And this is why, whenever I see someone saying "men bad. Men inherently evil," i do a quick search of the term "transandrophobia" on their blog because they are always, without exception, wildly transphobic as soon as it comes to the specific type of trans person they don't put on a pedestal.

nothing to say / the story so far

i dont think KNow Your Meme gets enough credit for how seriously they archive information. i use them as a historical research source constantly. i personally have never found any false information on their site, im sure they make mistakes and i just havent personally seen any because i havent happened to be well-versed in the particular event where the error was made, but the format of their research is extremely citation-heavy. this has been especially true of how they link to tumblr posts that originated memes etc. no one else is keeping track of this information in this way

new creature in the house

*sees a beloved mutual in the notes* hi honey

hope is a skill

hope is a weapon you are trained to wield

favourite additions

You cannot hide this in the tags, bestie. This is too lovely to keep a secret.

I was inspired.

I was also inspired

Even if you were a difficult child, you didn't deserve to be hurt.

I hope this message reaches all the neurodiverse and disabled people who were made to feel like their abuse was justified because they had "behaviors".

While this message is true for every child, you are who I had in mind when I wrote it.

my awesome thing

hi max I painted your awesome thing

Feels weird to say this but please don't feed my art into any AI generator and then send me the results. I don't find it flattering.

I won't call out any names, but please don't do that. This is my one and only warning.

anyway i think people should be allowed to harm themselves. full stop. it's their choice. if they wanna stop and seek help that's fine but they shouldn't be forced to do so. hell

Bodily 👏 anatomy 👏 applies 👏 to 👏 making 👏 unsafe 👏 decisions 👏

Someone doing something unsafe doesn't give anyone else the right to take control away from the person. You can try to help them cope in other ways, but straight up taking away their bodily anatomy is fucked up beyond measure. And if they don't want your help? Then dont force it on them!! It's that simple!!

For most apps, when you get a message notification tapping on it opens the message in the app, or lets you reply within the notification, or at worst just dismisses it.

For tumblr, it blocks the sender immediately. I've accidentally blocked 3 people this way in the past 24hrs.

Tumblr, why.

how it all feels lately

*said with so much love in my heart that it's full to bursting* hey I had a lot of fun last time would you like to hang out again sometime soon? :)

One of the first things I noticed when I met my beloved was a slightly bitter herbal smell about them. I am a creature who generally always noticed smells, especially on prospective romantic partners. It wasn’t unpleasant but it wasn’t a smell I was familiar with. I wondered what I was smelling. This was quickly clarified when I visited their home for the first time. The whole home had a foreign aroma.

I asked what it was and got a blank stare from all the inhabitants who just didn’t register anymore before my beloved went, “Oooooh, the herbs!”

They brought me over to a huge pot of what appeared to be boiled bark, roots, and sticks. It certainly did not appear edible.

They explained that as part of their degree they were learning Chinese medicine, a large component of which is herbal decoctions. I started out very skeptical but over the course of our relationship I slowly believed more and more in the power of a good herbal formula.

Herbs are bitter and annoying to fit into your life but damn they’re incredible. My herbs were the only thing holding me together before I got my various diagnoses. Now that I’m more or less functional I don’t have to take them, but my beloved decided to go on a formula for the fatigue they’ve been having.

We joked that we hoped our roommate Buck didn’t mind the smell especially since he’d just had to change his body wash due to our negative reaction.

The first morning my beloved cooked up herbs the house filled with the familiar and distinctly bitter tang.

Buck came upstairs that morning and asked, “Y’all make French toast?”

One of the things about becoming an adult and understanding where your parents were coming from a lot better, is that sometimes you can also follow that line of thinking back to where the miscommunications happened in the first place and do better with the younger people in your own life.

Like, it can be tempting to just leave it there. You understand now why Mom would get so exasperated with asking you to set the table, it's one little chore to help the whole dinner process run smoothly, especially at those hectic final stages of a family meal where everything is getting ready to serve.

Why didn't you understand this before? Well, because you didn't appreciate the work that was going into dinner. But don't stop there! Why didn't you appreciate it? Obviously you're not just the type to never empathize or get where other people are coming from, or else you wouldn't now be going, gee I understand Mom a lot better.

Stick with it and you might find that the problem was actually that Mom would just bark at you all in the chaos to get that table set, interrupting whatever other thing you were doing. She probably did that because she was distracted by all the other stuff she was doing, but from your own perspective you were just going about your own business and got this job thrust upon you with no warning and not even any politeness, making you sullen and resentful because no one likes to be treated that way.

From your adult perspective you might see where Mom was coming from and understand that she was just harried, but if you combine that with the child's perspective of not being communicated with like a person but instead barked at like a dog, you can go, hm, yes I see. I'll ask my kids to set the table before I'm at the chaotic final stages.

Then when your kids don't set the table because they have "plenty of time" and you end up hollering at them anyway, you can go, y'know, I told you to do this half an hour ago, and when they go yes but I got distracted, you can go this has happened the last twenty times what is going on with you, and they can go I don't know, and you can figure out that they have ADHD symptoms and get them a diagnosis and medication and then realize that actually you also have ADHD symptoms and so, in fact, did Mom, and wow that's an entire family curse you've just sort of unravelled! Good job!

installing steam on mint, let's see how it goes