@aroacesafeplaceforall / aroacesafeplaceforall.tumblr.com
There are so many aroace blogs on tumblr (incredible amazing I adore you all 2016 me is screaming in joy I never thought i would see the day) but I don’t think there are as many I adore as @sortingmyideas
So here’s an appreciation post to you!! For both the incredible posts (that make me laugh and think, sometimes at the same time!!) and for being an amazing member of the aro/ace community here on tumblr! Cheers to you
My aroace ass just got a job at a night club (behind the bar people) and had to have a talk about how “don’t flirt or do anything the customers while on shift/after shift they are very drunk and very stupid” and I’m just here like: ma’am that is not your biggest problem, your biggest problem is me laughing in their faces/punching them.
bro, my mom straight up called me a weirdo for being ace is it on site?
Two thoughts take them with salt as its like, late and i got a ping
1- bad of her, have a good talk about it if you think you can, find out whats her opinions on asexuality if you don't know, etc!
2- queer is weird, shes just affirming you being queer /j
(Weird =/= bad, but you are not weird for being Ace or being on tumblr (arguable). There may be a third thing that does make you weird, but thats neither here nor there.)
Stay safe anon!
Australia’s KOSA has passed and goes into effect in less then 15 days.
We, the Australians of aroacesafeplace, refuse to hand over private information to third party companies. This includes our face and identifications such as passports and drivers licenses. We also refuse to part take in the “digital ID” act that bares frightening similarities to Chinas own policies.
This is nothing more than a breach of privacy and a blind grab for control. While it is understandable that children under a certain age should not have access to some media available on the internet, it should be up to the parents to enforce these rules. It should not be that ALL Australians of all ages are limited, with privacy breached and identities compromised.
As of now, we do not know if it will effect tumblr.
If we vanish, however, you know why.
My mother finally accepted that I’m never going to marry maybe a year ago (she holds hope for me being in a relationship so baby steps) but recently she was like “I was looking at benefits of marriage again” and started going on a rant about how unmarried people are technically seen as worth less in the eyes of the government
And I’m like, I know.
Like I have less stability monetarily due to not marrying. The government demands more from me because I won’t be married.
It’s so weird to watch a married person realise in real time that they have rights single people don’t?
I’m mainly talking about financial and social rights, nothing terribly major and nothing compared to the difference in rights between other identities or racial rights. But it’s still bullshit
I hate how people invented a binary(and the 8 thing that got brought back) for attraction. the whole platonic vs romantic thing tires me. what if it's weird. what if it's an evil 3rd/9th thing. what if it's simultaneously romantic and platonic and neither and indescribable. what if I love in a way that is entirely different and queer and and rejects any form of labels. like non binary for attraction??
anyway idk if anyone else feels like this but I felt it was the right place
[disclaimer: ik this works for some people, if you like labelling your attraction go for it I just don't like how forced it is on people]
I (Noah) also feel this kinda way with how I feel attraction, I have this one person (those who know me will know EXACTLY who I'm talking about lol) who I feel deeply attracted to.
It's not in a romantic way, but it's definitely different than how I feel towards all of my other close friends. I've felt this way since we were younger, and I deeply care about them, wanting to spend our lives together and always be friends.
I just know if I said this to people they'd likely say what I'm feeling is romantic or smth like "there's no platonic explanation for what you're feeling".
Why can't it be nuanced? Why can't my emotions be complicated?
I think it's very interesting how we experience attraction of any kind. Sexual, Romantic, Platonic, Familial, and so many other types and in betweens.
It sucks that our feelings are put into boxes and stuff (and while that does suit a LOT of people, it doesn't suit ALL).
I agree with you when you say, "what if I love in a way that is entirely different and queer" because honestly? That resonates with me a whole lot, especially so with the friend I mentioned above. Particularly the "simultaneously romantic and platonic and neither and indescribable" because that's exactly how it feels, and you've put it into words!!
We don't have anything to compare our own experiences to, only that we experience them. There's no right or wrong way to feel, and I think that should be a more widespread view (now when it comes to ACTING on those feelings, that's completely different, but that's a whole different can of worms).
Thank you for sharing anon! I hope it can reach someone and resonate with them the same it did me, as this was really useful and made me reconsider a lot of things.
Binary thinking when it comes to attraction messed me up for so many years. I was feeling something and then trying to shove it into either platonic or romantic boxes and it always ruined everything
I personally now use the label alterous to describe my attraction, which I would define as "a secret third thing". The world is lovely in colour instead of black and white
