It matters that we refuse.

It matters that we resist.

It matters that we be loud about our refusal and resistance.

till deactivation do us part

im so sad this is from a deactivated blog i feel like i just found a heartfelt message in an old locket at a garage sale

This is how everyone should be referring to Twitter.

There's a lot of stuff that counts as dystopian about modern society, but one of the smaller yet insidious things I've noticed recently is the rise of companies whose entire marketing strategy is to convince you you're a burden to your friends and families.

I'm talking about that one dog watching/walking service that has a whole commercial implying that your family members secretly hate you for asking them to watch your dog to the point it counts as a modern social faux pas.

And there's this moving service commercial that I think someone else referenced in a big tweet that says something along the line of "Real adults don't ask their friends to help them move."

Like fuck that, man. You're supposed to want to watch your friends' pets, and you're supposed to want to help your friends move, and you're supposed to cook for people when they're sick, and you're supposed to show up to check on friends you haven't heard from in awhile, and you're supposed to remember your friend needs a large frying pan when you find one cheap at the thrift store and bring it to them.

One of the reasons the younger generations are so miserable and lonely is because the rise of technology and the concurrent pushing of this rhetoric that all effort is a major inconvenience, and asking someone to put in effort for you therefore makes you an inconvenience has conditioned them not to seek community.

And because they've never experienced it, they don't know that's what's missing. It's a vicious cycle because when you're depressed from lack of community, finding the energy to put in effort for other people is a lot harder than getting quick dopamine hits from scrolling on social media or watching Netflix. Then you encounter the further issue that our media glorifies romantic love to the exclusion of all else, so most of the young people I know who are lonely jump to "Well I just need a girlfriend/boyfriend/partner," and that sets up rough relationships because one person is expected to fill the void of a dozen or more friends and neighbors.

So please believe me: If you're lonely, try volunteering somewhere in the community. Try going to events around your interests. Try talking to local shop owners. Bake something and surprise a friend with it. Search for nearby clubs or intramural sports teams. There are companies literally capitalizing on subtlely encouraging you NOT to do these things. We've reached the point where helping your friend move is an anticapitalist act.

Need is a gift you can give your community! My absolute favourite passage in QFAP is this:

"I I came to myself and, finding myself somewhat diminished, faced with demands I found difficult to fulfil, I went to meeting.

‘Here I am’, I said.

‘That’s all right.’

‘Just for a bit of a sit-down.’

‘Whatever you need.’

‘You mustn’t expect anything from me,’ I said, ‘I can only bring a need.’

‘Whatever you have.’'

- Dorothy Nimmo, 1979

Need is a type of community glue. If all you have to offer is need, then you have something to offer.

Plus, if you find yourself always saying 'let me know if you need anything', and no one ever does? Ask them for help. The number 1 thing you can do to be someone people turn to isn't to be endlessly competent and independent, it's asking them for help. Asking for help tells people that you consider them as being in community with you, and that the ongoing give and take (without bookkeeping) of community is something you've signed up for

For those who need to hear it. To be ten pounds overweight is barely noticeable. To be ten pounds underweight is cause for concern if not outright alarm.

The primary health impact of being fifty pounds overweight is medical neglect. The primary health impact of being fifty pounds underweight is organ failure.

Skinny =/= healthy. You can not underfeed yourself into balanced nutrition. You can not subtract your way towards a healthy diet. You can not exercise all the spare calories off because bomb calorimetery is a joke of a scientific model that would have been laughed out of any other field.

there's Seagull Mischief afoot....

irl Creature btw

From the beginning, Kondo made clear that her style wasn’t about minimalism or holding your home to some kind of bizarre standard of tidiness — it was about joy. If you liked a type of pen, buy more of that type of pen. If you wanted your living room to be filled with pinball machines, do that (a woman she helped on her show did exactly that.

Now she’s got three kids and her joy is sparked by spending time with them rather than tidying up.

May we all have as much intentional joy in our lives as Marie Kondo. I used to feel guilty about the clutter and tchotchkes that we have in our condo — about half our home decor comes from Spirit of Halloween — but she made me realize that all the weird skulls and spooky stuff is what makes me happy in my own home. To Hell with minimalism, I’m gonna be the weird Halloween house 24/7/365.

god i LOVE marie kondo for exactly this!!! ive been working on making sure that i actually really like as many things in my home as possible - from big furniture and art right down to cups and forks. its been so lovely seeing my space filling up with things that make me smile to see them ❤️

The only good white washing

You can also add color to the mix! All those quaint postcard-esque colorful European houses that tourists clamour to see? That's limewash babey!!!

And you can apply multiple coats a year if you want the color to be opaque faster :]

Did You Learn?

you can lie on the floor in your home and the Soft Baby who lives there will approach you. this will increase your chance of contact with Nose Wet by 75%

Tumblr is such an awesome website. What if your diary had a pvp option

Anything the media says that you disagree with is an obvious conspiracy, and anything they say that you agree with is clearly factual.

/pic id: bluesky post from Kingfisher & Wombat @tkingfisher

"If you want to believe it, check it twice ::clap clap:: "If you want to believe it, check it twice ::clap clap:: Doesn't matter if it's awful Doesn't matter if it's nice "If you want to believe it, check it twice ::clap clap::" appended to the post from High Priestess, Low Patience user Cheriepriest.com

If the rage-bait works too well it might be fake ::clap clap:: If the rage-bait works too well it might be fake ::clap clap:: Look we've all been fooled before when a deep-fake makes us sore but kindly doublecheck your source, it might be fake ::clap clap::

/end id

youve heard of "hrt should be free for everyone who wants it" now get ready for chromosome testing & ultrasounds should be free for everyone who wants it

I raise you: Any healthcare should be free for everyone who wants it

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That's just what spring is like in the midwest

I’m gonna propose “I guess you haven’t read the silmarillion then :/” as a default response to anyone not understanding a reference to something obscure. even if it’s not remotely Tolkien related. I want to build up a perception that perhaps the sum total of human knowledge is contained in the silmarillion

We celebrate David Bowie, Freddie Mercury and Prince for their gender-nonconforming amazingness as we should, but let us not forget

Annie Lennox

Grace Jones

Sinead O‘Connor

Dolores O‘Riordan

Patti Smith

Tracy Chapman

Please add if you like, i do not own the photos

Big Mama Thornton (photo credit unknown)

Joan Jett (photo credited to Brad Elterman)

Pauline Black (photo credited to Ebet Roberts)

Meshell Ndegeocello (photo credited to Raymond Boyd)

Tanita Tikaram (photo credited to Bernard Weil)

I can't quite explain it, but Clue (1985), The Princess Bride (1987), Galaxy Quest (1999), and Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves (2023) are all the same genre

They aren't a spoof (roast) or a love letter (tribute), but a best man's speech; an expression of love with a gentle ribbing on ocassion.

we've got a life to love living.

advice that has literally saved and improved my life