to make this even more clear:
i believe this fundamentally hypocritical way of engaging in discussions is pervasive both on and offline, but easier to find online where the the relative safety of anonymity represents a genuine encouragement to call your fellow human being the worst things that come to mind.
this is the process that creates callout culture (immunitary governmentality), and the process that legitimizes the calling of those who give in to callout spreading fundamentally evil. they're the same process, a reaction to a reaction, paranoid readings escalating off of one another with little or no genuine argument other than x person is evil, or guilty of harm and evil.
lacking inquisitiveness isn't a sin. being manipulated by the very insidious forms in which consensualism undermines our desire to feel differently is a sign of the times. yet it is something we must actively combat, carving out spaces and moments in which we can interface in new ways, emancipation on the horizon, searching the mechanisms of power that have lead to a specific event. you brush a mere moment of another person's life; will you make that moment one of strife, or do you want this person to have the seed of emancipatory movement planted in their mind?
let's have discussions that reawaken the will to live and dream of different futures. see none as your enemy, engage with the world as if full of potential allies.