shitballs - just fell down the stairs
really need someone to slonk my shit rn stupid style
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The thing that really helped me understand that there doesn't need to be another label than bi is when I heard someone say bi means two types of attraction: to same gender and other gender, not to men and women! The same way homosexuality is same, heterosexuality is other. And if the definition of same/other is inclusive of trans people & those who indentify outside the binary when talking about gay/straight then why is bi any different?
WAIT THIS IS SUCH A GOOD WAY OF LOOKING AT IT
This blew my damn mind
Unpopular opinion: straight people using “partner” to refer to their SO actually helps normalize the term so that lgbt folx can use it without automatically outing themselves to strangers. It also helps other straight ppl get comfortable with the fact that strangers aren’t entitled to information about other people’s gender or sexuality.
Give op their hard-earned notes
Tbh I hear “partner” and assume gay, I didn’t know straights used it. Very fair point, OP
I hear ‘partner’ and think ‘gay’ too. A girl at work used it for months and I just went with it. When she would say ‘he’ I even thought maybe he was trans*. Anyways, someone using partner makes me more comfortable and I came out to her. She was just an intelligent straight girl that liked the term and was knowledgeable in human sexuality so definitely someone I should have felt comfortable coming out too. It’s a good sign of a straight person uses it IMO.
As a mental health clinician, this is actually my blanket term when discussing any romantic relationship. I agree it normalizes it, but I also think it’s a relatively safe term to use to describe most romantic relationships without making any assumptions about the person’s orientation or identity. I also use the word “partnered” when describing a monogamous relationship status.
The term “partner” also removes the implied hierarchy of boyfriend/girlfriend vs husband/wife. This is relevant both to non-monogamous people, and unmarried individuals for whom the importance of their relationship isn’t dictated by its legal status.
also you can make cowboy jokes
Is there any word that’s had a wilder evolutionary path than “gothic”?
Seriously, it went from meaning this:
to this:
to this:
and finally ended up as this:
You go you funky word, keep on trucking.
a bop, a banger, and a jam are all different
but you have to feel the difference in your heart
a bop is something light or something you casually enjoy. you don’t mind it/it’s cute in the moment.
a banger is something goes hard (some times unnecessarily) can invoke deep emotions. can fizzle out after some time has passed.
a jam is something that can be considered as nostalgic. it is a song that is a personal anthem, no matter what you are going through you just respond to it. it is immortal.
Morally grey: A character who does too much bad to be a good person, but does too much good to be a bad person.
Sympathetic villain: A character who is a bad person, but whose backstory/character arc makes you feel sorry for or sympathetic towards them.
Anti-hero: A character who does bad things to achieve a good goal.
Anti-villain: A character who does bad things to achieve a goal that they believe to be good, but is actually messed up.
Just plain annoying: A character who does bad things to achieve a bad goal but has one throwaway line about a hard childhood that is expected to put them into one of the aforementioned categories when in reality it just makes them annoying
It’s been said before, but I really despise how “gaslighting” has changed from referring to a specific domestic abuse tactic to meaning “lying but more sensationally”
it’s also not “this person disagrees with me”
Friendly reminder that gaslighting isn’t just lying or telling a big
lie. It is purposely lying or misconstruing events to make the other
person doubt their own judgement, perception or sanity like what
happened in the play Gas Light, where the term came from.
It is when your confidence in your mind starts to go from ‘I have a good memory/idea of what I know’ to ‘Did that happen? Am I making things up? I don’t remember doing that but what if I did?’ It is the feeling that you MUST have a bad memory/be making things up/forgetting things/really be the villain when someone tells you something, even when you remember things distinctly differently.
People can tell small lies like ‘I don’t remember’ and big lies like ‘I paid the bills’ and ridiculous lies like ‘One time I met Taylor Swift in a bar and she told me I had the face of an angel and the next day I was offered a modeling gig, THE NEXT DAY’ without it being gaslighting because they’re not trying to change your perception of yourself or what you remember or make you doubt yourself.
Bugs Bunny accidentally transformed the word nimrod into a synonym for idiot because nobody got a joke where he sarcastically compared Elmer Fudd to the Biblical figure Nimrod, a mighty hunter.
Etymology is ridiculous and terrifying sometimes
As a queer person I honestly die inside a little every time a post in which I do nothing more than describe my own sexuality gets reblogged with the tag “q slur”.
The fuck? Did the concept of “already reclaimed” not get through to these people?
… Maybe it is a good thing that I am so tumblr-anonymous that my posts never get reblogged.
Thank you for this incredible explanation. I hope people read this. As an older queer person, I’m so thankful to see this.
@mostlyhydratrash - check this good stuff out.
