self care doesn't have to be expensive or extravagant.

It doesn't require a passport, a plane ticket, or a hotel stay.

It doesn't require tickets or a membership.

It's not simply "little treats," or indulging in expensive chocolates, or taking a spa getaway.

It certainly can *include* any or all of those things (if they are within your ways and means) but it doesn't *have* to.

Allow yourself occasional lapses without giving up entirely. Perfection isn't the goal; continuity is.

We should all be less embarrassed to be caught trying tbh. Wanting to be something is only ever bad if you’re trying to imitate others without ever forming your own thoughts opinions or taste. But I have never looked down on people who’re trying to get somewhere or called them wannabes or mocked them for it. Like that’s admirable actually. There is nothing wrong w having goals and trying at something until you’re good at it. And there’s nothing wrong w the initial phase where you’re struggling. That’s the most natural thing in the world

Wake up babe time to make the best of life each day no matter the circumstances and trust that even the most difficult challenges will pass <3

nothing lasts forever :)

to be seen without performing. to be heard without screaming. to be missed without disappearing. to be enough without proving it. to be held without falling apart. to be understood without explaining. to be wanted without conditions. to be. to be.

it is so fucking bleak that the worst thing most people can think to say about diet culture/restriction/glp-1s for weight loss etc. is that they "don't even work." why is your critique of fatphobia still based in a belief that being fat is a problem in need of fixing

if treating your body as something to be punished and denied had a 100% hit rate of making you drop 100 pounds and keep it off it would not make it any less abhorrent to keep promoting it, it would not make it any less cruel to force on fat kids, it would not make it any more worth it. your argument against disordered eating and the culture that mandates it cannot be founded on a belief that it's not an effective enough way to hate the fat body

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do it scared do it stupid do it alone etc etc but don’t do it hungry. eat a snack first

Something that helps

If you blurt out something that you thought would be funny but it comes across as insensitive, just quickly say, “I’m sorry, that was rude, what I meant was…”

If you say something in anger or frustration, take a breath and say, “I’m sorry, that was hurtful, let me rephrase…”

If you say something heartfelt, but it comes across as insincere or ironic, say “That sounds like I’m just saying it, but I’m being truly honest…”

If you accidentally tell the waiter “enjoy your meal” just laugh and say a quick “so sorry, my brain isn’t working today!” and you will most likely get a commiserating chuckle in return.

Most of the time, the other person will accept your apology with no harm done. Sometimes they even insist they understood what you meant the first time and clarification was not needed. At times, maybe they have a right to be upset, but it never hurts to apologize again so they know that you’re taking their feelings into account.

Repeat after me. It’s okay to be bad at conversation. Knowing how to apologize makes it easier.

It turns out that you can become the person you’ve always envisioned but you’ll still have the person you were before inside of you and you have to treat them with as much forgiveness and love as possible

but it isnt too late to start tho! if you suddenly wake up and realize the years have slipped by you can start actively living again!

and you know what im not done i think that its actually a very normal and healthy ebb and flow of life

its okay to have stagnant periods, all life has periods of time in its life cycle just to exist and conserve energy and its okay for people to do that too.

but its also very important not to stay in that stagnant period forever!

Stop just asking "is it normal?" and start asking "is it harming anyone?" Lots of harmful things are normalized in this society and lots of things considered weird or rare are completely harmless. Whether something is considered normal or common shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether it's okay

Like a lot of disabled and neurodivergent and mentally ill ways of living and expressing yourself are both not normal and not harming anyone and it's the last part we should focus our attention on

@heterodox-heterographer you've hit the nail in the head